-- "Self-Driven Growth" Chapter 6 #以书之名#亲爱的朋友们, today let's explore a thought-provoking topic: Should contemporary parents let go and give their children more autonomy?
It all started with the best-selling book "Self-Driven Growth" co-authored by American writers William Stiksrud and Ned Johnson. The book makes a striking point: overprotection can limit a child's potential. On the contrary, moderate decentralization allows children to grow independently, which helps to cultivate valuable qualities such as willpower and self-discipline.
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Conventional wisdom holds that children are like seedlings with dead lips and teeth, and if they are not properly guarded, they will go astray. But the new theory goes the other way, arguing that fear should not be the whole of guardianship, because in addition to autonomy and control, human beings also contain valuable virtues such as cooperation, sacrifice, and self-discipline.
As the book reads, "While boundaries are necessary, cultivating self-discipline is even more significant." How can the law be on our lips all the time? Life cannot be measured by definition. When there is no supervision, self-discipline is like a beacon, standardizing behavior and leading you forward. "
Inspired by this thought, one parent opened up about his unique parenting journey. At first, the parent was overprotective of the child, fearing that he would be injured while exploring. However, the child gradually began to sneakily "little rebellion" and started his own little things. Although the child did suffer setbacks at first, he did not give up, but learned various skills for independent living, and his ability to be self-disciplined and self-disciplined increased day by day.
In this way, the parent gradually let go and let the child fly freely, and finally the child was like an eagle flying high, and realized his dream under the guidance of self-discipline. The parent sincerely praised: "Only under the guidance of self-discipline can we truly show our potential and create our own brilliance." "
These views have sparked heated discussions from all walks of life. Proponents argue that there are risks associated with letting go, but fear should not be a shackle, and that self-discipline is the key to prevention. Opponents worry that too much autonomy can disorient children and make big mistakes before they reach maturity.
Undoubtedly, this theory challenges the long-standing traditional concept of education and can be called a "new revolution" in the field of parenting. Do you agree with this theory or reject it, or do you feel the need for a golden mean? Regardless of your position, it is impossible to deny that this is an important proposition worthy of our deep thought. In this era of uncertainty, how should we guide our children to grow up, continue to use the old way of thinking or boldly innovate, and the answer may lie in this big debate.
(Author: Written by Wang Yixin in Yulin City, Guangxi on April 25, 2024) #以书之名##分享一本你最喜欢的书#影响一生的好图书#爆料#