In life, everyone is inseparable from the interaction and cooperation with others. In the circle in which we live, human feelings and interpersonal communication are like a mirror, reflecting our attitude towards being a person and doing things.
Some people have their own unique charm in dealing with the world, with square and round, open and relaxed, which makes people appreciate and appreciate.
Looking behind it, I found that they all did these three things right.
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There is a breadth of vision, and there is no dispute between words
Due to the different living circumstances and experiences of each person, there are different standards for judging some things, which may be positive or negative.
Some people look at problems in depth and handle things thoroughly, while others are short-sighted and only focus on the surface of problems and do not investigate the inside.
Friend Xiao Li, with a wide vision and insight, can always grasp the core of the problem, in a word. When chatting with people, if there are people who disagree with him in public, he does not argue with them about right and wrong, nor does he try to change their opinions.
He said that different positions and viewpoints will lead to differences in the level at which problems are viewed and solutions to problems will be different. If we blindly argue and debate, not only will we not change the way others act, but it will easily lead to unnecessary conflicts.
Because of this, he has hardly had any unnecessary friction with others at work, and he does his job wholeheartedly and gets along very well with his colleagues.
With good popularity and strong work ability, he is quite appreciated by the leaders in the company, and among our group of friends, he is the fastest promotion and salary increase.
Retreating without fighting is a kind of great wisdom.
Not fighting is an attitude, not falling into the quagmire of competitiveness, showing one's own ethics and code of conduct, but also respect for oneself. Wise people concentrate on the improvement of their own abilities, and do not take irrelevant discussions and judgments to heart, let alone quarrel with people with different opinions, and force sameness.
When the cognition is different, it is good to not say much, not to correct, and to stand firm on your own position. Seek common ground while reserving differences, harmony but difference. Considering from the other person's point of view, respecting the thoughts of others is also a kind of tolerance.
The world is full of living beings, and everyone has their own way of survival, with different styles, which also constitute a colorful human world.
Talking to people is not right or wrong, whether you win or lose, looking at everything with a neutral attitude, maintaining inner peace, and living your own style will also win the respect of others.
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Treat people with tolerance and do not ask for criticism
Whether it is daily affairs or when there are contradictions and disputes, often change positions to think, be more considerate of others, and after a long time, you will find that the road to the future will be smoother and smoother.
The story between my cousin and my upstairs neighbor is a clear proof of this.
Last year, when a neighbor went out of his house, the water pipe in his house suddenly broke, and the water flowed for a whole night without anyone knowing, and his cousin's new house downstairs also suffered, with water stains on the walls and ceiling.
When the neighbor returned, he apologized to his cousin, saying that if the house wanted to be repaired, he would bear the corresponding costs. Although the cousin was very heartbroken, he did not blame the other party aggressively, but said kindly, no one is willing to do such a thing, so let's stop here.
The cousin did not ask for compensation, but accepted the situation from the perspective of understanding, closed the matter with a tolerant attitude, and not only did not cause conflicts and affect the relationship between neighbors, but also won the appreciation of the neighbors. Later, the two families often helped each other and became friends.
Tolerance is open-mindedness, more tolerance means more harmony, tolerance of others is also kind to yourself. It is an intangible wealth that will appreciate in the accumulation of time, transforming the spiritual value into material power, and it is like a green light to help us go unhindered on the road of life and work, and go straight to the distance.
The heart is one foot wide, and the road is one foot wide. On the road of life, maintaining a generous attitude towards people and things can not only resolve hatred and complaints, but also reflect one's self-cultivation, so that the mind is more open-minded and the soul is sublimated.
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There is a measure for small talk, and there is no talk about other people's private affairs
Whether in life or in the workplace, some interpersonal conflicts often come from "gossip behind the scenes", everyone knows that "trouble comes from the mouth", but it is easier said than done, some people always love to stare at other people's private affairs, comment on their heads, and talk about it wantonly.
"Gossip" is not nutritious, and it is easy to provoke right and wrong if you talk too much. If you touch the bottom line of others because of this, it will bring unexpected trouble to yourself.
My colleague Xiaohua usually likes to gossip and chat. That day, I heard about a colleague's private life, so I told everyone a joke. Who knows that the speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart. A few days later, Xiaohua was "interviewed" by the leader and told her to focus on work.
Xiaohua was very surprised at the time, and he didn't know what was wrong. Later, I learned that the colleague who was discussed heard about it overheard about it and was very angry, thinking that Xiaohua was deliberately embarrassing herself and making a fool of herself in public, so she found an excuse to sue the leader.
When interacting with others, you must grasp the proportions and boundaries of your speech, and do not let yourself fall into unprovoked disturbances.
Especially when speaking in front of others, not talking about the rights and wrongs of others, and not spreading other people's private affairs at will, is not only a respect for others, but also reflects one's own quality.
Otherwise, once you are a little careless, it will catch fire, and the gains outweigh the losses.
"Sitting quietly is always thinking about one's own faults, and gossiping is not about others. "Always be cautious in what you say and do, have a sense of boundaries in your words, and have a scale in your actions, which is the moral code that everyone should follow.
"The insight of the world is all knowledge, and the practice of human feelings is the article. "Sophisticated human affection is the kindness and emotional intelligence that you practice. The way we talk and do things shows our emotional intelligence and wisdom.
People with high emotional intelligence are good at cultivating their ability to do things from the world's sophisticated human feelings, and they are familiar with experience, which not only makes people feel like a spring breeze, but also makes them feel at ease, making the road of life wider and wider.
May each of us be an emotionally intelligent, quality, and popular person in the classroom of life.