Fate is beautiful.
But the direction of feelings is difficult to predict.
We all want to:
Love can bring oneself a fulfillment.
But in fact, if they don't fit in with each other and reluctantly come together, it will only bring invisible regrets to both parties.
Therefore, when talking about marriage, it is important to see this relationship clearly.
Some people will say that love cannot withstand temptation.
However, from a psychological point of view, if they cherish each other, they will make each other more determined in their choices and further sublimate their love in the temptation.
Are two people suitable for marriage? You might as well try it like this, and you can see clearly once you "break the connection."
01
Test your ability to communicate
The Analects writes:
"Be faithful in word and respectful in action. ”
Long-term relationships are inseparable from sincere communication.
For couples.
If you want the relationship to last, you need to be honest with each other and have certain communication skills.
Especially in marriage, communication is the foundation of the relationship.
Everyone is an independent individual, and it is inevitable that there will be disagreements when they are together. When there is a conflict between two people, timely and positive communication will make the relationship have the possibility of sustainable development.
Disconnection, you can see the direction of feelings.
If both parties, during the disconnection, choose to remain silent or escape.
Then, even if the two people come together again, it will be difficult to avoid the escalation of conflicts in the future.
02
See the level of psychological maturity
We all hope.
After falling in love, you can protect your feelings.
But in fact, a long-term marriage requires both parties to have a certain degree of independence and maturity.
For example:
In "Dream of Red Mansions", Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu are not psychologically mature people.
This leads to the fact that even if the two parties are in love, they will face a tragic ending because they do not have the ability to protect their love.
How can you tell if a person is mature enough?
Through disconnection, it is possible to see a person's emotional state and psychological maturity.
During the disconnection, if both parties can think independently and properly handle their emotions, then the relationship may stand the test of time, and the two people are suitable for marriage.
On the contrary, if both parties are emotional, insist on not meeting.
Then, even if they get married with the help of others, it is difficult to maintain the relationship between the two people for a long time.
03
Test the depth of feelings
Saying goes:
"In adversity, we can see the truth. ”
Get along with each other on weekdays.
Lovers, you and me, can't see the depth of feelings.
When there were differences and contradictions between each other, they chose to disconnect.
So next, who loves deeply, it's basically clear at a glance.
Did you know that the test during the disconnection is an excellent time to test the depth of the relationship between the two parties.
If a person loves you deeply, he will take the initiative to break the ice and choose to appear by your side to bring you a warm comfort.
If someone, with the opportunity to disconnect, disappears.
Then, it can only explain one fact, in fact, that person doesn't love you, just barely with you.
And the love between you has no depth.
In the long river of life.
Finding the partner who is worth entrusting for the rest of your life is like looking for the brightest star in the starry night sky. And in this long process of searching, disconnection may be able to reveal for us whether the other party is really worth holding hands and entering the palace of marriage.
The disconnection is like a mirror, reflecting the true face of the relationship between the two.
When the two temporarily lose contact for some reason, the silent silence seems to be able to hear the echo of the heartbeat and feel the fluctuation of emotions. In this short separation, if the other party still cares about you and thinks about you all the time, then this emotion is particularly precious.
And if the other person is silent during the disconnection, as if he has disappeared from your world, then such indifference and disregard is a silent challenge to your emotions. With such a partner, how can you entrust him with peace of mind for the rest of your life?
Therefore, the disconnection is not only a test of the relationship between the two, but also an in-depth analysis of the other party's quality. In this brief separation, we can more clearly realize whether the other person is truly worthy of our sincere efforts and whether it is worth spending the rest of our lives together.
So, when you are standing at a crossroads in your life and hesitating whether to entrust the rest of your life to someone, you might as well try the method of disconnection. Let time be the best touchstone, and let disconnection become a mirror to test the authenticity of feelings. Only in this way can you find the partner who is truly worthy of your trust for the rest of your life in the vast sea of people.
Emotionally original, warm words. From the perspective of psychology, I analyze the thousands of emotions and hope that my article can bring you a different feeling. Thank you for your continued attention, and having you by your side on the creative road is the biggest motivation.