Text/Flying Fish
As the saying goes, the love of parents for their children is far-reaching for their children.
Parents are always the ones who love their children the most, and they always worry about their children, even if the children are married and have a family, but when they become parents, parents will still care about their children and always care about their children.
When parents hear that their children are married, they are serious, and they want to get married, then as parents, they are actually very happy.
Of course, parents can't interfere too much in their children's lives, if you want your children to be good to you, you must know that the relationship between parents and children is mutual, parents know how to respect children, and children will respect their parents equally.
In the face of the child's marriage, before the child gets married, in fact, smart parents will take the initiative to ask their in-laws for these two things, for their own children, want to see their children happy, and also want to leave a little way out for their children. In fact, it shows that it is a wise move, and there is no shame in it.
First, you should have an attitude towards your own children.
There is no doubt that every child is actually the heart and soul of their parents, and they are the most beloved people of their parents.
When the child proposes to get married, and the two families sit together to discuss the marriage, one of the parents wants to see the attitude of the other parent's towards their child.
If the other party's parents are not sure of their children from the beginning, do not agree to this family business, and look down on their children in their hearts, then this marriage will actually make the children live very wronged in the future.
Parents don't want their children to be wronged in other people's homes, especially their daughters, after marrying into other people's families, if the in-laws don't like their daughter-in-law and don't like their daughter-in-law, then how much grievance should the daughter-in-law suffer?
Therefore, now many parents sit together with their in-laws to discuss their children's marriage, dowry, assets are secondary, the first is to see the attitude of the in-laws towards their children, if the other parents also like their children, but also affirm their children, then the two families will get along well in the wedding.
Some parents can't see their children being looked down upon, and if their in-laws always count their children out of words, parents who may be emotionally unstable will quarrel with each other.
Therefore, before choosing your in-laws, you need to see the attitude of your in-laws to really rest assured about this marriage.
Second, we should respect and support the child's small family.
When the in-laws of both parties sit together to discuss marriage, the parents of the two families should reach a consensus and should give affirmation and support for the child's affairs.
Parents and children are not able to buy a house, both parents have the ability, so they can contribute some money together, pay a down payment for the child, and buy a bigger house, so that the life after marriage can also be happier and avoid some contradictions.
Parents should have a vision, help their children if they can, don't just take care of themselves, the children will repay their parents in the future, if the parents are not capable, then they can only look at the children, and the parents do not have to ask for everything.
When Zhu Jincao and Gu Jasmine in "Little Days" were about to get married, in fact, the two parents sat together, and Gu Jasmine's parents proposed to pay for the child to buy a big house together, and the names were also written on two people, so it was fair.
But Zhu Jincao's parents disagreed, so they wanted to show the status of the man's family, and bought it at their own expense, so that they could only buy a very small house, so that the husband and wife could only sleep in bunk beds.
Because of the house, the two families in the back have constant contradictions, the family is crowded in a small house, they can't live at all, and there is no privacy between husband and wife, so they want to change to a bigger house.
But the man's family just didn't agree, so the child's marriage couldn't continue, and finally divorced.
Therefore, as a parent, in the face of the child's marriage, in fact, you can put your own face first, as long as the two families can reach a consensus, then it is also quite good to pay together, don't take it too seriously, only the child is happy, everything is fine.
If both parties have no sense of proportion, no boundaries, and will only interfere and control, then there is no benefit to the child's marriage, and even the marriage breaks down because of family conflicts.
Therefore, in the face of children's marriages, when talking about marriage, parents take the initiative to ask each other's in-laws for the above two things for the sake of their children, which is foresight and wisdom.
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