In this era, it is so difficult for parents in ordinary families to educate their children!

Not only children are suffering, but adults are also suffering, and it is necessary to invest time, energy, and emotions, not to mention money. Moreover, in the end, when the child grows up, there is a high probability that he can only do ordinary work.

I am worried that I will delay my child's life, and it will be too late to regret it later.

Two days ago, I saw someone say that the neighbor's child was very upset: his parents spent millions for him to go to school, and he went around and around at the age of 32 to find a job with a monthly salary of 4,000 yuan.

A 32-year-old, according to the general trajectory, should have a stable job, more than enough to support himself, and at the same time be married, have children, and take on family responsibilities. And this 32-year-old "child", with a monthly salary of 4,000, is only enough to support himself.

How can parents be happy?

I couldn't get into the general high school entrance examination, and my parents spent money to find a relationship to go to a private high school, and the tuition fee was 50,000 yuan a year, and about 20 tens of thousands of yuan were spent in three years.

In the first year, I was admitted to the junior college, and I felt that I had to go to the undergraduate, so I repeated it for another year, and I was admitted to three books, and I needed 100,000 yuan a year. Four years later, it was 400,000 again.

After graduation, it took 5.6 years to take the public examination and register for several classes, but in the end, I didn't go up to anything, and more than 200,000 yuan went in again.

Without a job, naturally no girl can fall in love with him.

During the period, he went to the company and went to work in the company, but he couldn't do it for a few months.

The parents were so anxious that they struggled to find the logistics department of a unit and stuffed their son into it to settle down.

After spending nearly one million before and after, and finally getting a job of 4,000 yuan, my parents were quite aggrieved, feeling that the difference between pay and return was too great.

This reminds me of the delivery man who "spent millions to study in Australia and was killed when he returned to China to deliver takeaways" last year, also 32 years old.

The delivery man who was killed because of an argument with the community security guard over the delivery of food is not an "ordinary" worker. He studied psychology in Australia.

His family should have been okay at the beginning, but later suffered an accident, his income declined, and he was unable to pay for his study abroad, resulting in a year off from school. Later, he borrowed to continue his studies, and the total cost of studying abroad was more than 1 million.

After returning from studying abroad, he worked several jobs, but he had no income, so he had to deliver food to subsidize his family.

The family spent more than one million yuan to send the child to study abroad, but the knowledge learned by the child did not have the value of return, but engaged in a profession that has nothing to do with the major he studied - food delivery.

If these two people may not be the material for studying, but the parents are willing to increase their investment, thinking that they can find a good job by spending money to go to college, and it comes down to the problem of parents' concepts, then the current situation of having a child makes me feel even more pity, and it makes people question whether they should let their children work hard to "roll" their academic performance.

A parent left a message:

My son graduated from a key university and now works as a food delivery delivery worker in Meituan. Decades of learning have been in vain, and hundreds of thousands of training fees have been wasted. Why don't you work part-time after graduating from junior high school.......

Her son graduated from Shanghai Jiaotong University, and now he has been delivering takeaway full-time for two years, earning 5.6,000 yuan a month, and he is very energetic!

Someone comforted her and said: At least the child does not gnaw at the old age, and can endure hardships, which is also very good.

But I always felt a little bit of a pity.

Children who can be admitted to Shanghai Jiaotong University must have a good IQ and a good learning ability, and they should be very diligent and hardworking during the school stage, and their parents must have given a lot of support and placed certain expectations.

As a result, the child likes to deliver food.

If they had known that their children's future jobs would be food delivery, why would parents have spent money to send their children to extracurricular training classes? Why did children have to work hard to take the college entrance examination in the first place? These jobs can be done after graduating from junior high school.

Since you are the best of your peers, why not do a job that matches your abilities?

Alas, it's a pity, and it may take a while for my own child to accept it psychologically.

In recent years, the depreciation of academic qualifications has been obvious to all.

Judging from the data, in the 80s, a total of 34,000 undergraduate colleges were enrolled in the country, and now more than 10 million are recruited a year, and there are more than 5 million undergraduates alone, which is definitely too much worse.

Actually, you don't have to look at the data, just look at the reality. In the past, after graduating from secondary school, the state directly assigned jobs, and it was still a cadre job with an establishment, and there was no need for examinations.

Now, graduating from college is unemployed, and if you want to have a job, you need to take the public examination, the examination editor, and submit all kinds of resumes, otherwise you will be admitted to graduate school.

Nowadays, it takes longer and more money to raise a child who can support himself, but he has fewer opportunities to stand in society.

If you spend millions to train children and earn a monthly salary of 4,000 after work, will you still work hard to "chicken" the baby?

I don't think it's necessary for a "chicken" baby, but it is still necessary to ask children to study hard and strive to get a good grade.

It is the responsibility of parents to raise their children, and not to "chicken" the baby does not mean to give up the effort.

We want to let children make their own efforts in the process of studying, so that they can understand: how to insist on doing one thing well, how to learn self-discipline, how to systematically master knowledge, how to learn healthy competition, how to find what they like and stick to it.

Real education is not about spending a lot of money, it's not an overly utilitarian goal, it's not about finding a high-paying job. Instead, we should choose the right direction according to the actual situation of our own family, constantly adjust our goals according to reality, "dress and eat", and the same is true for education investment, and we will pay as much as we have the ability.

The era of a lifetime is a thing of the past, and we are living in a diverse world, which is both a challenge and a blessing.

What we parents need to do most is to cultivate children's lifelong learning habits and enthusiasm, cultivate children's strong curiosity and desire for knowledge in the world, and have a healthy body and good attitude.

I believe that as long as the children have these, they will be able to cope with the changes in the world in the future.