Why is a man unwilling to divorce after cheating, but he still refuses to give up his mistress for marriage?
Many cheating men are unwilling to have both money and money because the sunk cost is too high.
Probably many people will underestimate the impact of sunk costs on a man,
Before they were caught cheating, they paid a lot to maintain their extramarital affair with Xiao San.
But they had just confirmed their relationship with Xiao San, and before they could enjoy too much in return, their wife found out about the extramarital affair.
The original partner insisted on letting the cheating man break up with the mistress, and the cheating man would be reluctant,
What he is reluctant to give up is not Xiaosan and the so-called love, but that his efforts have not been repaid.
Therefore, wives must understand what the psychology of cheating men is when they solve extramarital affairs.
Some time ago, Ms. Zhao, the original partner, came to Su Yue and told her about the predicament she encountered.
Ms. Zhao and her husband have been married for 14 years, and the relationship between husband and wife is average, but there are no major contradictions.
More than ten years ago, the two partnered together to do a company, and her husband was married for the second time.
Because when doing business, her husband's ex-wife was not optimistic and thought that she would lose money, so she divorced.
Ms. Zhao and her husband were college classmates before, and Ms. Zhao also had a boyfriend when they were partnered.
Later, I was also busy with business, and my feelings faded, so I broke up.
The two came together after working together for three or four years and confirmed their relationship.
Ms. Zhao may be afraid of misunderstanding, and has always emphasized that when cooperating, she is just friends with the cheating man.
The two of them are not the type of people who like each other, and they are just friends during college.
Later will develop feelings, in addition to the friendship of struggling together and supporting each other,
It is also because the relationship of interests can no longer be separated, so they choose to live together.
The marriage of the two is relatively happy, with the support of both parents and children.
The reason for the man's cheating, after being discovered, the cheating man said that the picture is exciting and fresh,
It is probably a convention that men become bad when they are rich, but Ms. Zhao did not solve the extramarital affair by herself.
She will definitely not divorce a cheating man, because it is difficult to give up her interests, and she has two children.
But he is not willing to tolerate a man's cheating, so he filed for divorce and wanted to force the cheating man to break off with the mistress.
The cheating man is also afraid of being married, and he is unwilling to divorce, but he refuses to break up with the mistress.
Ms. Zhao asked Su Yue why the cheating man was reluctant to divorce and showed affection for her and the child.
But in order to maintain the marriage well, he is unwilling to give up the junior who has been cheating for a long time?
Su Yue told Ms. Zhao that if she wanted to know the answer, she had to know herself and her opponent.
How did the cheating man and the mistress meet, and how do the two get along.
How much the cheating man has paid to the mistress, what the mistress has brought to the cheating man, etc., are all questions that need to be understood.
Ms. Zhao's economic conditions are good, and she has spent a lot of money to understand the situation.
Find someone to follow, buy people's hearts, go to Xiao San's acquaintances to get information for benefits, and so on.
Doing a lot of similar surveys, Ms. Zhao got a decent amount of information.
The third-year-old leftover girl, unmarried in her thirties, has outstanding appearance, but her work is average.
I will be a junior because I spend more money than I earn, and my vanity is stronger.
In order to develop an extramarital affair with the mistress, the cheating man also understands the characteristics of the mistress, so he spends a lot of money on the mistress.
So the cheating man invested a lot, but not long after the cheating, a few days after he succeeded, he was discovered by the original partner.
In this case, there is an answer to why the man refuses to break up with the mistress.
Cheating men may not be for love, but for the sunk costs they can't afford to pay.
In economics, "sunk costs" refer to those expenses that have been paid and cannot be recovered, such as time, money, emotion, energy, etc.
There are many examples of sunk costs in life that affect one's thinking, words and deeds.
"It's been so long", "The money has been paid", "The children are there", etc., all of which have the shadow of sunk costs.
People do things with a purpose, and they definitely want to pay in return.
They have an estimate of how much they will give and how much they will get in return.
If you get what you want, feel that the effort is worth it, and you don't suffer a loss, you may not be obsessed with the pay.
But like this cheating man, he has paid a lot, but he doesn't get what he wants, so he will be reluctant to break the relationship.
If the original partner wants to solve the extramarital affair in this situation, there are two ways to go.
Either you create a bigger loss, let the cheating man weigh the pros and cons, and choose to break up with the minor.
Either it is from the junior's side and get back some costs that can be recovered, such as the money that the cheating man gave to the mistress.
When the cheating man pays the cost, for him. Even if it's lost, it's not so unacceptable.
If wives insist on cheating men and mistresses, it will become easy to achieve their goals.
In the end, Su Yue wanted to say that after the man's cheating was discovered, he was unwilling to divorce or break up with the mistress.
This is not the only reason, wives must analyze the reasons if they want to completely solve the extramarital affair.
You find the real reason why the cheating man refuses to break up with the mistress, and you find the real reason that prevents you from resolving your extramarital affair.
According to the psychology of the cheating man, it is targeted to solve it, so that the cheating man is willing to give up the mistress.
Regardless of whether the mistress is entangled or a submissive breakup, as long as the cheating man insists on the relationship, the affair will definitely end.
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