In the prosperous Tang Dynasty, Li Xiaobai was a smart and clever young man. He came from a well-to-do family, was humble and courteous, and was deeply loved by his neighbors. However, what Li Xiaobai is most proud of is not his family background and talent, but the harmonious relationship between him and his in-laws.
The marriage between Li Xiaobai and his wife Xiaomei is the fate of the two families. Although Xiaomei's family is not as wealthy as Li Xiaobai's family, she is a scholarly family with a strict family education, and Xiaomei is also knowledgeable, gentle and virtuous. After the two families became in-laws, Li Xiaobai knew the importance of interacting with his in-laws, and he always reminded himself that no matter when and where, he should pay attention to his words and deeds and avoid saying things that might hurt each other's feelings.
Once, on Li Xiaobai's father-in-law's birthday, he specially prepared a generous gift to celebrate his birthday. At the banquet, the guests were like clouds and lively. Li Xiaobai raised his glass to toast his father-in-law and said, "Father-in-law, you have a long life today, and the younger generation wishes you happiness like the East China Sea and a longevity better than Nanshan." After hearing this, the father-in-law showed a satisfied smile on his face, and praised Li Xiaobai for being sensible and filial.
However, just as the banquet was about to end, a relative lost his words after drinking and boasted about the wealth of Li Xiaobai's family, revealing his contempt for Xiaomei's family. After Li Xiaobai heard this, although he was unhappy in his heart, he knew that it was not appropriate to have a seizure at this time. He smiled slightly and said to the relative, "Money is something outside the body, and family affection is a priceless treasure." The marriage between our two families is fate, and we should cherish this friendship instead of comparing wealth. When the relative heard this, he was immediately ashamed and said no more.
After returning home, Xiaomei said to Li Xiaobai gratefully: "You really won glory for our family today and helped me out of the siege." Li Xiaobai gently held Xiaomei's hand and said gently: "We are a family, why do we need to say thanks? Besides, I always believe that sincerity and respect are the most important things in dealing with my in-laws." ”
In addition to the small episodes at this banquet, Li Xiaobai also paid special attention to avoiding saying three sentences in the process of interacting with his in-laws. The first sentence is "How is your home?" In the society of the Tang Dynasty, there was a large difference in status and wealth between families, and this sentence could easily make people have a comparison mentality, which caused unnecessary contradictions and misunderstandings. Li Xiaobai knows this very well, so he never takes the initiative to mention his family's wealth and status, but tries to communicate with his in-laws on an equal footing and share each other's lives and moods.
The second sentence is "how can you do that". In the process of interacting with in-laws, it is inevitable that there will be times when there are disagreements. However, Li Xiaobai never directly blames the other party's actions, but patiently listens to the other party's thoughts and explanations, and then puts forward his own suggestions. He believes that respect and understanding are the foundation of a good relationship, and blaming and complaining only exacerbate the conflict.
The third sentence is "I wasn't like this before". This sentence often carries a sense of self-justification and shirking responsibility, which is easy to cause people to have a sense of distrust. When Li Xiaobai interacts with his in-laws, he always treats each other honestly and has the courage to admit his mistakes and shortcomings. He believes that only by sincerely facing his own problems and working hard to correct them can he win the trust and respect of his in-laws.
It is precisely because Li Xiaobai always pays attention to his words and deeds when interacting with his in-laws and avoids saying things that may hurt each other's feelings that he can establish a harmonious relationship with his in-laws. His marriage with Xiaomei has also become even happier because of this.
Once, Li Xiaobai and Xiaomei went back to their parents' house to visit their parents. During their time at their parents' home, they not only talked with their parents about household chores, but also took the initiative to help with household chores and take care of their younger siblings. Their actions deeply gratified and touched the mother's family. The father-in-law and mother-in-law were full of praise for Li Xiaobai: "Xiaobai is really a good boy! He is both filial and sensible, and our family is really blessed!"
Hearing her parents' praise, Xiaomei felt happy in her heart. She said to Li Xiaobai gratefully: "Thank you for your dedication and tolerance all the time. We were so lucky to have met each other. Li Xiaobai responded with a smile: "Actually, we should thank fate for letting us meet." Being married to you is the greatest happiness of my life. ”
In the process of interacting with his in-laws, Li Xiaobai not only won their respect and love, but also gained many precious friendships. His story was widely circulated in the city of Chang'an and became a beautiful legend of family, friendship and love.
This story teaches us a lesson: when dealing with our in-laws, we should always maintain a humble and respectful attitude, and avoid saying things that may hurt each other's feelings. Only in this way can we build a harmonious relationship and reap the rewards of a happy life.