Have you ever heard of fake efforts?
There is a kind of child who seems to give people the feeling of working very hard, reciting desperately every day, brushing questions desperately, and the time schedule is full, and he even has to run to the toilet.
Sometimes parents are distressed and want them to take a break, but they always shout that they don't have enough time. These actions are very gratifying to parents, who feel that their children are really working too hard.
But these are all appearances, behind the child's seemingly hard work, every link is not done with heart, time is paid, but there is no efficiency.
They only superficially make others think that he is working hard, and such fake efforts are only self-moving, and there is no progress at all.
Fake performance of effort
In order to determine whether their child has fake efforts, parents can check the following 5 points to screen.
1. I don't like to write in class
Seems to sit up straight very seriously, listening to the teacher's lecture there, but never taking notes, and never understanding after class, such a child has a low eye, thinks he can do anything, seems to understand as soon as he listens, but in fact, he doesn't remember it at all, he doesn't absorb it.
2. Pretend to be hardworking
They study until midnight and like to use the study time to show their level of effort, and they are used to using the number of homework or brushing questions to prove that they are very hard.
But this is not effective, some children study for a long time without thinking, and do not learn at all.
Not only does it waste a lot of time and stay up late at night, but it will also affect the learning status of the next day, which is a huge harm to learning.
3. Learning depends on interest
This kind of child is a typical three-day fishing and two-day drying nets, and on a whim he reciting texts, words, ancient poems, English, etc., and he will do this if he is in a good mood, but after the interest, this action is forgotten cleanly, and there is no review after that, let alone a summary.
4. Inefficiency does not work
Most of these children like to do two things and feel very good about themselves.
When writing homework, he likes to chat with others about WeChat, or listen to songs, watch TV, and obviously can complete the homework in an hour, but he has to toss an afternoon, and he feels that his study time is particularly long, in fact, the real effective study time is very short.
For brushing questions, he is just brushing the questions, and he does not sort out the ideas and summarize the methods of doing the questions, but just doing a repetitive action.
5. Collection is equal to learning
Like many adults who collect chicken soup for the soul, some children also like to collect a lot of learning methods, dry goods, inspirational remarks, etc., but they are only limited to collections, never looking, not studying, and not practicing.
This kind of children also show obvious in doing problems, they never solve problems when they encounter them, they will accumulate more and more, they seem to work hard every day, but they never have a clear goal, no plan, and feel that they are working very hard, and their families are also very moved, but they can never see progress.
Fake effort vs real effort
Is it true that if a child keeps brushing up on questions and concentrating on learning, it must be a fake effort? Actually, no, there is a clear difference between the two.
1. Work hard or be lazy
As mentioned earlier, fake effort is just doing something that seems to outsiders to be working hard, and he actually knows that his effect is not good.
And real hard work is to do things with all his heart and dedication, he knows that he is working hard, knows his dedication, and knows where his goal is, all in order to make himself better.
2. Whether it is effective
After persevering for a period of time, most of the people do not change substantially, and people will become negative because of this, feeling that they have worked hard for so long and have not achieved results, and then they will become frustrated and want to give up.
Even if you don't have a suitable learning method, you will have obvious changes in grades, study habits and knowledge memorization.
In terms of whether it is effective or not, it is possible to distinguish between the two.
3. Fake effort is more terrible than real laziness
Some people know that they are lazy, they don't want to move, and they know that they want to learn, but they just don't have the motivation and the will to change, this is really lazy, they know that they are lazy, and they don't want to change.
But if you work hard, you will be blinded by the illusion of your own efforts and can't get out, and the terrible thing about him is that he will make the executor constantly believe that he has been working hard, but he can't get results.
Even if you sometimes have self-doubt, you will quickly overturn it, feel that you are working hard, and once you can't get the results you want, you will have self-doubt, reduce your enthusiasm, and even go to extremes, which is very scary.
Three ways to turn a fake effort into a real effort
Fake effort is also a way of hard work, at least it means that he is willing to spend time to do this thing of learning, parents must not debunk the child's fake effort behavior, try to observe the child's performance more, through scientific methods, to help the child make the fake effort into real effort.
1. Set goals to improve efficiency
Fake efforts tend to focus more on action, but there is no clear goal, and you don't know where you are going to complete today's task.
Parents must communicate with their child in depth and help him set goals based on the actual situation, such as how many questions to do for how long, what is the accuracy rate, or how many courses to review today, how much time is expected to be spent in each class, how many notes to take or how much content to memorize.
Let your child keep the goal in mind, so that they can be more efficient and maximize the effectiveness of their learning.
2. Use more hands and brains
In class, it is not necessary to write down all the content of the teacher, but it is definitely not to memorize all the content, follow the teacher's ideas more, make good use of more thinking, and write down the teacher's main points in a timely manner, as well as the points that you have not been able to absorb, so as to facilitate learning after class.
Learning can only be more efficient if the hands and brains are combined.
3. Take the initiative to think and be good at summarizing
After having fake efforts, parents must let their children think about today's learning content, see what they are doing well and what needs to be improved, let go of the terrible face and self-deception, and know themselves objectively and truly.
Only in this way can children find what they need to improve, especially the learning methods, and must continue to summarize, and finally find what suits them, so as to make learning more efficient.
Children who work hard are really distressing, they pay no less than others, and even far exceed the limit of what they can bear, but the effect is not satisfactory.
In the face of such children, in addition to the usual encouragement and support, parents must teach their children how to set goals, use their brains and hands more, summarize more, face themselves objectively, and find a learning style that suits them, so as to use their efforts in the right place and get results.
Author: Wait for the wind to come
A working mother of two children, holding a pen in her left hand and a baby in her right hand, she likes to read, write, and paint, and firmly believes that even if she lives in a chicken feather, she must have her own poetry and distance in her heart.
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