The May Day holiday was supposed to be a good time to relax, but it became a "powder keg" for many couples.
Why?
Because in just a few days, there may be a lot of secrets that make the love boat overturn.
1. Conflicting plans
At the beginning of the holiday, you thought that you could finally lie flat at home and chase the falling episodes, but he longed for the outdoors and planned to climb mountains and wade through water.
One said:
When I finally rested, I just wanted to be quiet for a while.
Another rebuttal:
Life needs passion, you can't always be a couch potato!
Then, a debate on "stillness" and "movement" quietly kicked off.
In this case, the more party has strong expectations for the holiday, the more firepower will be in full swing when they quarrel, but in fact, behind this is the desire to accompany each other, but the expression is a bit off.
2. Unfair housework
I usually have my own work, and I can take turns cleaning on weekends.
But May Day is coming, and the housework is getting bigger and bigger like a snowball.
If you're not careful, when was the last time you washed the dishes?
I'm working so hard overtime, can't you do more?
Then began to accuse each other of the assembly.
On the surface, it is a competition for who does more and who does less, but in essence, it is a little tiredness that I hope to be more considerate of myself.
At this time, if you can jump out of the circle of housework and have a "family Olympics" with division of labor and cooperation, maybe you can have some fun.
3. Embarrassment of relatives and friends
During the holidays, it is inevitable to visit relatives or friends for a party, and some of the other party's behaviors may become a "slot" in your eyes.
He brags too much in front of his relatives, or she doesn't consider your feelings when she posts photos in Moments.
These seemingly small things can cause a lot of ripples in my heart.
Can you not always... As soon as such a sentence came out, the air was suddenly filled with subtlety.
Actually, the subtext behind this is that I want you to understand me better and respect our relationship more.
Fourth, the concept of consumption is very different
I finally took a vacation, shopping, traveling, food, everything I wanted to arrange, but when it came to money, the difference came.
You may be a "time-to-play person" who thinks that the holidays should be enjoyed;
He may be a "budget-conscious" person who thinks future planning is more important.
When it comes to this issue, it's easy to turn into "you're too wasteful" versus "you're too picky".
But in reality, this is a collision of different visions of the future of life, and what is needed is understanding and balance between the two sides.
You see, the "secret" of quarrels during the May Day holiday is nothing more than the magnifying glass effect of daily trivialities at special times.
But from another perspective, it is also a good opportunity to improve understanding and adjust the way we get along.
Every quarrel hides a deeper need and expectation for the other party.
It is better to communicate in advance before the holiday and set a small goal, for example, this year's May Day, we don't quarrel over trivial things, just how to love each other better.
Love is to learn how to treat each other more gently in the continuous running-in.
It's not terrible to quarrel, it's terrible to be unwilling to understand the deep affection behind the anger.
The May Day holiday is not so much the "peak period of quarrels", but as the "emotional escalation period", and use a little careful thinking to turn the quarrel into an opportunity to deepen the relationship!