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Many people say that in a family, the role of the mother is very important, and she has an absolutely important responsibility for the stability of the family and the growth of her children.
In other words, in a family, if the child is unproductive, the mother should have an unshirkable responsibility.
When mothers have the following three "poor habits", it will have a profound impact on the future of their children, and even delay their lives.
01: Resting on one's laurels, lawless
There are a considerable number of young people who do not achieve what is seen in the world and are always mediocre, but who observe their mothers, instead of lazy women, but working women who live diligently.
However, these mothers have a "poor habit", that is, they want to improve their lives but are unable to do so, and they are stuck in their own lives and cannot break through their existing limitations.
They are conservative in their mindsets, reluctant to accept new ideas, and afraid that the cost of trial and error will be too high, making them increasingly unable to adapt to new forms of innovation.
Sometimes, these middle-aged women do think that a lot of new things are not practical and practical.
Because of the lack of the ability to discriminate, it is better to follow the steps than to remedy mistakes.
Over time, the solid-state way of thinking they have chosen and become accustomed to has become a shackle that restricts their progress and transcendence.
This is an era of rapid iteration and iteration, and if you can't keep up with the times, you won't be able to retreat.
These mothers instill this self-restraint in their children, so that they cannot live as they wish, imprison the minds of all family members, and prevent them from winning in the increasingly fierce competition.
02: Delusional self-esteem, immorality
In some families with better family conditions, the hostess often thinks that she has a higher status and has the idea of despising others.
If we do not criticize and criticize their thinking, but only discuss this common phenomenon, we will find that under their influence, children are often either arrogant or mother-in-law, and have no opinions.
In front of such mothers, others are inferior to themselves and their children.
Therefore, there is a suspicion of everyone, thinking that they are omnipotent, and everyone else needs to sigh for themselves.
Just like in the hit TV series "Chenghuan Ji" this time, Xin's mother is such a mother.
Xin's mother looked down on her son's girlfriend Mai Chenghuan, and united her daughter to embarrass Chenghuan and her mother, wanting to make their mother and daughter retreat, and what Xin's mother and her daughter did made her son and husband feel that it was not enough.
Of course, they feel that Xin's mother and her daughter have ruined their good deeds, but in the eyes of the audience, they are all arrogant female figures, very contemptuous of ordinary children, although their families are rich, but they are very poor spiritually.
On the contrary, if a mother can recognize her own shortcomings and limitations, and pass on the appropriate amount of self-reflection and hard work to her children, the whole family will flourish.
03: Seeing profit and forgetting righteousness, not doing good
If the mother is a villain who forgets her righteousness, then the chances of the child being kind to others will be very small.
In life, having a sense of morality and conscience is more important than how much wealth you have at the moment.
However, many people are disturbed by this or that experience, and end up becoming mercenary, which also has a bad impact on the atmosphere of the whole family.
Those who do not do good may gain benefits temporarily, but in the long run, they will gradually decline, and all the property obtained through improper means has already been secretly marked with a price.
And children who grow up in this environment will also believe in utilitarianism and selfish desires, and lack compassion and responsibility for others.
Being virtuous and talented may not be able to achieve worldly achievements, but being virtuous and talentless will definitely pay a price.
For children, the influence of parents is huge and far-reaching.
If the mother is upright, humble, self-aware, and innovative, then the children she educates will not be too bad.
Of course, for the education of their children, the father should also be responsible, only the family works together, will educate outstanding people with responsibility, ideals, beliefs, and bottom lines.
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