The Book of Changes says: "The word 'Shang' plus a vertical is 'stop', and the word 'stop' is added a horizontal to 'positive'." ”
When encountering difficulties, only by going up can we get out of the predicament;
When you encounter troubles, you can only go further by knowing how to stop.
The biggest difference between people is not that they are smart and stupid, rich and poor, but whether they have a correct mentality.
What kind of mindset you have, what kind of person you will become.
The best way to live in this life is hidden in these three words.
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on, that is, positive.
I wonder if there is such a person around you:
They always complain about the unsatisfactory life and complain that they have no chance.
But when the opportunity really arises, I don't want to do it, I don't want to be motivated, I just want to be content with the status quo.
There is a saying, "You can never wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep." ”
A person who doesn't want to go up can't be helped by anyone.
Eisenhower, a young man, often played card games with his family.
One day after dinner, he played cards with his family as usual.
This time, he was particularly unlucky, and every time he drew a very bad card.
At first, he just complained a little, but later, he couldn't bear it anymore, so he started the young master's temper.
The mother on the side couldn't stand it anymore, and said:
"Since you want to play cards, you have to play with the cards in your hand, whether they are good or bad.
Good luck can't happen to you!"
Eisenhower didn't listen, and was still angry.
The mother then said: "Life is the same as this game of cards, no matter whether the cards in your hand are good or bad, you must hold them, and you must face them."
What you can do is to calm down your impetuous mood, then take it seriously, play your cards well, and strive to achieve the best results.
Playing cards like this, treating life like this is meaningful!"
Eisenhower has always kept his mother's words in mind and motivated himself to be aggressive.
In this way, he moved forward step by step, becoming a lieutenant colonel, commander in chief of the Allied forces, and finally ascended to the presidency of the United States.
"Almost any situation, whether good or bad, is influenced by our attitude toward it," Sinica said. ”
No one's life will be smooth sailing, and there will always be various problems in life.
People who are not motivated will complain and eventually stand still;
Motivated people will fight for it and eventually get out of it.
You know, no hard work, no gain.
Although those who are motivated may not always succeed, those who are not motivated will not be able to succeed.
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Stop, that is, stop loss in time.
Some people say:
"90% of the misfortunes in life are due to unwillingness. ”
Indeed it is.
Too many people don't know how to stop losses in time, can't let go of those people and things, and finally make themselves physically and mentally exhausted.
I've seen a story:
A professor picked up a cup with water and asked the audience:
"Guess how much this glass of water weighs?"
Everyone answered:
"50 grams, 100 grams, 125 grams. ”
The professor said:
"I don't know how heavy it is, but it's not heavy to hold it now.
What happens if I hold it like this for a few minutes?"
Everyone said:
"Not really. ”
The professor asked again:
"And what if I hold it for an hour?"
Some people say:
"Hands will be sore. ”
The professor said:
"That's right, what if I take it all day?"
There was a lot of discussion in the audience, and one audience member said:
"The hand will definitely be numb, and if it's serious, the muscles of the hand will spasm, so you have to go to the hospital. ”
The professor said to the audience:
"So how can I not make my hands sore and my muscles spasm. ”
Everyone said in unison:
"Put down the water glass!"
The professor nodded and said:
"Yes, actually, the pain in life is sometimes like a cup in my hand.
It doesn't matter if we are in pain for a few minutes, but if you think about it for a long time, it can eat away at your mental strength.
Over time, your spirit may break down.
You can't do anything then. ”
The reason why people are miserable is because they can't let go.
I like this quote very much:
"The state of mind is taken apart, that is, the heart is bigger. ”
If the heart is bigger, there will be a lot less trouble, and the mentality will naturally be better.
For those things that make you miserable, instead of dragging them in pain, it is better to let go in style.
The best way to face troubles and pain is not to argue with reason, but to stop losses in time.
People can only live a chic life if they know how to stop loss.
In this way, we can not be happy with things and not be sad with ourselves.
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Positive, both correct mentality.
A person's life is a spiritual practice.
If the heart is not right, things will not go well;
心若正,事顺意。
The most important thing is to have the right mindset.
A positive attitude will create life;
A negative mindset will consume life.
In ancient times, there was a scholar who went to Beijing for the third time to take the exam and lived in the store where he lived during the first two exams.
That night, he had two dreams in a row.
The first dream was to plant sorghum on the wall, and the second time was when it was raining heavily, and he wore a hat and an umbrella.
The next day, the scholar went to the elder to interpret the dream.
When the elder heard this, he said, "You better pack your bags and go home."
Think about it, isn't it in vain to plant sorghum on the high wall, and isn't it superfluous to wear a hat and an umbrella?"
The scholar was disheartened, went back to the store to pack his baggage, and prepared to go home.
When the shopkeeper saw this, he was very surprised and asked him:
"The imperial examination is going to be tomorrow, why are you going home today?"
The scholar told the shopkeeper about the dream interpretation.
The shopkeeper said: "In my opinion, the elder has not solved the right problem, and the guest officer will definitely be able to go to high school this time."
If you think about it, isn't it 'high school' to plant sorghum on the wall?
Isn't wearing a hat and playing an umbrella 'steady and stable'?"
When the scholar heard this, he felt that the shopkeeper's words were more reasonable, so he took the exam with high spirits, and the result was a top spot.
Faced with the same dilemma, different mentalities will have different results.
People with a negative mindset will be in a hurry and defeated by difficulties;
People with a positive mindset are calm and calm, and eventually overcome difficulties.
As the English poet Byron said:
"A pessimistic person lives and dies, but an optimistic person lives forever. ”
No matter what problems and dilemmas you face, as long as you can correct your mentality, the results will not be bad.
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There is a saying: "The heart goes with the thoughts, the body goes with the fate, although people can't live by their mood, they can live by their mentality." ”
When a person lives in this world, whether he is happy or unhappy is often a matter of mentality.
Only by knowing how to grasp the opportunity;
Only when you know how to stop will you live freely;
If you know how to be right, life will be smooth.
Only with the sun in your heart can you encounter a clear water.
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