Sanmao once wrote in the book:
"People and things in the world come and go at their own time.
We just need to cultivate ourselves to be the best we can be, and then wait quietly. ”
I think so.
People's choices and efforts in the first half of their lives often determine their happiness index in the second half of their lives.
Your cultivation of yourself and your investment in life will affect the quality of life to a certain extent.
I often hear people around me lament that when I was young, I spent most of my time, money and energy to please unworthy people, but in the end I had nothing.
Half a life has passed before I understand: raising yourself well and leaving the back road is the most cost-effective investment.
When a woman reaches a certain age, she will exchange a part of her savings for 5 things, spend her money and energy on these 5 things, and she will definitely thank herself after 10 years.
Invest in your health and enrich your body
I once watched a video by writer Li Xiaoyi, in which she talked about the change in her outlook on life.
Before the age of forty, she was busy all day long in order to live, running non-stop.
Because she had experienced unemployment, she felt that happiness was "having": having money, a car, a house, and a career.
Until she was forty years old, she collapsed on the hospital bed due to overwork, and her physical discomfort made her suddenly wake up:
In fact, happiness should be "nothing": worry-free, worry-free, disease-free, and disaster-free.
What you think is "something" is actually for others to see, and "nothing" is the most valuable wealth left to yourself.
Since then, she has begun to exercise, go to bed early and get up early, have a regular schedule and gradually develop good living habits, and her mental outlook and health are getting better and better.
After middle age, don't consume your body, don't indulge yourself, only by paying attention to health, can you keep the foundation of happiness.
From now on, learn to enrich your body:
1. Eat three meals a day. Eat on time every day, avoid overeating, reasonable nutrition, and reduce the intake of high-oil, high-sugar and heavy-tasting foods;
2. Exercise regularly. Find a suitable exercise method for yourself, such as yoga, skipping rope, swimming, Baduanjin, etc., step by step, take advantage of the good time, and find the vitality of the body;
3. Do regular physical examinations. The longer it drags on, the heavier the torture will be, and the more money will be spent.
Remember: when your body is safe and sound, the possibilities are endless.
Source: Visual China
Self-enhancement and broadening one's cognition
There is a question on Zhihu: What is the sign of a person's maturity?
A high praise replied: "I understand that the ruler is short, the inch is long, the material is insufficient, and the wisdom is unknown." After all, people's cognition is limited, and no matter what age they reach, they must not forget to increase their self-appreciation. ”
Your perception determines the way you solve problems, and your pattern determines the scope of your view of the world.
The poet Yu Xiuhua's life has had too many ups and downs, and the road she has traveled is full of thorns.
She was born with cerebral palsy due to lack of oxygen, and since she was a child, she has had limited mobility and slurred speech.
After getting married, I saw the cruel side of marriage again, and unfortunately suffered violence.
In the gloom of life, she began to read various books in her spare time, from which she gained strength, and slowly tried to write poetry.
Not long after, she went out to work with her fellow villagers, enriching her thoughts while seeing the vastness of the world, and writing more and more poems.
In 2015, Guangxi Normal University Press published her poetry collection "Moonlight Falls on the Left Hand", which sold more than 100,000 copies after its release, and later won an award.
In the process of continuous improvement, Yu Xiuhua enriched her soul step by step, enriched her life, and stood in a higher place.
On the way to growing old, maintaining a sober attitude and broadening one's horizons is an essential part of life.
Learn to add value to your life, invest in your thoughts, read more, keep records, think diligently, and supplement your knowledge blind spots.
Don't set limits for yourself, break the limitations of your thinking, try to read all kinds of books, use the income from reading to live, and read with the feelings of life.
Believe me: the height of cognition has increased, and you can look up at the stars even if you are deep in the mud.
Source: Visual China
The secret to cultivating a hobby and having a happy one
Jiang Xun said a passage in "Six Lectures on Loneliness":
"The first object of love in life should be yourself, write poems to yourself, talk to yourself, be quiet in a space, and listen to your heartbeat and breathing.
This being doesn't panic when it goes out. On the contrary, a life that is like a headless fly outside is most afraid of loneliness. ”
If you think about it, the so-called "space" that belongs to you is actually doing what you like and reaping happiness from it.
When a person is immersed in what he loves, he will stay away from trivial troubles and recharge his body and mind.
There is a relative in the family who used to talk about all kinds of trivial things, and habitually complaining is part of her life.
In addition to handling housework and taking care of her family, as long as she is free, she is at a loss, and she will always think about the pain she has experienced many times.
As soon as he opened his mouth, he resented the unfairness of fate, worried that everything would not go well, and even anxious about the outcome that did not happen.
Later, under the leadership of a friend, she fell in love with photography, and in her spare time, she would ask her friends to go outdoors to take pictures, see the beautiful scenery, and exchange shooting skills.
Under the filling of hobbies, her personality has become much more cheerful, she smiles all day long, and she is getting younger and younger.
It is not terrible to get old in the skin, but what is terrible is that people are not old, but their hearts have already grown old.
Cultivating a hobby and investing in your own interests is the best way to love yourself and heal your soul.
1. Find at least one hobby of interest: taking pictures, climbing, traveling, painting, etc., all of which can enrich the colors of life.
2. Allocate your time wisely: What you spend your time, energy, and money on, you will be rewarded accordingly.
3. Keep yourself busy: If you are busy, your life will be fulfilling, and if you are idle, you will slowly fall into disuse.
At its best, as Marquez said, "I've been young, I've been down, I've been happy, I've been in love with life." ”
Source: Visual China
Raise your children well and accumulate the blessings of life
What do you regret the most at the end of your life?
In the online poll on this issue, 62% of people chose to regret not educating their children properly.
In real life, how many people, after paying a huge price, understand the importance of accompanying their children to grow up, and only then begin to regret not educating their children well.
Educating your children well is one of the most important undertakings for parents.
I read a news item not long ago that impressed me:
A mother in a remote mountainous area has educated four daughters who have graduated from prestigious schools, and all of them are excellent.
At that time, many families around them would let their children go out to work early to earn money to supplement their families and make ends meet.
But even if their family is average, in order to save money, their mother only eats one meal a day, and insists on letting the children study, no matter how hard and tired they are, they must also let the children have more life choices.
Now, through hard work, several children have good jobs after graduation, and they have also moved to big cities, and the children are with their mothers, and the family is happy.
In "The First Lesson of School", Dong Qing talked about a point of view:
"When educating children, you choose to make money and not discipline them.
When the child grows up, the money you have worked hard to earn for a lifetime will not be worth his defeat for a year. ”
No amount of success can make up for the failure of a child's education. Cultivating caring, sensible, and capable children is the true wealth of a family.
The money you invest in your children's growth will be blessed.
Be filial to your parents and leave no regrets in the future
Camus once said, "True generosity to the future is to give everything to the present." ”
Serious life is like this, and so is cherishing family affection. Once you miss the opportunity of the moment, it is an irreparable pain for the rest of your life.
After Sa Beining's mother died, he wanted to listen to his mother's voice, but when he opened the chat history, he couldn't find a single voice.
Kang Hui only realized after his mother left that he had taken so many photos on his mobile phone, but there was no photo with his mother.
And he finally has time to spend with his mother, but he can no longer see the person he misses the most.
Jia Ling couldn't let go of her heart for a long time because she didn't see her mother's last face.
The dialogue in the sketch "Hello Li Huanying" expressed the regrets of countless children in the world:
"Mom, I bought you a refrigerator, with double doors. ”
"Mom knows. ”
"Mom, I bought you that green leather coat. ”
"Mom knows. ”
"Mom, I miss you so much. ”
"Mom knows. ”
The most painful thing in life is that I finally have money and time to fulfill my filial piety, but when I look back, I find that all I have left is a debt.
The speed at which you make money can never keep up with the speed at which your parents are aging. Filial piety in time, and there will be no regrets after many years.
As Bi Shumin wrote in "Filial Piety is Priceless":
"Hurry up and do your filial piety for your parents. Maybe it's a mansion, maybe it's a brick and tile, maybe it's a wild goose on the other side of the ocean, maybe it's a message close at hand. ”
While people are still there, while there is time, start from these two things, be filial to your parents, and cherish the time together.
1. On weekdays, care more about the life of your parents, help them make up the items they need in terms of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and teach them how to use them, so as not to leave a sense of loss in their parents' hearts.
2. When the physical condition of the parents allows, accompany them to see the outside world more, take them to see new scenery, try new things, and appreciate the diversity of the world.
In the days to come, remember to go home often, and don't let love wait.
Source: Visual China
I agree with Yang Lan's words:
"A happy life does not fall from the sky, learn to invest and save, in order to have enough capital to support the future. ”
Life is like that, where you invest, you reap.
Everything has a cause and effect, and whatever cause you give, you will get the same value.
Rely on your own strength, invest well for the rest of your life, save for your own happiness, and this life will not be disappointed.
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