My name is Li Wen, I am 28 years old and I am a human resources specialist. Since I was a child, I was not accompanied by my parents, and I was brought up by my grandparents. My grandmother was a gentle and virtuous old man, but my grandfather had a very good temper and was always very strict with us juniors. So I've always been apprehensive about my elders.
Last year, I married my high school classmate Zhao Ming, and my mother-in-law, Mrs. Zhao, is a rather "traditional" elder. She attaches great importance to the hierarchical order of the family and is very strict with her daughter-in-law. Even if she used a little extra salt in her housework, she would be furious and reprimanded. Her face is always ugly and she always seems to be dissatisfied with everything around her. Sometimes even Zhao Ming is counted down by her, not to mention my daughter-in-law.
Since I got married, I have always been very careful not to make my mother-in-law angry. But no matter how hard I tried, she always had a reason to beat me. Once, when I made her a cup of brown sugar ginger tea, she hated me for brewing it for too long and drank the tea badly. I bowed my head and admitted my mistake, but she was even more angry and reprimanded me fiercely in front of Zhao Ming. I was so embarrassed by the rebuke that tears flowed down my face.
One day, as soon as I got home from work, my mother-in-law greeted me with a straight face. I felt a "chuckle" in my heart and secretly became nervous. I saw her holding a plate in her hand, on which were a few leftover steamed buns. She threw the plate in front of me and asked, "What's going on? Why are your steamed buns so old? Did you pick them up from the garbage?"
In fact, I don't believe half of my mother-in-law's words. I know very well that Zhao Ming has never slandered me like this. The reason why my mother-in-law is so paranoid is probably because of some problems in her old age.
But I can't refute her directly. My mother-in-law is dedicated to protecting her son behind her, and my daughter-in-law is an outsider in her eyes. If I confront her, she will be even more vicious, thinking that I am an unfilial daughter-in-law. At that time, not only will the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deteriorate further, but even Zhao Ming will fall into the predicament of being caught in the middle.
I can only hold back this breath for the time being, and wait for her to calm down, and then explain it properly.
I saw my mother-in-law's face getting more and more ugly, and she clenched her fists as if she was going to get angry at any moment. In order to avoid the conflict from further intensifying, I quickly lowered my head and said softly: "Mother-in-law, I know that I am wrong, and what you said is right. I will definitely correct it and never trouble you again. "
I hurriedly explained: "Mother-in-law, this is the leftover steamed bun from the previous two days, and I am afraid that it will be too wasteful to throw it away, so I am going to use it to drink the soup." "
"Hmph, you can't fool me with that!" The mother-in-law didn't buy it at all, "I see that you are deliberately dealing with me, do you dislike me for being old and unable to eat fresh things?"
"Mother-in-law, how can it be? I said with a smile on my face.
"Don't do this! You think I don't know what you're saying about me behind my back?" The mother-in-law's voice became louder and louder, "You always dislike me for being troublesome as an old woman! I see that you are jealous of my son's money and want to kick me out of the house!"
"Mother-in-law, you really misunderstood. I burst into tears, "How can I have these distorted thoughts you said? You are my dearest family." "
My mother-in-law's series of accusations pushed back my explanations. I was speechless, I just felt very aggrieved.
At this moment, Zhao Ming returned home and saw the scene of our quarrel. He hurriedly stepped forward to persuade: "Mom, why are you angry with Wenwen again? What did she do wrong?"
"Isn't that clear to you?" The mother-in-law was right, "She deliberately used leftover steamed buns to perfunctory me, she simply looked down on me as an old woman!"
"Mom, you're really cranky. Zhao Ming said helplessly, "How can Wenwen mean that? She just wants to make use of the leftover steamed buns, don't be so wasteful." "
"Hmph, you just get used to her! she always speaks ill of me behind my back!"
Hearing my mother-in-law's words, I was so embarrassed. I genuinely treat her as a relative, and I have never gossiped about her. It seemed that she was suspicious and did not have the slightest trust in me. Our years of getting along seemed like a farce in her heart.
I felt like I had been wronged too badly. It was obviously her who was blindly suspicious, but she threw the pot to me. I had nowhere to vent my anger at the moment, and I didn't dare to talk back to my mother-in-law, so I could only endure my grief and indignation. Tears swirled in my eyes, and I blinked and blinked hard to keep them from coming out.
I lowered my head and bit my lip tightly, for fear that if I was not careful, I would break my guard and cry. Seeing this, Zhao Ming hurriedly stepped forward and hugged my shoulders and comforted: "Wenwen, don't take it too seriously. Mom is just too stubborn, don't take it to heart. "
I nodded, holding back my cry.
"Mom, don't say it!" Zhao Ming interrupted her mother-in-law, "Wenwen is filial to you, how can you think that she says bad things about you?
"You kid is a strong daughter-in-law! Don't you find out that she sneered at me and took revenge?"
"Mom, you just don't have any evidence to be suspicious. Wenwen has been serving you with all her heart and soul since she married into our family, and you can't show any evidence that she is sorry for you!"
But in front of my mother-in-law, I never said a word of foul language, let alone slandered her. There were some minor differences and conflicts between us, but I always tried to get along.
As I spoke, I bowed respectfully to my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law was a little overwhelmed by my bow, and she couldn't speak.
Seeing this, Zhao Ming hurriedly grabbed my hand and said, "Wenwen, why are you depreciating yourself like this? It's obvious that your mother is suspicious of you out of thin air, what mistake do you have to admit?"
I know in my heart that the reason why my mother-in-law is so paranoid is probably a common psychology of the elderly. She is empty and lonely in her heart, and she is dependent on her son and daughter-in-law, so she is extremely sensitive and suspicious. If I use strong words, it will only make her more suspicious, and then push our mother and son away.
Instead of intensifying the contradictions, it is better to bow your head and admit your mistakes first. When my mother-in-law's anger is gone, I will explain it well, and she will naturally believe me. After all, her old man's vision is not too long-term and forward-looking, as long as we are patient, her heart knot will be untied.
I said to Zhao Ming: "It's okay, mother-in-law, she just loves us too much, that's why she cares so much." We should be more considerate of her feelings. "
"Mom, don't worry. Zhao Ming hurriedly said, "Wenwen and I both know that we are wrong, and we will definitely correct it." Don't be the boss with a bitter gourd face, and happily live with us. "
"Mom, are we going to say bad things about you?" Zhao Ming shook his head again and again, "You are our dearest and dearest person." "
Seeing my mother-in-law's expression gradually softening, I finally breathed a sigh of relief. Zhao Ming stepped forward, took his mother-in-law's hand, and said earnestly: "Mom, don't be cranky. Wenwen is filial to you, you have to cherish her. "
The mother-in-law nodded, and a smile finally appeared on her face. She patted the back of Zhao Ming's hand and said, "Okay, okay, I know." I'm an old bone, that is, I'm too worried. "
When I saw this scene, I was secretly glad that the conflict between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was finally resolved. As long as you use patience and wisdom, your mother-in-law's suspicion can be gradually eliminated.
Just when I thought that the mother and son were reconciled and everything would be reconciled, my mother-in-law's expression suddenly changed. She looked at me with wariness and hostility in her eyes.
Looking at my mother-in-law's smiling expression, I couldn't help but be shocked. Could it be that she is thinking about me again, and she wants to find my fault? Just as I was thinking nonsense, my mother-in-law suddenly spoke.
"Wenwen, do you say that you really treat me like a relative?" The mother-in-law suddenly asked.
"Of course it's true. I said sincerely, "Mother-in-law, you are my dearest and dearest person, how can I perfunctory you?"
"Hmph, that's a nice thing you said. The mother-in-law sneered, "However, if you are sincere, you should treat me like your own mother." "
"You're like my mother. Without hesitation, I said, "That's how I've always seen you." "
"Really?" The mother-in-law's face suddenly sank, "Then you have to be 100% filial to me and obey my orders like you do with your own mother!"
As she spoke, my mother-in-law suddenly took out a pair of scissors from her pocket and was about to cut my hair!
I was startled, took a few steps back, and looked at her in horror. Zhao Ming was also anxious when he saw this, and hurriedly stepped forward to stop his mother-in-law's arm.
"Mom, what are you doing here?" Zhao Ming desperately stopped her, "Don't be confused for a while!"
"Shut up!" The mother-in-law yelled at Zhao Ming, "You are my son, how can I discipline your daughter-in-law, it is not your turn to interfere!"
As she spoke, she broke free of Zhao Ming's hand and aimed at me is a cut! I hurriedly turned sideways and let her cut it empty. When my mother-in-law saw this, she slashed at me even more frantically.
I couldn't help but feel scared and helpless. A child is not a fish, can An help me settle this chaos? I can only retreat for the time being, and find a way to calm my mother-in-law's emotions first. But now she is like crazy, and she can't listen to any persuasion at all!
Just when I was terrified, Zhao Ming suddenly grabbed my hand and protected me behind me. He stood between me and my mother-in-law, looked her in the eye and said, "Mom, don't act impulsively. Wenwen is 100% filial to you, how can you hurt her like this?"
"Shut up, you kid aren't on my side?" The mother-in-law glanced at Zhao Ming fiercely, "Since Wenwen said that she treats me as filial as her own mother, then I want her to listen to me like her own mother!
"Mom, even if you cut Wenwen's hair, she is still your daughter-in-law!" Zhao Ming said anxiously, "You hurt her heart too much, how can I allow it?"
"Hmph, you kid is too good to protect you!" The mother-in-law scolded, "It seems that you really want to kick my old woman out of the house!"
Seeing my mother-in-law so resolute, I could no longer restrain the sadness and grievances in my heart. Tears welled up in my eyes, and I cried uncontrollably.
I truly treat my mother-in-law as a relative, and I never thought of hurting her or kicking her out. But she just thinks I'm perfunctory to her, and she doesn't even believe her son. I thought that as long as I was more considerate and tolerant, my mother-in-law would let go of her prejudices. But she didn't expect that her suspicion had reached such a serious point and she would do such a radical thing!
I felt like I couldn't survive in this home anymore. My mother-in-law is so paranoid and crazy, and our years together seem to be a farce. How dedicated I was, but she always compared my heart to her heart, thinking that I was perfunctory and hurting her. No matter how much I explained, she wouldn't listen.
Just when I was in great pain and despair, my mother-in-law suddenly put down the scissors in her hand. She stepped forward and hugged me tightly.
I never expected that my mother-in-law would suddenly change her attitude, take the initiative to hug me and apologize to me. Looking at her swollen eyes from crying, I immediately understood everything.
It turned out that the reason why she acted so radically was just to test whether I was truly filial to her. She always felt that I was perfunctory to her, which is why she was so suspicious of me. And my crying finally made her realize that I was sincere to her.
My heart was overwhelmed with tremendous emotion. It turned out that my mother-in-law didn't mean to hurt me, but out of a sick love. She is so eager for our love that she will do such an abnormal thing.