"Every woman should be the heroine on the stage of life, but when we get married, especially after becoming a mother, we are more like extras. ”
Gentle, stable, and warm mothers are often able to paint a positive personality background for their children's lives, making their children's hearts safer, more confident, and more powerful.
Just like Fu Juan, the influence on the three sisters of Ouyang Nana is general.
In the variety show "It's a Daughter and a Mother", Ouyang Nana's mother Fu Juan took the three sisters to participate in a variety show.
never thought that Fu Juan, who has always been behind the scenes, raised 3 daughters who are so good.
The eldest daughter Ouyang Nini is a fashion blogger with her own independent brand, the second daughter Ouyang Nana is a well-known cello music talent, and the youngest daughter Ouyang Didi is a member of the new girl group Gen1es.
The three daughters are not only excellent, but each of them has sunshine, kindness, warmth and love hidden in their personalities.
After watching their family, netizens collectively shouted:
"I want to have 3 children too!"
As a mother of a family with many children, Fu Juan has done her best to play the role of a mother.
She has done a very good job of balancing it, so that all three daughters can feel their mother's love for them.
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The balancing law of "mother migratory birds".
As a mother, how do you balance family and work?
Fortunately, Fu Juan, as Ouyang Nana's agent, spent most of her time with Ouyang Nana.
But she did not neglect the care and companionship of her eldest daughter Ouyang Nini and youngest daughter Ouyang Didi.
At different times, she will adjust her time and the mode of getting along with them according to the actual situation of her three daughters.
When the eldest daughter Ouyang Nini went to study in France, Fu Juan would fly over to accompany her at this special stage.
But she will also make an agreement with her youngest daughter Ouyang Didi that she will take her to Hong Kong Disneyland on a plane printed with Hello Kitty.
When Ouyang Nana was admitted to Berklee College of Music in the United States, Fu Juan would not hesitate to choose to accompany Nana in a foreign country.
For the 3 daughters, no matter who it is, as long as the daughters need it, Fu Juan will fly over to accompany them as soon as possible.
She knows how to give timely companionship and care to each child at different stages of growth, so there is no shortage of love in every child's heart.
Ouyang Nana said:
"In the process of growing up, whether it is learning companionship or developing hobbies, we can feel her care and care. ”
Like a migratory bird, Fu Juan travels back and forth between her hometown and the city where her children live all year round.
Even if it is a "migratory bird mother", Fu Juan cannot completely achieve a complete balance.
"There's certainly no way to divide time evenly," she said. ”
What she can do is to make the children feel the love of their mothers, which is the best nourishment for growth.
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A child who grows up in love
"I accompany you to grow up sensibly and steadily, and you accompany me to grow up with fun. ”
In the process of accompanying children to grow up, in fact, we also grow with children.
Three daughters, three different personalities, in each child, Fu Juan can absorb the advantages of them.
The eldest daughter, Ouyang Nini, is very relaxed, unhurried, and optimistic.
And Fu Juan felt that her life was too tight and her life was not so easy, and she felt that she should learn more from Ouyang Nini.
Ouyang Nana, on the other hand, has a very strong ability to execute 100% of the planned things.
Fu Juan especially admires Ouyang Nana, and she is very good at making her own plans, as long as she is with Nana, the final work plan can be realized and completed.
For her youngest daughter, Ouyang Didi, her personality is brave, straightforward, and cheerful, and she can solve things quickly and directly.
Fu Juan said that Ouyang Didi's bravery and frankness are also worth learning from.
Every child has their own distinctive personality traits.
For the role of mother, different patterns and states need to be adjusted to get along with each child.
Fu Juan said: "Whoever I am with, I follow her personality, no matter which one of them I am with, I am very happy." ”
In addition to the personality model, Fu Juan also spared no effort to support each child's different interests and hobbies.
Even though she is not good at it, she is still curious to follow her children into new areas of learning.
"You are not a thief who stole your mother's youth, you are another youth of your mother. ”
For example, if Ouyang Nini learns figure skating, Fu Juan will learn about the competition system and learning mode of figure skating.
When Ouyang Nana studied classical music, she would study the performance of piano repertoire and discuss with Nana whether it could be adapted into cello music.
She said: "I actually have a division of labor with the children, they are responsible for depth and I am responsible for breadth. ”
In this process, each daughter will bring Fu Juan new experience and knowledge, and also take her to constantly explore her unknown territory.
It is precisely because of Fu Juan's dedication that the three children have no shortage of love in the process of growing up.
It also forged the three children to have enough courage and energy in the face of external pressure.
Having love at home is the real haven for children.
When Ouyang Nana was maliciously slandered by cyberbullying, when Fu Juan was struggling with how to comfort her, she saw Nini write this sentence on "Facebook":
"You have to believe that the people who love you are far more important than the people who don't. ”
In the face of cyberbullying, Ouyang Nana said:
"So many people who love me leave messages every day, but I never reply. ”
She suddenly felt that her daughters had grown up.
In fact, the children's calmness and courage are all due to the energy and courage given by the family members who love them deeply.
Children who grow up in love will have enough energy to face everything that happens in the future.
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It's my mother, but it's also myself
In the program "It's a Daughter and a Mother", the three daughters prepared a special gift for Fu Juan.
Fu Juan started filming commercials at the age of 16, and then acting, stopped filming after becoming a mother, and quit her job in the radio station, and since then her life has revolved around her 3 daughters.
Fu Juan has always wanted to make a radio program of her own, and her three daughters took the opportunity of the program to prepare the recording of the first radio episode for Fu Juan.
They hope that Fu Juan can temporarily break away from the role of "mother" and enjoy the time exclusive to "Fu Juan".
"Every woman should be the heroine on the stage of life, but when we get married, especially after becoming a mother, we are more like extras. ”
Fu Juan admitted that since two or three years ago, she has tried to find herself.
Yes, every mother is a mother, but they are themselves.
It's just that after becoming a mother, my mother put her fairy feather coat in the box, and since then only fireworks have been left in the world.
Three years ago, 59-year-old Fu Juan was admitted to journalism school and successfully obtained a master's degree.
It was a dream she had when she was 15 years old.
Mom was originally going to walk the rivers and lakes, but I met you.
It's just that for so many years, it has been delayed.
In the process of raising three daughters, in fact, Fu Juan also raised herself again.
Among several families, Ouyang Nana's family has the best atmosphere, the most harmonious mode of getting along, and it is also the group of families that netizens envy the most.
There is warmth, touching, understanding, respect, and more importantly, love.
Several other families have more or less trauma and scars, but Fu Juan's family is the only one that is full of laughter and love.
This is the life you yearn for, happiness is that you are making trouble, I am laughing, this is probably the best relationship between mother and daughter.
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Author: Wan Muzi, CCDM China Career Planner, BSC Senior Career Planner, American Shubo School Career Planner, more than 9 years of enterprise project management, registered international psychological counselor, more than 5 years of corporate training lecturer, platform contract author, second child mother.