Preamble:
Recently, a news about the bride price has caused a heated discussion on the Internet, and the story of a father-in-law asking his son-in-law for an 80 yuan bride price has become a hot topic among many netizens. In this era, with the continuous progress and development of society, people's concepts of marriage and family are also quietly changing, and traditional marriage customs are gradually being questioned and challenged. The issue of bride price, as an important part of marriage, has also become one of the hot topics in the current society.
1. The bride price is not a "cheap sale", but a symbol of the marriage to 80 points
In traditional Chinese wedding customs, the bride price has always been indispensable, whether in the countryside or in the city, the bride price carries a special meaning. In this story, the father-in-law asked his son-in-law for a bride price of 80 yuan, not for money, but to use this special number to symbolize the meaning of marriage to 80 points. 80, homonym "eighty", is a very auspicious number in Chinese, taking its meaning of "eighty years old" and "white-headed and old", hoping that the daughter and son-in-law can be happy until the age of white-headed age.
In fact, it is not uncommon to see such bride price requirements in life, and some parents will put forward some special requirements according to their own preferences and habits to represent the blessings and expectations for their children. For example, some people will ask for apples, pears or some other fruits, meaning "peace and security" and "sweet and sweet", and some people will ask for some special items, such as cultural toys, antiques, etc., in the hope that their children's marriage can last forever, and some people will ask for some money to hope that their children's marriage can always be happy.
No matter what kind of bride price requirements, in fact, there are profound cultural connotations behind them, and these requirements are more of a sense of ritual and symbolism, not for the pursuit of material returns. In this story, the father-in-law asked for the 80 yuan bride price, the same is true, he does not care about the amount of the 80 yuan, but hopes that his daughter and son-in-law can experience this blessing with their hearts, and manage each other's marriage with love and tolerance, so that the score of the marriage can always be above 80 points.
Second, the issue of bride price needs to be more inclusive and understanding
However, although the father-in-law's approach contains good wishes for marriage, it has not been unanimously recognized by the outside world, but has caused heated discussions and controversies among many netizens. On this issue, the opinions of netizens can be said to be very different, some people think that the father-in-law is "selling" his daughter cheaply, some people criticize the imprisonment of the patriarchal society, and some people feel that the 80 yuan bride price has no special meaning and can be dealt with casually.
In fact, to a certain extent, the various views of netizens on this issue also reflect the traditional concept of marriage and family in the current society, and not everyone can understand and tolerate these traditional customs. In contemporary society, more and more people have begun to pursue the concept of free and equal marriage, they feel that marriage should not be swayed by money and bride price, but should be based on sincerity and understanding, and bride price should not become a necessity for marriage, let alone a standard to measure feelings.
Of course, everyone has a different view on the bride price issue, which is understandable, because different regions and cultural backgrounds will have different understandings and requirements on the bride price issue. Therefore, we should be more tolerant and understanding of the bride price, and should not blindly emphasize the amount of the bride price, but should think about the emotions and blessings behind the bride price, and understand and respect these traditional marriage customs with a tolerant heart.
3. Marriage should be based on love and mutual understanding
In fact, no matter what kind of marriage customs, they cannot fully represent the whole of marriage, and marriage should be based on love and mutual understanding. Whether it is the amount of bride price or some other wedding customs, it should not become a burden of marriage, but should become the sweetness and memory of marriage.
In contemporary society, more and more people have begun to reflect on the concept of marriage, and they feel that everything in marriage should be decided by the parties themselves, rather than being swayed by external pressure and imprisonment. Whether it is the time of marriage, or the form of the wedding, or even all aspects of life, it should be discussed and decided by both husband and wife, because only in this way can you build a happy family that truly belongs to you.
Of course, this does not mean that we should completely abandon the traditional marriage customs, but should change and innovate these customs to a certain extent on the basis of respect and tolerance, so that it is more in line with the lifestyle and marriage concept of contemporary people. When we are faced with some special requirements, we should also learn to treat them with a peaceful heart, manage the marriage with love and understanding, and believe that as long as the husband and wife have sincere feelings and mutual support, no matter what kind of difficulties and challenges, they can face and overcome together.
Epilogue:
Marriage is never a simple matter, it requires both husband and wife to manage and protect with their hearts, and it also needs the understanding and support of society. And in this process, no matter what kind of bride price requirements, we can't lose the original intention, that is, to manage a beautiful marriage with love and tolerance. I hope that in the future, whether it is a married couple, or relatives and friends around them, they can treat the bride price issue with a peaceful heart, bless and support each couple, so that their marriage can always be happy.