Those broken things in the countryside

I have been sleeping with the baby and his father for more than 200 days, the other day, I asked him for 500 yuan, he not only did not give money, but also some small actions he did surprised me, and the thin coolness of human nature was vividly reflected in him. Recently, because of my son's money from school, I took the initiative to talk to my son and his father. I said: In September, a lot of expenses are deducted in this month, all the personal money received by Grandpa Niu Niu's death is in your place, and now the human exchanges are all my gifts, so calculated down, this month (September) will cost nearly 26,000 yuan, all the costs of the baby's school will add up to less than 3,000 yuan, and the 500 yuan of living expenses of the stars will be paid. For more than half a year, you spent 300 yuan for him to buy a bicycle, all other expenses are my responsibility, the past has passed, I do not bother with you, the 500 yuan living expenses on your mobile phone to pay, my mobile phone is not bound to this bank card. You save a little outside, you save out, the children are in common with us, you should take some responsibility. He listened to me say that he wanted him to pay 500 yuan for living expenses, he hesitated for a while, he said: "I have no money, the old man died and borrowed the money to pay the bill, she was born by you, she didn't look for me, besides, you can do some, you can make money, of course, you should pay for it." With that, he went back and continued playing games on his phone. His daughter's 500 yuan living expenses, he did not give. I couldn't influence my son's schooling because of the contradictions of adults, so I silently went to the bank to pay my son's living expenses. Since I slept in the room with his father, he seems to enjoy the current conversation, he drove out at 6 o'clock every morning, on time, and came home at 9 o'clock at night, completely treating this home as a hotel. I came back to bed every night and was basically not at home the rest of the time. I was no longer interested in his whereabouts, because I didn't say anything when I asked him, so why bother to guess where he was going, so we couldn't ask each other about each other's lives, and the days were consumed like this. Many friends gave me advice: tell me to be soft, and to communicate with him gently. For the sake of the child, I also try to lower my posture to cater to him, in fact, people who are born cold, selfish, and indifferent, you resolve the contradiction with enthusiasm, in exchange for more cold-blooded. Even if it is his own flesh and blood, he can also be treacherous. Yesterday, I went to the county town with my friends and drivers to buy farm pigs, but because the mountains are far away, it is inconvenient to take my son to travel, so I left my children at home. Before going out in the morning, I scooped up the rice and put it in the rice cooker, and the upper lattice was filled with 3 sausages on a plate, and I told my daughter to start cooking rice at ten o'clock. Arrange the recipes in this way, and she can eat without stir-frying. At eleven o'clock in the afternoon, I received a call from my son in the mountains. On the other end of the phone, he was crying bitterly. At that time, I was panicked, my son was a very strong child, usually small pain, he never cried out in pain. When she was more than three years old, her left calf was burned by the chimney of the motorcycle, and she didn't cry. She can also endure the usual small bumps. Hearing him cry like this, I was anxious, he must have something happening. Sure enough, she was burned by the water vapor in her hands. While comforting my son, I asked him to apply some salt, and there was aloe vera on the balcony, and asked him to wipe the burned area with aloe vera. My son followed my soil method, and he stopped crying. After doing all this, he called me again, and he said that the aloe vera was cold and not as hot as it had just been, and he also told me that his father slept at home. The child's father's room is the closest room to the dining room and the kitchen, and the son cries so loudly and sadly, and does he really not hear him when he sleeps in the room? I know in my heart that he ignores me, even his son he also ignores, his paranoia is probably "love the house and Wu", regardless of men and women, if you don't even care about your own children, is this kind of human nature distorted? Fortunately, his indifference to our mother and son did not make me give up on myself, but made me more motivated to hone my work, and my son was also confident and optimistic. It is said that the person who hurts you is crossing you, and the person who loves you is helping you. Everything his father did was really crossing me. Just like the child and his grandmother are picking behind the scenes, the child and his father force me in life, let me take the initiative to propose a divorce, and their family can enjoy it unscrupulously. In fact, after a year of trials and persecutions, I am no longer the weak me I used to be. The selfishness of the child's father is not only reflected in money, but also in the small details of life. He's always had a habit of buying snacks and putting them in the trunk. Usually, when he buys milk, he buys the whole carton and puts it in the car, and occasionally he will take a few boxes back, and when he takes it home, he hides it in the drawer of his room. A few days ago, the son went to his room to get a carton of milk to drink, and now he has locked the drawer, thinking it is funny and sad, a carton of milk is generally no more than 4 yuan, what is his purpose in doing so? I confess that I have become selfish now, I am not as lavish as I used to be, and I no longer give red envelopes to my niece during the New Year's Festival, and I no longer give money to my children and her grandmother. Because I understand that any relationship needs to be exchanged for heart, not blindly paying to satisfy the greed of others. Now, when I'm idle, I look back at the people and things I've been through. Suddenly I found that no matter how big things were at that time, it seemed that this was not the case now, and I would even feel that I was too fussy and naïve at that time, there was nothing that could not be passed, and there was no one who could not be separated. Sometimes I have to admit that it is because of these experiences that I have become so strong now. #Marriage & Family # #感情 #