Writer: Easter Egg Mom
Seeing this topic, the easter egg father originally wanted to write it, but there are some words that the easter egg mother wants to say.
A few days ago, the famous writer Yu Hua gave a suggestion to female students during the live broadcast: I don't care about talking about friends, but if you get married in the future, it is best to find boys in Jiangsu and Zhejiang, who can cook, do housework, and have no machismo.
Seriously, the first thought of the easter egg mother is: It's very well said, don't say it again, besides, Jiangsu and Zhejiang men are in short supply, how can our local Jiangsu and Zhejiang women be rectified?
Just kidding.
Speaking of which, the advice given by Mr. Yu Hua to everyone is indeed very pertinent.
Yes, yes.
But there are also mistakes.
Let's start with that
"Can cook, can do housework, no machismo. ”
It is actually right to find a partner according to such a standard.
To put it mildly, men with machismo may discriminate against women in their bones, or they have a little "disrespect" for women.
The terrible thing is that in such a family, women will disrespect themselves, because they have long recognized such machismo.
The college roommate is Qianqian, a little girl from Jiangsu, the only daughter in the family, and her parents hope that she can stay by her side after graduation, so she found a partner on a blind date at home.
This boy is from other places, his parents have been doing a small business in the local area for a long time, have a house and a car, and settled in Jiangsu.
In general, both families are satisfied, and they can be regarded as a good match, Qianqian and this boy get along very happily, and they soon got married.
After marriage, a daughter was born.
The in-laws mean that they will have a second child, and they will help take care of it.
Qianqian and her parents didn't think too much about it, and they also thought about having a second child, so they could have their daughter's surname.
But the fact is that Qianqian and her parents thought of their in-laws too well, and after seeing that the second child was still a girl, her in-laws immediately proposed to have a third child, saying that there are many families with three children now.
Only then did Qianqian and her parents realize that something was wrong: in-laws' family, this is wanting a boy!
The mother-in-law no longer hid this, and said directly: "I gave birth to a son in my first child, and you failed to give birth to these two children, and now it's not that you can't have three children, how can you do without a son!"
For this reason, Qianqian quarreled with her in-laws and husband, and took her two daughters back to her parents' house directly.
Seriously, in this kind of thing, there is a bit of a disagreement.
On the one hand, I think that boys and girls are very good;
On the one hand, I think it's better to be a boy.
As a local Jiangsu and Zhejiang woman, the easter egg mother really wants to say: Many Jiangsu and Zhejiang men do know how to do housework, can cook, have no machismo, are not patriarchal, and even a little female-oriented.
This is the result of years of education, but also the result of years of family environmental influences.
In their bones, it is their respect for women.
Because I can't see my mother and wife busy alone, I will go to help;
Because I feel that I have a sense of responsibility for the family, I never shirk the housework;
Because they want a more harmonious family environment, they will respect each other.
When I first got married, the easter egg mother still complained about her husband in the sister group (there are many friends from other provinces): procrastination in housework, not sweeping the floor, cooking a little idle, etc.
Then a little sister from Shaanxi Province was surprised and said, "Your husband actually does housework!"
What's wrong with housework?
Shouldn't it?
This is not only the cognition of girls on our side, but also the cognition of boys and parents.
It's not just the father who does housework, many times, there is a son at home, and he is also trained to do housework early, and he feels sorry for his mother, and he will also feel sorry for his wife in the future.
Again, it's not right
Seriously, Mr. Yu Hua's statement makes people feel that they are here to "pick melons".
In fact, relatively speaking, the girls here may be a little squeamish.
Seriously, the easter egg mother is also ten fingers do not touch the spring water, as an only daughter, I was also pampered by my parents to grow up.
There is a basic ability to live independently, but not much.
Seriously, so is Easter Egg Dad.
But after getting married, it was the easter egg father who learned to cook, and it was the mother-in-law who made this request.
The mother-in-law said to the easter egg father: "It's not a thing for you to order takeout all the time, learn to cook by yourself!"
Then, the mother-in-law taught the Easter egg father to cook, including the supplementary food for the Easter egg when he was a child, which he made.
Some people say that it was I who met a good mother-in-law.
However, many of our mothers-in-law here seem to be like this.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along amicably.
The premise of friendship is that daughter-in-law and mother-in-law also respect each other, give each other space when they don't need it, and help each other when they need it.
However, if you come to find a diligent boy who takes care of his family purely under the idea of "picking fruits", then regional differences and different views are also easy to cause family conflicts.
A neighbor boy in Easter Egg's mother's hometown married a girl from out of town.
Before getting married, the woman's family asked for a bride price of 300,000 yuan and gave it;
After getting married, I asked my mother-in-law to help take care of the baby, and I brought it.
However, at the instigation of her mother's family, she asked her daughter to pay for her younger brother to buy a house, and she said it nicely: You don't need to go out all of them, as a sister and brother-in-law, you have to be interesting.
What does it mean, how much does it mean?
200,000.
The mother-in-law refused, and the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law had a big fight.
The mother-in-law said: "We are not a rich and noble family, I have this money, but I keep it for the elderly, we don't need you to support the elderly." If I don't have it, this money will be left for you, not for your brother!
The daughter-in-law scolded the people on our side for being selfish.
It's really a long time to see.
In fact, whether it is a man from Jiangsu and Zhejiang, or a woman from Jiangsu and Zhejiang, they all hope that this small family is happy, and they are all working hard for the happiness of this small family.
However, if you just want to "pick fruits", then it is easy to cause family disharmony.
Write at the end
In fact, whether it is falling in love or getting married, there is no way to "make a conclusion" on this matter.
Because there are too many factors that determine marriage.
However, one thing is certain:
Jiangsu and Zhejiang men must also have scumbags;
Boys from other places must have excellent ones.
It can only be said that there is a problem of probability.
There are daughters at home, we should not be confined to people in a certain place, but let girls know what kind of person they want to find and what kind of life they want to live in the future, and then, work hard in this direction, it's okay.
There are a lot of good boys.
However, there is only one excellent self!