In this complex world, love is always unpredictable.
It's like a cocktail, full of colour and flavour, intoxicating and often confusing.
Especially for female friends, love is a sweet and bitter gift. We often inadvertently fall into the whirlpool of love, but forget to distinguish the truth from the fake.
Today, I want to talk to you about a topic: those times, men only think of looking for you, this is not love you at all, don't be stupid.
We all long to have a sincere love and spend every day and night hand in hand with our beloved.
But the reality is often not like this, some people always think of you when they need you, is this kind of relationship really love? Perhaps, this is just a kind of use, a kind of comfort when you are lonely.
First of all, we need to understand what true love is. True love is a two-way street, it is the mutual attraction and collision of two people's hearts, and it is the hope and possibility of seeing the future in each other.
It will not fade away with the passage of time, nor will it be alienated by distance. True love is inclusive, understanding, and supportive, and it does not need any external conditions to maintain, only two true hearts are opposite.
However, this is not the case for some men.
They always think of you when they need you, such as when they are lonely and empty, when they need someone to keep them company, when they are in trouble and need help.
At this time, they may be warm and caring for you, making you mistakenly think that this is love.
But in reality, it's just a short-lived, superficial enthusiasm that once they've gotten past this stage, they'll chill off at you or even disappear.
Such men, they don't really take you to heart. They are simply using your kindness and enthusiasm to meet their own needs.
They won't care about your feelings and won't think about your future. They only have their own interests and needs in mind, and you are just a passer-by in their lives.
So, how do you distinguish such a man? You just have to take a closer look at their behavior and attitude. For example, do they reach out to you often?
Will they care about your feelings and thoughts, will they lend a helping hand when you need them, and if the answer is no, then it is likely that they only think of you when they need you.
In addition, there are some famous quotes that can help us understand the problem better. For example, "True love is silent, but action is sound." (Shakespeare)
A man who truly loves you will prove his love with his actions, instead of thinking of you only when he needs to.
Another example, "Love is not to possess, but to give." (Rabindranath Tagore)
A man who truly loves you will be willing to give everything for you, not only approach you when you have value in him.
Of course, we can't generalize. Some men may indeed be less adept at expressing their feelings because of their personality or for other reasons.
However, that doesn't mean they don't love you. We need to gain insight into their inner world through observation and communication in order to make accurate judgments.
summary
In this world full of temptations and uncertainties, we all need to keep a clear head to distinguish between true and fake love. Men who always think of you when they need you are most likely not really in love with you.
They are simply using your kindness and enthusiasm to meet their own needs. We should not be fooled by their sweet words and fleeting enthusiasm, but we should feel with our hearts whether they are genuine to you.
Love is beautiful, but it also requires us to manage and maintain it with our hearts.
When we meet someone who truly loves us, we should cherish this affection and put effort and sweat into it. At the same time, we must also learn to protect ourselves and not be easily hurt by those who are hypocritical.
"Love is the spark of life, the sublimation of friendship, and the coincidence of hearts. (Shakespeare)
May we all find the love that truly belongs to us and spend every good time hand in hand with our beloved.