(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)
In the eyes of our Chinese men, the phrase "those who love their wives are prosperous, and those who lose their wives are not rich" is true, so in many families, men are very fond of their wives, after all, why do so many men in the world choose you?
However, in my marriage, I am also like this to my North Korean wife, her life is envied by many people, but even so, that day I went back to my parents' house with her to visit, I accidentally heard the conversation between my wife and my mother-in-law: "Mom, I would have listened to your advice if I knew it, and I would not marry a Chinese man, and I will regret it for two years"!
01
I live in a city in Henan, and for as long as I can remember, I have known that my family has been doing business, but my family conditions are the envy of the children around me.
I rarely saw my father since I was a child, and I was almost always out on business, rarely coming to the house, and it was my mother who raised me alone.
When I was in elementary school, I could clearly feel the feeling of being admired, and my mother didn't want me to go to a school that was too much fame and fortune, so she just sent me to a middle school, where whatever I played at school was the latest model, and many children would surround me and say, "Play with me, play with me."
The feeling of being followed by others is really inexpressible in words.
However, the most envy of their parents is my grades, even if I usually play around, my academic performance has always been at the top of the class, which is exactly what I call "other people's children".
At that time, I was also young, I didn't know how good the conditions at home were, I only knew what toys I wanted, and my mother would buy them for me, but these were linked to learning, and there were rewards and punishments.
In a blink of an eye, I have graduated from high school and applied for a university in the Northeast, and the reason why I went to the Northeast is just that they have a very cheerful personality there and make friends.
At that time, my mother still didn't want me to go to the Northeast, it was too far away from home, thinking that I hadn't been far away, and was worried about my safety, at this time my father, who didn't talk much, opened his mouth: "You let him go, the little boy can stay at home all the time, or go out to see, have a long experience, don't be like a stuffy gourd, father supports you, son"!
When I just stepped into the Northeast, I didn't expect it to be so cold here, and the weather in Henan is really too different, I thought that the winter in Henan was cold enough, but I didn't expect it to be so cold here.
Thanks to my mother's advice to let me bring more thick clothes, the moment I entered the school gate, many seniors and seniors came to the door to greet our freshmen, at this time I still thought in my heart, these people are quite enthusiastic.
After half a year of schooling, I got acquainted with my roommates in the dormitory, and as long as we didn't have classes, we would go out to eat and drink.
As you know, there are a lot of North Korean girls in the Northeast, and I met one at school that day, and it was completely in my heart, but I was accompanied by a girl in my class.
Then I began to be courteous and invited this classmate to dinner, so as to ask for the contact information of the North Korean girl.
After getting the girl's contact information, I went on the offensive and finally agreed to eat with me.
When they sat together, she first asked in the broken Chinese: "How did you get my contact information, I and the people around me said not to hand over my contact information."
I replied with a smile: "Do you know that there is an old saying in our country called "eat people with soft mouths and take people with short hands", this is not to make friends with you, so I want your contact information".
This sentence made her stunned, and asked: "What is eating people with soft mouths and short hands, what does this mean, why can't I understand it."
Then I said, "It's normal for you not to understand, Chinese culture is broad and profound, if you want to learn, it's difficult, your vocabulary can communicate at most, and if you are a little deep, it will be difficult for you to understand."
She just nodded, feeling like she understood what she meant.
I think this girl's name is quite nice, it's called Jin Yan.
Since we had a meal, I often asked her out on the grounds of teaching her Chinese, and after a while, our relationship gradually became familiar.
02
After almost half a year, both of us already had an ambiguous atmosphere, and we almost pierced the "window paper" of confession, and I could only wait for this opportunity, for fear that I was thinking too much.
Until that day, we were eating out, but the sky was unforeseen, and it suddenly started to rain, and neither of us had any umbrellas, so we had to wait for the rain to subside for a while and then run back.
But I always feel that God is giving me a chance, and the rain is getting heavier and heavier, and it seems that I can only go back in the rain.
I said to Kim Yeon, "I'll tell you, in fact, going back to school in the rain is also a unique enjoyment."
Jin Yan looked at me with a puzzled expression: "It's really fake, you will lie to me, you can't catch a cold."
I could have imagined that I would catch a cold, but I only know that this is a great opportunity for our relationship to develop further, and if I can't grasp this, then God must be helpless against me.
Then I took off my coat and pulled Kim out the door, put my clothes on the heads of the two of us, and shouted, "Run."
Running in the rain, we are really like a couple, romantic and warm.
The moment she was downstairs in the dormitory, I looked at each other, and I expressed my intention to her, hoping that she could be my girlfriend, and she didn't answer for a while, I knew that she was hesitating, not knowing whether to talk to me or not.
After I went back to my dorm room and took a shower, a message came from my phone that said, "I agree", and I was overjoyed for a moment.
We just talked about it until I graduated from college, during which I told my parents about it, and my father was surprised: "You kid, you can also give your father a foreign daughter-in-law, can you take it home?"
The last sentence is indeed very difficult to guarantee, after all, it is a transnational marriage, and I don't know if other people's parents agree or not.
On the day of graduation, Kim Yeon and I said, "Otherwise, the two of us should go together to discuss marriage with your parents, at least not let them feel my sincerity."
Jin Yan nodded, she didn't know how to discuss this matter with her parents, afraid that they would not agree to marry so far.
When we arrived at Jin Yan's house, my father-in-law and mother-in-law were quite welcoming to me and didn't put on that serious show.
After some greetings, my father-in-law opened his mouth to have two less drinks with me, which is not exactly what I wanted, in the part of drinking, I haven't served anyone yet, but I definitely can't give him a drink to the point that it can't be done, after all, this time I came with a purpose.
After three rounds of drinking, my father-in-law and I said: "Uncle, I came this time to discuss with you about marrying Jin Yan, if you are willing, I will definitely be good to Jin Yan wholeheartedly, and I will definitely not let her suffer any grievances."
The father-in-law sighed: "I can also see that you are a good boy, and I am willing to let Jin Yan marry you, but the only problem now is that if you marry Jin Yan, you must pay 5 million to our government, it is really not an uncle who is difficult for you."
As soon as I heard that I had to pay 5 million, I was shocked, so much money, what should I do!
Then I walked out the door and called my father: "Dad, my father-in-law and mother-in-law agreed to marry Jin Yan, but the only thing I have to pay 5 million to them, otherwise I can't get married, what should I do"!
03
I don't know the real economic situation of my family, I only know that I don't have to worry about living expenses, at this time my father said: "I think it's a big deal, as long as the in-laws are willing, money is not a problem, I will give you the money on the card, and you can do the rest yourself"!
I was stunned, I didn't know what to do for a while, and after returning to the house and sitting down, my father-in-law asked, "Xiaohao, what's wrong with you?"
Then the mother-in-law said on the side: "If there is really no way, let Jin Yan find someone to marry here, I don't want her to run so far."
Hearing this, I paused for a while and said to my father-in-law: "Uncle, my father has taken out this money for me, and I can marry Jin Yan back!"
The father-in-law was stunned: "What did you say? 5 million yuan was taken out when you said it, and your family is so rich?"
I didn't expect my father to agree so happily, for my happiness, 5 million was waved out like this.
After returning to China, we began to prepare for the wedding, wanting to give Kim Yeon a perfect wedding scene, and when the father-in-law and mother-in-law came here on the wedding day, they were all surprised, and it was completely different from the wedding of ordinary families in their country.
After I got married, my father directly asked me to work in one of his companies, and I directly told Jin Yan: "You can do whatever you want every day, I will support you for a lifetime."
Almost as long as it is Jin Yan's favorite ornaments or clothes, I will meet her requirements, isn't a woman just such a hobby, as long as Jin Yan is not wronged, there is nothing.
After two years of such a life, every day I would cook at home and wait for me to go back, but when it was time to go back, I took Kim Yeon back to my parents' house with a full of nutritional products.
My father-in-law felt that his daughter had found a good family, and treated me with kindness, and took out all his baby wine to drink, just when I was chatting with my father-in-law, I saw my mother-in-law preparing to cook, and then I stepped forward to take the job.
After about an hour, when the meal was ready, I took it out, and my father-in-law said to me, "Go and call them to dinner, and they will talk in the house."
04
As soon as I walked to the door, I heard Jin Yan complaining there: "Mom, I regret marrying Xiaohao now, although I don't have to worry about food and clothing, but it's too boring, I don't have a little social interaction every day, and then Xiaohao is usually very busy, and he doesn't have time to go out with me to play." ”
At this time, the mother-in-law said: "Then I also advised you not to let you marry so far, you have to marry in the past, what can you do, Xiaohao is not very good to you, be content"!
I saw that my mother-in-law was actually still facing me, I didn't push the door in, but knocked on the door first, and asked them to eat, I heard my mother-in-law whispering to Jin Yan: "Don't say it, don't say it, let Xiaohao hear it."
Since then, I have also reflected, although I have satisfied Jin Yan financially in the past two years, I really haven't accompanied her much in terms of time, but I can't doubt that I spoil her like this, maybe what she wants more is freedom.
In the future, I will try to accompany her as much as possible, or let her find a job casually, make two or three friends, and make up for her soul!
(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)