As children, we thought that God was fair and that career opportunities were equal. When we were young, we firmly believed that love was pure and unbound by worldly ideas. However, once you step into society, this naivety may soon disintegrate.
Especially for classmates from ordinary families, they used to look down on wealth and wealth, and had a negative impression of those who relied on their parents or marriage to live a happy life, feeling that they were "unproductive". However, it is only through the hardships of life that one can truly understand that there is no practical point in pretending to be arrogant.
However, it is difficult to truly understand how much of an impact a person's "identity" has in reality without experiencing different circumstances. A girl is aware of the unexpected diversity of human nature in the midst of the huge differences between inside and outside the system.
This girl successfully entered the company through the national civil service examination, and found that her social circle improved instantly, and the person she was introduced was several grades higher, and even her predecessor took the initiative to show her favor. In fact, according to the current employment situation and the popularity of applying for the examination, the civil service examination has become a popular choice for college students all over the country.
The answer to the question is very simple: passing the national civil service examination is equivalent to getting an "iron job bowl", which is completely different from a position in a private company. Not only does work have a more humane pace, but also a more stable life, which is enough to meet the middle and old age with peace of mind, and the pension is also relatively high.
Young people never thought that no matter how decent it was, this was just a profession with a monthly salary of a few thousand yuan. For women in particular, the status of a national civil servant may symbolize the beginning of the "wheel of fortune" turning.
One graduate shared her experience of comparing before and after being admitted to the civil service, which not only made her parents proud, but also experienced a stark difference when her friends and relatives introduced her partner.
When she graduated from college, she failed to find her dream job, and perhaps in the eyes of those around her, she was just like many young people who were "difficult to find employment": lack of ability, low vision, and a mediocre career. Therefore, most of the jobs that have been introduced to her involve sales, waiters, factory front-line employees or other part-time jobs in small enterprises. In contrast to the rejection of the meeting after the meeting, the intermediary also accused her of being too critical.
Once she became a national civil servant, she found that the grade of the person she was introduced had skyrocketed. Obviously, she was almost recommended by others to the most well-connected people, whether they were well-off or had small businesses.
Or at least like her, she has a stable job in government institutions, schools, tertiary hospitals, etc. This allowed her to finally understand the essence of the term "intermarriage within the system". Even the ex, after learning the news, changed his attitude and came over to show goodwill and tried to inquire about the details.
This girl's experience is full of "magical" and real elements, especially in the relationship, pay attention to avoid too much contact with the two types of people. Obtaining the qualification of a national civil servant is essentially a relatively decent profession, but it does not mean that the future will inevitably flourish. Female college students initially thought that this simply meant easier work and less worries about their later years.
She didn't expect that her parents, relatives, neighbors, and even her ex would have a significant change in their attitude towards her. This made her sigh that interpersonal relationships in reality are so realistic. It turned out that it was not that her relatives and friends didn't know her, but that she was not worthy of those excellent people in their eyes in the past.
However, after the national examination came ashore, she was still her, and her personality did not change. It's just that because she changed jobs in the system, she has become "worth a different value" in everyone's eyes. The experience is both "magical" and real. However, there are many experienced people who remind her that now that she has seen all this, it is even more important to keep a clear head.
If the attitude of others towards you depends on your situation and occupation, it means that your status in their minds is not very significant. On the surface, the enthusiastic introduction may simply appreciate the value of your "resources".
There are two kinds of people, and even if they show enthusiasm for you, they should not be deeply acquainted. One is the people who not only don't help you when you're in trouble, but even take the initiative to hurt you. They only focus on the result, take personal interests as the primary consideration, and once a contradiction is involved, they will not hesitate to change their face and deny others.
Even if you are kind to them in normal times, if they think you are of no use or if you are frustrated, such people are like white-eyed wolves and will not be grateful to you at all.
The other type is the one who quickly changes their attitude to please you after seeing your situation improve. At the end of the day, they're passionate about "resources" rather than genuine concern for you personally. Sometimes, they may also like to tie up with people who are capable and are usually the ones who are most likely to bully the weak.
After successfully passing the national civil service examination, it is best to talk less about work with friends and family. People who haven't suffered in the workplace or at home can be overly idealistic. Fresh graduates are also reminded that if you are considering a civil service position or have successfully landed on shore, it is advisable to disclose relevant information carefully.
Entering a national or provincial exam is subject to political scrutiny, and sometimes the slightest reason can be used by others to attack you. Those candidates who have obviously entered the list of candidates but have been eliminated may have a whistleblower hidden behind them.
Often, people who are familiar and have crossed paths are more likely to understand some of the shortcomings of the past. Sometimes, some people are able to show great kindness to strangers, but cannot tolerate relatives or friends having a better life.
When dealing with interpersonal relationships, it is necessary to maintain a harmless mindset and maintain a certain vigilance. In addition, after becoming a civil servant, there are also relevant work regulations, and the scale of private participation in social activities is also limited. It is crucial for graduates to learn to avoid arousing unnecessary suspicion.
【Topic】Have you ever been in a similar situation?