[This content is an adaptation of a short fictional story, please watch it rationally, and do not sit in the right seat]
My colleague Lin Hao, who can be said to be the pillar of the family, joined a manufacturing company after graduating from university and worked for 10 years.
Although the work is hard, I can save thousands every month.
His wife Xiao Min was not so lucky, Xiao Min used to be a clerk with an average salary, but Lin Hao didn't care about these.
3 years ago, the two officially got their certificates, but after getting married, Xiao Min didn't go to work anymore, anyway, Lin Hao could barely afford two people by himself.
Although they are not rich and expensive, the two of them are happy, and the days are quite promising.
After getting married, in addition to leaving 1,000 yuan for her living expenses every month, everything else was handed over to Xiaomin, so that she could come to Zhang Luo's family for expenses.
Xiao Min really has no concept of financial management, Lin Hao gives her all the money every month, and hopes that she will take care of the family's expenses, but she will buy whatever she likes, and there is no one to guard at all.
Cosmetics, clothes, bags, when you see something trendy, you arch your hands and sweep the goods. After buying it, he said to Lin Hao beautifully: "Husband, look at the new clothes I bought for you, do they look good?"
Lin Hao was speechless, obviously he already had it at home, but Xiao Min still kept buying. When asked, Xiao Min twisted his tongue and didn't listen: "Oh, what about the event at that time, the discounts are discounted, it's too cheap to bear it.."
In fact, Lin Hao is not a low-key honest person, and he himself likes to join in the fun. But with this condition, how can you be so extravagant.
There were a few times when he couldn't stand it anymore, so he counted Xiao Min down hard, saying that she was a loser, and her sense of financial management was weak, and the whole family would have to go bankrupt if she spent money so indiscriminately.
Xiao Min was trained to tears and snot, and promised to correct it in the future, but after a month, he did it again.
Lin Hao saved money to give his family a guarantee, and if he didn't have money, he couldn't do anything if his family got sick in the future. But Xiaomin, a loser, spends his money faster and faster month by month, and his savings are consumed faster than Lin Hao's money.
Money doesn't come from the wind, but you have to save it slowly. Seeing that the deposit quickly bottomed out, Lin Hao was really angry.
He told me that for a long time he couldn't sleep all night, tossing and turning over and over how the money was spent. The salary is just a little, and the rent and food expenses add up to a few thousand yuan at most, where does the rest go?
When he came back from work that day, Lin Hao angrily called Xiao Min to the bedroom and took out their bank card. With a fierce face, he put the passbook in front of Xiao Min's eyes: "Look for yourself, there are only a few thousand pieces left in it!"
Xiao Min was startled, and her face turned white. Her lips trembled, and she couldn't say a word.
The more Lin Hao looked at it, the more angry he became, "Tell me, where has all the money gone in the past few months? The salary savings add up to at least 100,000 yuan, right? You should give me a good explanation!"
Xiao Min lowered her head, and tears fell down her eyes. She obviously didn't expect the money to run out so quickly.
"Hey, can you just tell the truth, where did the money go?" Lin Hao asked again.
Xiao Min glanced up at Lin Hao and said, "Just... I bought some clothes, cosmetics and stuff like that... Didn't you see it.."
"Why are you so uneasy!"
Lin Hao was furious and slapped Xiao Min fiercely, "Do you have a little bit of a count? Our monthly salary adds up to a few thousand yuan, you are good, such a loser!"
Xiao Min was beaten so much that her eyes were full of stars, and she covered her face and cried.
Seeing Xiao Min covering his face and crying bitterly, Lin Hao's fire had not been extinguished.
"Hey, you're such a loser! My hard-earned money has been lost by you for a few years! Do you have a heart?" Lin Hao scolded fiercely.
Xiao Min was scolded even more miserably, and begged for mercy: "Husband... I'm sorry... I'm not going to spend money again..."
"Come on, you! It's easy to say, just throw the money like dung when you do it!" Lin Hao was furious and pushed Xiao Min away, "I'll give you the money to spend in the future! From today on, I'll take care of the deposit myself!"
Xiao Min was stung by these words, and suddenly yelled at Lin Hao with wide eyes: "I occasionally do some part-time jobs, why didn't you say anything when I was earning money, I didn't take responsibility!"
"The money you earn is only a few hundred yuan! The rest is my hard-earned money! Why can't you take care of it?" Lin Hao roared back.
The two of them are living like two embarrassed fighting cocks in that small bedroom, and you grit your teeth one by one.
The next-door neighbors probably heard it, and there were a few dull knocks on the door.
At this juncture, I also arrived... I didn't expect things to turn out this way. A young couple would fight over such a trivial matter, it really rained over the sun, and I am afraid that this gambling fight is not over yet...
Watching the two of you come and go, arguing so darkly, I was really taken aback. As an old colleague for many years, of course, I have to persuade them well.
"Hey, you two calm down!" I patted Lin Hao on the shoulder and said, "Drunks aren't so quarrelsome, are they?
Lin Hao glared at me fiercely, obviously not sobering up from the anger just now. Xiao Min lowered her head, her eyes were red, and she didn't say a word.
"Look, isn't it because the concept of financial management is not the same?" I continued to persuade, "Then let's discuss it and find a way that is acceptable to both parties?"
Lin Hao was silent for a few seconds, and finally spoke: "I already feel that it is not a way to hand over the money to her. You see, she's lost all our hard-earned money over the years!"
"That's... So what are you going to do?" Xiao Min finally poked his head out when he heard this.
"It's very simple!" Lin Hao said, "From now on, I will take care of the money myself! I will only give you one living allowance every month, and I will take care of the rest!"
"What?" Xiao Min was shocked, "but... Why...?"
"That's our money!" Lin Hao interrupted her, "If it weren't for my hard work for several years, would you think it would be so easy to save this money?"
I saw that the anger did not subside at all, so I had to continue to play the round: "Listen, you have already done everything." In fact, as long as you communicate well and give the other party some space and understanding, you will definitely be able to ....."
"I don't need you to talk too much!" Lin Hao interrupted me, turned around and walked into the bedroom, and took out the bank card and keys from the bedside table.
"You see, this is our entire deposit. From today onwards, I will take care of the money myself!" Lin Hao said, taking the card and the key and walking out without looking back.
"Lin Hao, you stop me!" Xiao Min shouted behind him, but he was powerless to stop it. At this moment, the dominance of financial management and housework seemed to be completely taken away by Lin Hao...
Watching Lin Hao slam the door and leave, I only felt that things were completely out of control. Xiao Min stood in place, her hands hanging weakly at her sides, her eyes glazed.
"Xiaomin, don't mind too much. I tried to comfort her, "Man, it's just a competition, don't take it too seriously." When he calms down, you can talk about it again..."
Xiao Min raised his head suddenly, his eyes full of tears: "But... But that's my money, too! What right does he have to keep it alone?"
I was speechless for a while, so I had to reply to her: "Yes, most of the money is indeed earned by Lin Hao, but after all, you are husband and wife, and the money should belong to the two of you, and it should not be unilaterally controlled by either party, right?"
"You're so right!" Xiao Min seemed to suddenly ignite his fighting spirit.
With that, she rushed out of the house and ran downstairs after Lin Hao.
I was taken aback, I didn't expect Xiao Min to be so irritable. hurriedly chased out, only to see Lin Hao standing there at the corner of the stairs with a stunned face, Xiao Min standing in front of him, and the two confronted each other like that......
After that day, Lin Hao and Xiao Min fell into a cold war for a period of time. Lin Hao rented a small house to live in by himself, locked all the passbooks and keys there, and changed the cards and account passwords at home.
I tried to play a round a few times, but Lin Hao blocked it back. He is a stubborn master, once he has made up his mind, he is determined to get things done.
However, the Cold War is not a long-term solution after all, I see it in my eyes, the little couple has been fighting like this for more than half a month, but the looks of the two of them are becoming more and more haggard, and the bags under their eyes are about to turn blue.
Finally one day, Lin Hao took the initiative to come to me for a drink. He poured several large cups in a row, and suddenly said to me, "Brother, did I do something wrong?
I hurriedly comforted him: "Calm down, it's not uncommon for the two of you to quarrel, the key is to reflect on it and see what you did wrong." ”
Lin Hao took another big sip and fell into deep thought. After a while, he said faintly: "Maybe... It's true that I'm doing it too well. Although I earn most of the money, Xiao Min is also my wife after all, and we should have negotiated financial matters on an equal footing..."
I nodded my head again and again, motioning for him to continue.
Lin Hao's expression was gloomy, and he said to himself: "The reason why we have come to such a point is largely because the gap between our two perceptions of financial management is too big. I have always regarded money as the lifeblood of my family, saving money and saving it; And Xiao Min lacks reverence for money and squanders it lavishly..."
"And what are your plans now?" I interjected at the right time.
Lin Hao pondered for a long time, and his eyes were a little resolute: "I have to communicate with Xiao Min once to resolve the differences between us and make her understand the importance of financial management." Only in this way can we truly trust each other, rather than one side suppressing the other..."
Seeing that Lin Hao finally exercised a little self-introspective consciousness, I couldn't help but breathe a sigh of relief. Perhaps, the cold war between this young couple is about to be solved...
Early the next morning, Lin Hao came to the cottage rented by Xiao Min. He took a bouquet of flowers and rang the doorbell in a proper manner.
Xiao Min opened the door in a daze, and a trace of surprise flashed in his eyes when he saw Lin Hao. Lin Hao handed her the flowers and said, "I'm sorry, Xiaomin, I'm too anxious and impulsive, and I do things too well." Let's sit down and have a good talk. ”
Xiao Min took the flowers, and her eyes were slightly red. She let go of a crack, and Lin Hao walked in. The two sat side by side at the small table, speechless for a moment.
"Xiaomin, the main reason why we quarreled so much that we hid all the money was because of a lack of mutual understanding. ”
Lin Hao opened his mouth, "I care too much about money, and I regard it as the only lifeline in my hands." And you're so careless about money that you don't take it seriously at all. ”
Xiao Min lowered his head and seemed to feel a little guilty, Lin Hao continued: "But there is something wrong with me, I should trust you, not see you as a 'threat' to the family's financial management." After all, we are husband and wife, and we should trust and respect each other. ”
Xiao Min nodded, and seemed to resonate with Lin Hao's words.
"From now on, I will patiently teach you the importance of money management so that you can truly understand how important money is to us. Lin Hao said, "At the same time, I will also respect your right to speak on your family's finances and let you participate." How?"
Xiao Min raised her head, and a smile slowly appeared on her face. She said: "Well, I have been a waste of money and have not had the right understanding of money. From now on, I will definitely correct myself and learn to be as frugal and use my money wisely as you do. ”
"Great!" Lin Hao happily hugged Xiao Min, "As long as we work together and tolerate each other, we will definitely be able to resolve any differences." ”
Xiao Min rested his head on Lin Hao's shoulder, and his eyebrows and eyes curved into a happy smile.
I watched from the sidelines, secretly glad that they had finally reached an understanding through communication. What is the point of a marriage if there is a lack of trust and tolerance between husband and wife?
Life is a long road, but as long as we are with each other, any obstacle will eventually be nothing more than a cloud. Lin Hao and Xiao Min are the best footnotes.
[This story is purely fictional, the people and things in the story are fictional, the purpose is only necessary for the description of the plot, easy to read and understand, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence]