How terrible is the strong parental control, Zheng Shuang and Huang Haibo are not special cases, these parents are even more suffocating

Editor|Huang Yi

How to get along with children has always been a difficult problem for parents. But do you know? Sometimes, behind the seemingly glamorous and glamorous celebrity families, there are also a lot of "minefields" for getting along with children. Not all star parents can handle the parent-child relationship well, and excessive desire to control often becomes a stumbling block on the road to children's growth.

Imagine how you would feel if your mother was a "super detective" and your every move could not escape her eyes? Zhu Yuchen's mother, Zhu Xiangling, was such a "detective." Every decision made by Zhu Yuchen and every time she fell in love seemed to have nowhere to hide under her microscope. This mother, who is traditional to her bones, "guards" her son in her way, but also invisibly pushed him to the trough of his career.

Zhu Yuchen's acting career was originally starry, but he was repeatedly frustrated because of his mother's excessive interference. His love life has become a "farce". Tang Wei and Huo Siyan, these names have had scandals with Zhu Yuchen, but every relationship ended hastily because of Zhu Xiangling's strong opposition. Zhu Yuchen seems to have become synonymous with a "mom treasure man", which makes people sigh: Excessive maternal love is sometimes really a burden.

And Huang Haibo, the former "national son-in-law", also has a past of "fighting wits and courage" with his mother. Born in the compound of the military region, he was strictly disciplined by his mother since he was a child. After entering the entertainment industry, his salary, credit card, and even every consumption were in the hands of his mother. This kind of life makes Huang Haibo glamorous in front of the camera, but he feels depressed behind the camera. It wasn't until the "prostitution incident" that shocked the entertainment industry that Huang Haibo's career hit rock bottom, and he really began to reflect on his relationship with his mother.

In the entertainment industry, there is another actress whose story is equally thought-provoking. She is Guo Biting. , an actress known as the "national goddess", is always so elegant and calm in front of the camera. But you know what? Her father was so controlling over her that it was almost suffocating. Every decision of Guo Biting must be strictly checked by her father. This kind of life has made her achieve good results in her career, but it has also made her repeatedly hit a wall emotionally.

The stories of these stars may be a little far away from us, but they are like mirrors, reflecting our own problems in the parent-child relationship. As parents, we should really reflect on whether we have unintentionally become a stumbling block to our children's growth, and should we also learn to let go and give our children enough freedom and space to grow?

When we control our children excessively, we tend to ignore their inner needs and personality development. Every child is unique and has their own dreams and pursuits. As parents, it is our responsibility to steer them in the right direction, not to make decisions for them. We should learn to listen to our children's ideas, respect their choices, and give them enough support and encouragement.

Of course, letting go doesn't mean letting go. While respecting our children, we also need to teach them how to deal with difficulties and setbacks. When children encounter problems, we should give them appropriate guidance and help so that they can learn to think independently and solve problems. In this way, children can go further and further on the road of growth and become independent and confident people.

In addition, we need to learn to adjust our mindset and emotions. As parents, our emotions often affect our children. If we are always anxious, nervous or too demanding, children will also feel this pressure, which can affect their growth and development. Therefore, we must learn to maintain a peaceful mind and face the challenges and difficulties in life with a positive and optimistic attitude.

In short, getting along with children is an art that requires us to experience and comprehend it with our hearts. Let's learn from the stories of celebrities, and constantly adjust our own education methods and mentality to create a healthier and happier environment for children to grow up!

In the construction of parent-child relationship, in addition to letting go and respecting, we also need to learn to understand and accept. Children are not our appendages, they have their own thoughts, emotions and wills. When we try to impose our will on them, it often leads to contradictions and conflicts. Therefore, we need to learn to put ourselves in the child's shoes and understand their needs and feelings.

At the same time, we must also accept our children's shortcomings and mistakes. Every child makes mistakes, and this is a necessary part of growing up. As parents, we need to be patient and tolerant, and give our children the opportunity and time to correct their mistakes. Instead of blaming and punishing, this will make children feel frustrated and lost, and even affect their self-confidence and self-esteem.

In addition to understanding and acceptance, we also need to focus on communication and communication with children. Communication is an important bridge to establish a parent-child relationship, through which we can understand the child's thoughts and needs, and also let the child feel our love and support. Therefore, we need to communicate with our children as much as possible, especially when they encounter problems and difficulties, and give them enough attention and support.

Finally, we also focus on nurturing children's independence and autonomy. Children will grow up and leave us one day to face life's challenges independently. Therefore, we need to cultivate their independence and autonomy from an early age, so that they can learn to think and solve problems on their own. In this way, children can be more confident, self-reliant and self-reliant in their future lives.

In short, getting along with children is an esoteric knowledge that requires us to continue to learn and explore. Let's learn from the stories of celebrities, constantly adjust our own education methods and mentality, and create a healthier and happier environment for children to grow up! At the same time, we must also remember that every child is unique, and we must accompany them to grow up with love and patience, so that they can go further and further on the road of life and become the person they want to become.