How many couples have fallen into such a state in their lives? This kind of relationship between husband and wife, which lacks intimacy and communication, cannot help but make people deeply regret. Let's dive into the reasons behind these phenomena.
1. "There is no x in bed, no speech under the bed", the degree of indifference of this husband and wife relationship is shocking. When sex disappears in marriage and daily communication becomes scarce, the relationship is undoubtedly in crisis. Apathy in bed can stem from the stress of life, the exhaustion of work, or the resentment and disappointment of both parties towards each other. The silence under the bed may be the neglect and alienation of each other's feelings.
2. "If you have something to say, you basically don't contact if you have nothing to do", this kind of communication is very dangerous in the relationship between husband and wife. Communication in marriage should be a norm, not just a means of solving problems. When both parties only contact each other when they need each other, the relationship is difficult to maintain. Lack of daily care and greetings can make each other feel lonely and unvalued.
3. "The occasional marital life at night is just a routine", in this case, sex life has lost its original meaning. Sex is a very important part of the relationship, it is not only a physical satisfaction, but also an emotional communication. When sex becomes mechanical and routine, it can be difficult for both partners to feel each other's love and warmth.
4. "Not divorced, sleeping separately, and living improvisably for the sake of the children", this kind of marriage relationship maintained for the sake of the children is also very painful. When there is no affection between the husband and wife, but they make do with it for the sake of the child, the relationship will only make both the partner and the child feel painful. It is also difficult for children to feel the warmth and happiness of the family when they grow up in such a family environment.
5. "It's not right to talk to others and be kind, but it's not right to talk to your own family", this phenomenon is also very common in husband and wife relationships. When both parties are polite and respectful to outsiders, but are critical and accusatory towards each other, the relationship has fallen into a vicious circle. Both parties should learn to maintain peace of mind in the family and respect and understand each other's feelings.
6. "Even if the two sleep in the same bed, they play their own games and do not communicate", in this case, the relationship between husband and wife has become strangers. When both parties sleep in the same bed but play their own games, without communication and interaction, the relationship has lost its intimacy and warmth. Both parties should learn to put down their phones and other electronic devices before bed, spend more time with each other, and share each other's lives and feelings.
7. "No hugs, no kisses, even holding hands between husband and wife has become a luxury", this kind of husband and wife relationship that lacks intimate gestures is also very sad. Hugging, kissing, and holding hands are the most basic intimate gestures between couples, and they can enhance mutual affection and trust. When these intimate gestures disappear in the marriage, the feelings of both parties will gradually fade.
8. "Turning the home into a temple, with the abbot on one side and the master on the other", this metaphor is a very apt description of the indifference and estrangement of the relationship between husband and wife. When both parties treat home as a place without emotion and warmth, the home has lost its meaning. Both parties should work together to create a warm and harmonious family atmosphere, so that each other can feel the warmth and happiness of home.
The reasons behind these couples' relationship phenomena that lack intimacy and communication are varied, but they are all related to the emotional neglect and alienation of each other. In order to improve the situation, both parties should learn to strengthen communication and exchange to enhance mutual understanding and trust, and also focus on cultivating intimate gestures and emotional expression habits to make the marriage full of love and warmth.