Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
People are old, like the sunset, although there are magnificent colors, but there is no blazing light.
Entering old age, there is a lot of anxiety and uneasiness in life.
The older you get, the more physical problems you have and the worse your ability to make money.
When people are old, life is not smooth, children are not filial, there is no healthy body, and it is difficult to move an inch in life.
As a parent, the real sadness is not that you are old and have no money, but that you are stuck in the following situation.
02, being "kicked around" by his children, no one cares
A distant relative, in his eighties.
He has children and daughters, but his children have always let him live alone, and the neighbors make dumplings for him to eat during the Chinese New Year.
Later, my health was no longer able to take care of myself, and I had to be taken care of by someone.
The son said that the house was small and there was no place for his father to live. The daughter said that if she has an older brother, there is no reason for her father to live with her daughter.
The two negotiated and negotiated, and finally the person contributed a sum of money and sent the old man to a nursing home.
Not long after, the old man died, and the children looked heartbroken, but in the end, they were not filial to their parents.
Yuan Cai said: "Filial piety should not make his relatives cold, troubled, frightened, depressed, unspeakable, and hateful. ”
Some parents work hard to pull their children into adulthood, and no one can count on them when they are old.
When they have many children, they all hate the trouble of the elderly and are unwilling to spend time and energy to take care of them.
There are many brothers and sisters, and they only want to get more favors from their parents, but none of them are truly filial, and they can only be lonely in their later years.
For some people, the real sadness is that they have worked hard to raise several children, but in their old age, they are treated like a ball, "kicked around" by their children, and no one wants to care.
03. I don't have the ability to make money, and I can't take care of myself
Writer Rigo said: "Ahead of life, there is endless aging, and we fall straight into it, and there is no other choice." ”
When I am old, the biggest sorrow is that I have no ability to make money, I can't take care of myself, and my body has gone downhill.
Perhaps, I never thought that one day, it would become a very difficult thing for me to even eat and drink.
With no one around to take care of, a person desperately copes with this desperate situation.
When you don't have the ability to take care of yourself, no matter how wonderful the world is, it seems that it has nothing to do with you.
When you don't have the ability to take care of yourself, you can only envy the happiness of others and the happiness of others.
In particular, I found that I had no ability to make money, and not only did I live a burden on my family financially, but I also needed to be taken care of by my family in life.
With no income, no ability to take care of themselves, no matter who takes care of them, they will be looked down upon, neglected and wronged.
When people are old, they must know how to maintain and have a healthy body. Having relatively rich savings is the guarantee of a happy life in old age.
04, the children took a detour, and the whole family was dragged down
Tong Zhi in "Golden Wedding" is strong in his life.
He has been a factory director in the factory for half his life, and he has always had a straight waist.
Son Dabao, who has no real skills, always wants to take shortcuts and climb to the sky in one step. The son opened a company and sold substandard cement, not only did he not make any money, but he also suffered a lawsuit.
Tong Zhi was old, but he couldn't bear to watch his son suffer, so he entrusted the relationship, helped him find a way, and took out all the money to make up for the losses caused by his son.
In his later years, when he begged for help, he gave up his dignity and fell to his knees. At that moment, he really had nothing, which was both sympathetic and pitiful.
When people reach old age, there is a tragedy that makes their children take a detour.
Gibran said: "Some children make us feel that this life is worthwhile, and some children leave us with lifelong regrets." ”
Children can't live a stable and down-to-earth life, and they always want to get things that don't belong to them. If you make a mistake, you can't bear the consequences and costs, and you can only let your parents suffer.
Children are not angry, they cause trouble, and parents have to break their hearts for them.
Not only did he have to consume all his savings, but he also had to work hard and live a very hard life.
05. Summary
In life, there are many accidents and many tests, at any time, you must know how to plan your life and learn to plan for a rainy day.
Don't think too much about the old time.
Don't always say that "there must be a road before the car reaches the mountain", but when you really encounter the high mountain, you have no ability to open the mountain and pave the road, so you are only helpless.
Life is long, and you must know how to plan for the future.
Save more money and have savings, so that your heart will not panic. Educate your children well, whether you have a good character or not, know how to be filial, and you can harvest more warmth in your later years.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.