Bao's mother came to me crying, and because of the breastfeeding problem, she had a conflict with her family.
She said to me:
Do I have to breastfeed?
If you can't breastfeed, is that I not loving my child?
Can you not be morally kidnapped!
I just don't want to feed them, what can they do to me!
Bao's mother is very aggrieved, how can she not love the baby conceived with her life. It's just that in the matter of breastfeeding, sometimes Bao Ma is really difficult.
It is precisely because I feel aggrieved, sad, sad, and stressed that there is less and less milk!
The milk is getting less and less!The more aggrieved and sad it is, and the pressure is great!(Vicious circle!)
After crying for a while, Bao Ma said:
It's not that I don't want to feed it, it's that I don't think I can't.
And there is such a nutritious milk powder, you can not feed human milk.
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Most of us know that breast milk is good, and breastfed babies have strong immunity and good physique, so if you can, breastfeed as much as possible.
However, when breastfeeding is practiced, there are many problems.
Like what:
1. Too much pressure:
Especially for mothers in confinement, when they first start feeding, they don't have much milk, and it is normal for them to have pain when feeding, which needs to be run-in. Moreover, many mothers are in the stage of Baby Blues, and they are depressed after giving birth, and the uncontrollable emotional difference of the mother is also said to be not working hard, selfish and hypocritical.
How can this make mothers breastfeed with peace of mind?
The more negative the voice, the more rebellious the mother, and the more she doesn't want to breastfeed.
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2. Postpartum fatigue, awakening of self-awareness:
"Mom is great, we are moms, but first of all, we are also ourselves";
"Children are very important, but we are also important, we don't want to feed because we are worried about the deformation of our breasts and don't want to lose our shape";
"It's not that I don't love my children and don't want to give them better. It's just that now I also need to be taken care of more";
"After giving birth, I was really tired, especially during childbirth, the trauma was severe, the pain was strong, and I couldn't sleep well because of breastfeeding after giving birth, and I was very depressed."
Mothers also have their own demands and ideas.
I hope that the family can communicate with the mother as much as possible about their wishes. If you really don't want pure breast milk, mixing is also an option.
3. Feeding is not smooth:
Nipple pain is mostly due to the wrong feeding position, resulting in nipple pain, cracking, and even "flowering";
Breast pain, mastitis, repeated milk blockage, areolar nipple edema, making every feeding like a "punishment";
There is not enough milk, the baby's nipple is confused, the little "milkman" does not work hard, and the mother's milk volume cannot come up;
This makes the process of breastfeeding like a constant fight.
If you encounter these problems, you can find a professional to help you adjust and communicate your feeding skills, which can usually be solved very well.
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4. Mistaking water milk ≈ breast milk:
This is what Wen Li is most worried about.
It was because of this misconception that the mother, who could have breastfed, gave up breast milk. Or a one-sided understanding that milk powder is good, so rudely let it replace breast milk. From the perspective of a nutritionist, I really feel very sorry!!
Because of the overwhelming number of advertisements for the milk powder in the hospital, the nutrition is actually not as good as imagined, and it is easy to deprive the mother and child of the opportunity to establish an intimate relationship.
A: The nutritional value of milk powder <<< breast milk!
Feed milk powder, easy to overfeed.
Feeding too much, it is easy to have too high blood sugar levels, and sleeping when you are full is not the "only" need of the baby.
If you don't have a good understanding of breastfeeding (what are the benefits of breastfeeding), breastfeeding can sometimes be difficult for new mothers to stick to.
Breastfeeding is a supplement to nutrients with a focus on providing "live" ingredients.
B: Feeding is good for the mother's recovery!
Confinement has special repair care in the confinement center, but if you want to recover well at home, can't you rely on the baby to suck more to help the mother discharge lochia?
C: The development of mother-child intimacy.
When the baby sucks on the mother's breast, as long as it does not hurt, the mother's feeling is happy and happy. The baby also has a sense of security that she/he knows that mom is there all the time. The development of this intimacy is beneficial for the mental health of both mother and child.
Milk powder is not a substitute for breastfeeding, but it is preferred in some specific situations, such as long-term separation of mother and child, and mother's inability to breastfeed due to illness.
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It's not because I'm doing lactation and nutrition that I have to stand in line and say that mothers must only and absolutely breastfeed!
That's not true!
Women have the right to make their own choices, we are multifaceted, we have the ability to take responsibility for our own decisions, and we do not have to listen to the voice of others (this person may be an elder, a parent, a husband, a friend, etc.).
Because breastfeeding is a matter between mom and baby.
I just hope that everyone will make a decision after they have a proper understanding of breastfeeding.
To feed or not to feed, it is worth affirming!