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The ancients once said: "Fluffy grass grows in hemp bushes, and it can be naturally upright without external support." ”
Wrong interactions are like mutual wear, while correct companionship will bring common progress and improvement.
In a person's life, their fate is often deeply affected by the environment in which they live, and different living environments shape different life trajectories.
In the second half of your life, you should be more close to those who can nourish your soul and help you grow, so that you are more likely to usher in positive changes and opportunities for the rest of your life.
How far a person can go depends on who he walks with
One study worth noting, one of the scientists, after five years of studying the literature and examining the population extensively, came to the conclusion that "humans are the only species that can respond profoundly and be influenced by suggestion." ”
In other words, in our daily lives, the words and actions of those around us will shape us in a subtle and lasting way, making us invisibly affected and changed.
This is just like an old Chinese proverb: "If you are in the company of the good, you can also be excellent, and if you are accompanied by the negative, you will inevitably be contaminated with darkness over time." ”
Some people come into our lives to see the beauty of the world and inspire us to be aggressive, while others may expose us to the dark side of human nature, and if we have a long-term relationship, it can even lead us to difficulties.
There was a young man who was depressed and worried, thinking that he might be suffering from depression, and decided to seek help from a counsellor.
After describing his symptoms in detail, the counselor prescribed him a unique prescription.
However, when the young man receives the prescription, he cannot help but feel confused and frustrated, because he is advised to visit those who are always optimistic three times a day, morning, noon and evening.
Despite his doubts, the young man followed the prescription instructions and after a period of trying without taking any medication. As the months passed, his mental state gradually improved until he was refreshed. In addition to his joy, he made a special trip to express his gratitude to the doctor.
In their further conversation, the doctor noted meaningfully: "There is no silver bullet that can elevate one's mood more than the positive influence of a positive and optimistic friend." ”
As the saying goes: "Those who fly with the phoenix will be the best birds, and those who walk side by side with the tigers and wolves will be brave beasts." ”
I couldn't agree more.
Like a straw, when it is tied to greens, its value is only equal to greens;
However, once it is tied to hairy crabs, its value jumps to the level of hairy crabs.
Therefore, making the right decisions in action can help us avoid many unnecessary twists and turns;
And meeting the right people in interpersonal communication can make us walk more smoothly and broadly on the road of life.
Life is short, but we will meet tens of thousands of people during this time, but the people you choose to accompany you just determine what kind of quality and direction of life you will have.
In the second half of your life, be close to someone who can nourish you
Zeng Guofan profoundly pointed out: "Choosing friends is a crucial choice in life. The rise and fall of life is closely related to the quality of the friends you make, and you must be cautious about this. ”
The trajectory of life is like a symphony of intertwined relationships.
Staying close to people of high moral character will improve your own moral cultivation, and your perseverance and determination will not fall into decadence when you walk side by side with those with a broad heart.
You'll be able to stand out from the crowd of great people, and you'll be able to make a difference with a reliable partner.
In the second half of your life, the social circle you fit into will largely determine how far you can go.
Looking back on the experience of writer Zhao Xing, she once encountered Waterloo in the college entrance examination and was only admitted to an ordinary second-class college.
During my time at school, most of my classmates were addicted to online games, lazy living, and keen to talk about entertainment news.
However, the turning point came when she was fortunate enough to become an exchange student at Peking University. So far, she has found that the library and self-study room can be the most lively places on campus with a large number of people, full of a strong learning atmosphere.
This environment touched her deeply, and she was able to abandon her old habits and study in the library, and eventually succeed in her studies, standing out from the crowd and successfully joining a well-known company.
When we are young, we tend to be full of confidence, as if we can soar through the sky alone. However, as I moved into middle age, I realized that I carried a burden on my wings that I couldn't easily get rid of.
The ancients once said: "With the help of the good wind, help me soar for nine days." ”
If you want to enrich yourself and improve your knowledge, you should integrate into the group of people who love reading;
If you want to overcome lazy habits, you must always be around people who are motivated;
Looking forward to the harvest on the road of parenting, we must learn to humbly ask for advice from people who have rich experience in teaching children;
Keep your distance from those who are full of negativity, and be close to those who inspire and nourish you.
When you realize that with the power of giants, you connect with people who can help you grow, and the rest of your life will be richer and more vibrant.
Be the best version of yourself and meet the best others
As the saying goes, "Parents are the ones who are at home, and friends are the ones who go out", and this saying is deeply rooted in our philosophy of life.
In the journey of life, we often mistakenly believe that the vastness of social networks is the source of wealth and opportunity, so we do our best to integrate into those so-called higher social circles.
However, the reality tells us that interpersonal relationships are like fragile paper, and if you don't have enough value and good qualities, those resources and connections that don't really belong to you will eventually leave you, which is an immutable law.
As the old saying goes, "Planting a sycamore tree can attract a phoenix to roost."
This means that the connection between people is not forced, but based on empathy and attraction to each other.
Only when you carefully cultivate your intrinsic value, like planting a flourishing plane tree, will excellent peers and partners naturally attract you and surround you for a long time.
Take the famous painter Huang Binhong as an example, he worked diligently and tirelessly throughout his life, but his paintings were not widely recognized for a long time.
Even in his most difficult times, the rent was not enough to sustain him, and he could only survive on food, often only white rice.
At this time, Mr. Fu Lei learned of his predicament, and not only generously donated money to support his life, but also actively promoted Huang Binhong's works through letters and personally organized an exhibition for him.
It was only after this experience that Huang Binhong's name gradually became famous in the art world.
The world envies Huang Binhong because of the noble Fu Lei and transferred, but in fact, it is his outstanding artistic talent that attracts Fu Lei's appreciation, and it is Huang Binhong's paintings themselves that have won Fu Lei's high praise.
As the writer Zhang Defen said, "There is no one else outside of your world", implying that individuals should focus on self-improvement, because true attraction comes from their own inner light.
In life, everything we have is not entirely due to positive pursuits, but is naturally attracted by our own qualities and energies.
Lamentation does not carry luck, nor does anger maintain harmony, but a wealth of knowledge will attract the favor of opportunity, and a steady and reliable character will attract the help of nobles.
Every hard work you have worked hard will turn into fruitful results, and every time you give selfless love, you will be rewarded with a full feeling of happiness.
In the second half of your life, remember that the first task is to improve your self-cultivation and then find a social circle that suits you.
When you continue to improve your personal character and temper your own abilities, you will surely win good interpersonal relationships, good luck and profound blessings, and then break through difficulties and realize the life state you yearn for.
Like and share, I hope you can stick to your true nature, be the best version of yourself, and believe that all the good things will follow you one after another.