As a 33-year-old working woman, my desire for a love life has gradually risen. Although the career is successful, there is still a gap in the heart that needs to be filled by someone who can be with you for a lifetime. So, when a friend suggested that I try a blind date, I didn't hesitate to say yes.
"Hello, I'm Xu Xiaoyan. Nice to meet you. I stepped forward and held out my hand with a warm smile on my face.
"Hello, I'm Liu Zhiyuan. The man stood up and shook my hand, his tone a little stiff.
We exchanged a few pleasantries, and soon fell silent. I couldn't help but look at the man in front of me: he wasn't handsome, but he gave him a sense of calm and reliability. However, he seems to be a bit introverted and reticent, and it is difficult to grasp his personality and ideas.
"I heard that you are the general manager of a company, you must be very busy at work, right?" To break the silence, I took the initiative to ask about his work.
"Yes, I work for a manufacturing company. It's true that I'm busy at work, but it's also my own career. What about you? What do you do?" His tone seemed to be softer than it had been earlier.
As soon as the topic changed, the conversation between the two became lively. We talked about each other's work and life, and gradually, I realized that this man was not as introverted as he seemed on the surface. He revealed an elegant and introverted temperament in his conversation, which made me feel a little moved.
At this moment, he suddenly changed the subject: "I think the lifestyles and values of the two of us should be very different. "
I couldn't help but be stunned and asked suspiciously, "What do you mean?"
"I'm busy and conservative. You are in the creative industry, and the lifestyle should be more avant-garde and fashionable. I'm afraid I won't be able to meet your requirements. There was a hint of worry in his tone.
I smiled and tried to allay his concerns: "Actually, we are not as far apart as you think. No matter how busy I am at work, my style of life is very simple. As long as you can give me enough trust and respect, we can fully tolerate and understand each other. "
I'm a little confused, I've never imagined myself as a fancy dressed, avant-garde lifestyle. On the contrary, I always thought that my style of life was very traditional and simple. Did Liu Zhiyuan misunderstand me? I frowned slightly, and tapped my fingers lightly on the tabletop, as if pondering the deep meaning of his words.
But Liu Zhiyuan's heart at this time was in chaos. He was taught from an early age to marry as late as possible, because their ancestors had a very bad family history. Years ago, one of his distant relatives killed his wife and son in a fit of rage after a marital problem, and later committed suicide, smearing the entire family with a horrific history. Since then, the family has tried to avoid early marriage for fear of causing more misfortune.
Although Liu Zhiyuan is now 39 years old, there is still a strong sense of fear in his heart. He was afraid that if he entered the marriage too early, he would bring ruin to himself and the other party. And although I am over 33 years old, I am still too young in his opinion.
I watched his expression, and I saw that he clasped his hands tightly together, as if he was suppressing some emotion in his heart. His gaze wandered, sometimes looking out the window, sometimes lowering his eyes. The corners of his mouth were always tightly pursed, and the whole person revealed a depressing atmosphere.
"I know you may have misunderstood me. I spoke softly, softly and forcefully: "I'm not too avant-garde, on the contrary, my way of life is traditional and simple. I value the precipitation and tolerance of feelings more than the freshness of the moment. "
I smiled bitterly to myself, I have also thought deeply about the age gap. However, after years of life experience, I am no longer as blind as when I was younger, but have a deeper understanding of feelings. "The age gap is important, but what is more important is whether there is enough understanding and trust between two people. As long as we truly love each other, no generation gap is a problem. "
Liu Zhiyuan seemed to be moved by my words, and finally showed a hint of relief on his face. But soon, he shook his head again, his eyes gloomy: "I know you're good, but I'm really a very traditional person, and I have too many worries and worries about marriage." I'm afraid I won't be able to satisfy you, and I'm afraid I'll hurt you. "
I felt a sense of powerlessness in my heart, was this going to end like this? At this moment, I suddenly realized that maybe I should look at this matter from a different perspective.
"Mr. Liu, you said that you have a lot of concerns about marriage, so can you tell me what your concerns are?" I smiled and said sincerely: "If we can understand each other's thoughts, we may be able to find a solution." "
Liu Zhiyuan was stunned for a moment, as if he didn't expect me to ask like this. After a while, he spoke slowly, as if he had made up his mind.
He paused, his expression gloomy, as if recalling the painful past. I held my breath and waited patiently for him to continue.
My heart tightened, and I vaguely guessed how it would end.
"Yes, on that day, he killed his wife and son, and then committed suicide, smearing the entire family with a horrific black history. Liu Zhiyuan let out a long sigh, his hands clenched into fists, as if suppressing the pain in his heart.
I couldn't help but feel a burst of sadness in my heart, I didn't expect this seemingly calm and introverted man to carry such a heavy burden in his heart. I subconsciously reached out and gently placed my hand on the back of his hand, hoping to give him some comfort.
My heart tightened, and I finally understood the reason for his previous hesitation and withdrawal. It turned out that he was not prejudiced against me, but he was afraid of hurting me. I couldn't help but be struck by his kind and responsible side.
"Mr. Liu, I understand your concerns. However, the past cannot be changed, we can only learn from it and then look forward bravely. I looked him firmly in the eyes and said in a firm and powerful tone: "You are not that relative of yours, you are a kind and upright person." As long as you are brave enough, you will be able to overcome your inner fears and live a happy life. "
Liu Zhiyuan seemed to be encouraged by my words, and a glimmer of hope was rekindled in his eyes. But soon, he fell back into deep thought.
I took a deep breath and said firmly, "The generation gap exists, but that doesn't mean we can't love each other. As long as we treat each other with enough patience and understanding, any obstacles are not a problem. "
"And you don't have to get too attached to the number of years. What matters is whether we have enough life experience and wisdom to manage a relationship. I can tell you responsibly that I am not much younger than you. I looked at him, and my tone was sincere and sincere.
Liu Zhiyuan's eyes were a little shaken, as if he was moved by my words. At that moment, I mustered up the courage to put my grip on the back of his hand again and shook his hand firmly.
"Mr. Liu, I know that your heart is full of worries and fears. But you can't let fear dominate your life. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the confronting of fear and overcoming it. As long as you are brave enough, you will definitely be able to embrace your own happiness. "
I stared into his eyes, the melancholy and hesitation in those eyes fading and being replaced by a new determination and hope.
"You're right, maybe it's time for me to let go of the shadows of the past. He took a deep breath and his tone became more firm than ever, "I will do my best to overcome the fear in my heart and embrace the happiness that belongs to us." As long as you can give me enough trust and tolerance, we will definitely go to the end. "
I smiled, my eyes moistening a little. I never thought that this blind date trip, which should have been uneventful, would give me a taste of a man's heart. I squeezed his hand firmly and stared deeply into his eyes.
"I believe in you, and I will use all my patience and understanding to wait for the day when you will overcome your fears. When the time comes, let's embark on this new journey of life together. "
In this way, in a blind date trip that should have been ordinary, Liu Zhiyuan and I established an unprecedented spiritual fit. We all have inner gloom, but we are also willing to face and overcome them bravely.
By the time I left the café, it was already dusk. As we walked home side by side, the street lamps on the side of the road lit up one by one, and the warm light sprinkled on us seemed to add a touch of comfort and hope to this new relationship.
"Thank you for your company today, and thank you for your understanding and tolerance. Liu Zhiyuan suddenly spoke, and there was an unprecedented tenderness in his tone.
I turned my head to meet his deep eyes, and my heart couldn't help but feel hot. "No, I should thank you for your sincerity and courage. If it weren't for your confession today, we might have missed it like this. "
I nodded, motioning for him to continue. He took a deep breath, as if determined to tell the full extent of what was in his heart.
"I've been living in the shadows of the past. The shame that brought shame to our family was like a nightmare that could not be dispelled, and it hung over my heart all the time. I was afraid that I would repeat the mistakes of the past and do something unjustifiable. So, I have great fears and concerns about marriage. "
Speaking of this, his voice carried a hint of self-deprecation: "You must be very disappointed to look at my appearance, right? A 39-year-old person is still so afraid of marriage, it is really insulting to a man's body." "
I hurriedly reached out and hugged his arm, and comforted him gently, "How can you think that? Everyone has their own shadows, and the important thing is that you have the courage to face them." Your sincerity and courage today are what move me the most. "
He was stunned for a moment, then smiled with relief. "yes, if I keep living in the shadows, then I'm really losing. I should aim high, why should I be afraid of this little haze?"
I was touched by his bold words, and I couldn't help but smile. We continued our walk through the night, everything around us was shrouded in soft light, peaceful and peaceful.
"You know what? Our ancestors were a generation of martial artists. He spoke suddenly, with a hint of pride in his tone, "When I was a child, I was taught to be like them, to be resolute and courageous. It's a pity that the subsequent incident brought a heavy shadow to my psyche. "
I looked at him sideways, and saw that his heroic face became more and more heroic under the light. I never thought that this seemingly reserved and reticent man would have such a powerful power in his heart.
"So, I decided to be like the heroes of our ancestors, brave to face all the gloom in life. Only in this way can I live my own life and embrace the happiness that belongs to me. His voice was firm and powerful, as if he had made up his mind.
I was deeply impressed by his heroism, and a wave of admiration welled up in my heart. I know that this man will definitely overcome his inner fear and embrace the happiness he deserves. And I will always be by his side, with all my patience and understanding, waiting for him to completely let go of the haze of the past.
And just like that, we walked all the way down the long street. It was getting darker and darker, and the street lights were going out one by one. But in our hearts, there is a flame of hope burning brightly.
Finally, we came to a crossroads, and this is where we will part. Liu Zhiyuan stopped and looked at me solemnly.
"Xiaoyan, today is the most important day of my life. Because I have finally made up my mind to face the fear in my heart bravely and embrace the happiness that belongs to us. "
I smiled and nodded, my eyes moistening a little.
"From now on, I will use all my courage and determination to pursue this relationship. As long as you can give me enough trust and tolerance, I will definitely overcome all the gloom and walk hand in hand with you towards a happy future. He took a deep breath, his eyes steadfast and focused.
I stepped forward and hugged him tightly. At this moment, my heart was filled with great happiness and expectation. I knew that this man would be the most trustworthy person in my life.
"Well, I believe you. No matter how far the road ahead, no matter what kind of haze awaits you, I will be by your side. I whispered in his ear, my voice firm and warm, "Let's move forward bravely together and embrace the happiness that belongs to us." "