A long life, gains and losses, pain and happiness, love and hate, meeting and parting, back and forth, alternating.
Sometimes, people can't see clearly and can't figure out: what is the most important thing and what makes people the most happy?
Is it a long drought and nectar? Or is it a hometown where you know each other?
Is it the night of candles in the cave room? or is it the title of the gold list?
Maybe neither, because life is not like fireworks blooming in the night sky, only pursuing a moment of brilliance.
Life is more about the ordinary, tranquil and satisfying three meals and the four seasons.
In fact, for most people, living their lives well is more important than anything else.
This can't help but remind people of the poet Da Zeng's limerick poems, which are inseparable from the trivial things of life, but they are plain and flavorful.
01
- Love or hate, live with your heart.
Get up early to carry the cage to walk the birds, and come late to plant flowers and raise grass.
Happy to eat three meals, worry not to rush to run by yourself.
— Dasang
I don't know if you have ever felt this way:
Sometimes I feel that life is not easy, and there are always some troubles that trap me.
Some troubles, in the eyes of others, are too small to be mentioned, but for themselves, they are overwhelmed.
I want to break free but feel powerless, and I don't even think about it.
However, blindly allowing oneself to indulge in such emotions will not help.
It's better to cheer up and do other small things, so that you can get out of the cycle of bad emotions first, and then find a way to solve it.
Even if you just calm down and get a good night's sleep, when you wake up, you will naturally be relieved of the worries in your heart.
Or go for a walk, watch the flowers bloom, listen to the birds, in the small comfort of the birds and flowers, steal half a day of leisure, forget the heat and coldness of the world.
Even if the problem is still there and will not disappear automatically, the mentality is already different, and the heart is bigger, and the problem is smaller.
Liu Yuxi, a poet of the Tang Dynasty, did not have the decadence and lamentation of ordinary people when he encountered difficulties, but still lived with his heart and felt a different life.
Everyone thinks that autumn is sad, but Liu Yuxi thinks that autumn is better, "When the clear sky is lined with cranes on the clouds, it will lead poetry to the blue sky." ”
is in a humble room, but he still treats a spoonful of food, a scoop of drink, a flower and a grass with his heart.
If you focus more on things that make you feel calm, you won't always be entangled in one or two worries and can't extricate yourself, and your troubles won't run away.
02
- Don't live in the eyes of others.
Draw a scoop according to the gourd, and no one will appreciate it.
It doesn't matter whether you succeed or not, happiness is the first one.
- Dazeng
Life has always been like drinking water, knowing whether it is warm or cold.
Everyone has their own way of living, happiness does not need to be compared, and there is no need for others to draw conclusions about whether it is beautiful or not.
Don't live in the eyes of others, and don't live in the eyes of the world, the richness and pleasure of your own heart are the most important.
There was a painter who wanted to paint a picture that everyone praised, so he hung one of his paintings and a pen on the side of the street, with a line of text:
"If you feel that there is a bad pen, please do not hesitate to give advice. ”
The next day, he came to pick up the painting, and what he saw was a circled painting, barely without being blamed.
The painter was immediately disheartened and walked home dejectedly.
When turning into an alley, the painter saw an old man painting in the corner of the alley, attracting crowds of onlookers.
Seeing that the old man's face was complacent, the painter stepped forward and asked the old man how to paint.
When the old man heard about the painter's experience, he smiled and said:
"I don't have any skills, but every time I finish a painting, I feel so happy that I don't need a word of praise from others. ”
The painter suddenly realized that he was the protagonist of life, had nothing to do with others, and did not always have to live in the eyes of others.
Standing in the world, if you cook a small fresh, it is difficult to adjust the mouth.
If you are kind, some people will say that it is hypocritical, if you are excellent, some people will say that it is just luck, if you are grateful, some people will say that it is groveling......
Living in the eyes of others, it is easy to be confused by others and put yourself in chaos.
If you want to live a good life, don't base your happiness on the eyes of others.
A lifetime is not long, even if no one appreciates it, you must know how to have fun and live your own life.
03
- Although life is light, it is good to be content.
Every day, my mind is calm, and there is nothing wrong with my body.
Life is happy, and what do you complain about.
- Dazeng
The mind is stable and healthy, what is more precious in this world?
There are thousands of mansions and thousands of waists, which are not as good as health and worry-free.
In the book "Xi Bao", it is said: What I want most is love, a lot of love, and if there is no love, money is good. If I don't have money, at least I'm still healthy.
Living a healthy life is already the greatest possession in itself, and when I think about it, I feel much more stable and happy.
Life always forces us to pursue all kinds of things, and sometimes we don't want to stop even though we already have a lot of them.
Walked all the way, lost all the way, and when one day I suddenly looked back, only to find that the most precious thing had been held in my hands.
After going through hardships, you know that peace is precious, after going through dangers, you know that it is rare to be open, after going through quarrels, you know that it is good to be together, and after going through prosperity, you know that contentment is precious.
The most tiring thing in life is to stand in happiness and find happiness, and not know happiness in happiness.
Turning a blind eye to the happiness you have, looking up at the seemingly glorious happiness of others, and then lamenting that your life is not good.
In the end, I found myself like a little monkey in a fable, picking up sesame seeds and losing watermelons.
It is impossible for a person to have everything as he wishes, but the heart can be content and happy.
The philosopher Socrates, at first, lived in a room of seven or eight square meters with a few friends, which was very crowded, but he still felt happy, because there were like-minded friends who could communicate and chat at any time.
Later, his friends moved out one by one, and he was the only one left, and he was happy because there were still many books to accompany him.
Later, he moved into a seven-storey building and lived on the ground floor, in a damp and noisy environment, which he found easy to move things in and out of.
A year later, he gave up the house to an elderly man with a disability and lived on the highest floor himself, and he felt that he could exercise by climbing up and down, and everything was fine with good light.
The world is impermanent.
If you have a river, you should rejoice in the long flow of the river, and don't be depressed just because you can't get the grandeur of the sea.
If you have green leaves, you will be happy with the vitality of green leaves, and don't be depressed just because you can't get the charm and beauty of flowers.
It is not because of a good life that life is smooth, but because of knowing contentment, you can always feel satisfied.