Text: Jing Ma
A girl in Shandong stole a few cards from the boss when she went to the stationery store to buy toys, and the boss left the child in the store and reprimanded her for more than 20 minutes after the monitoring saw it, but she didn't expect the girl to jump off the building and commit suicide after returning home.
A 12-year-old boy in Nanjing took stationery from a stationery store opposite the elementary school and did not give money, and the boss said that he stole the toys, and the boy jumped from a high-rise building and proved his innocence with his life.
Seeing this, many people will say that this shopkeeper is too harsh, or that the child is too vulnerable. But in fact, I want to say that it is very likely that these two children do not have free money in their hands, that is, they have no pocket money since childhood.
The so-called "pocket money" is the money that the child can use freely, when the child has money, he buys things directly and openly, and there is no need to take it secretly!
Many parents think that their children are small, and he uses them to buy things when he gives him pocket money, and our children have to stumble and fall several times when they are young to learn to walk, and they also stammer, word by word, to jump out, before learning to say a word.
And when a child learns to use money, he can be the master of money, not a slave of money.
Do you still remember the corrupt official Zhao Dehan in "In the Name of the People"? He rides a broken bicycle to and from work every day, but there is cash hidden in his home.
It turned out that Zhao Dehan was very poor from his family, and he was very thirsty for money, that is, he was so poor from his family that he couldn't give him pocket money, so after work, especially after he reached an important position, he smiled when others gave him money, but he didn't dare to use it, and he had a hard time lying on the money bed every day.
What will become of those children who have no pocket money since they were young?
The first outcome: low self-esteem
Many parents may say, "Oh, how can you compare yourself with others?" Other people have money in their families, but we are poor in our family, so don't compare.
But in fact, children are together to exchange information with each other, and in the process of exchanging information, children will definitely be lost because they are not as good as others.
One child mentioned that when she was in junior high school, she went out with her classmates, and her classmates had at least 100 yuan of pocket money, some of which had 300 yuan, but her mother only gave her 30 yuan.
That day, her classmates said that they were going to eat McDonald's and play bumper cars, but she found that her more than 30 yuan had to be saved wherever she went, so she felt particularly inferior, and then she made an excuse that she suddenly came to her aunt and had to go home first, but since then she has become very inferior.
The second outcome: a sense of unworthiness
When my little cousin was looking for a job, she came to live with me for a few days, and when I took her out to eat, she said: Alas, just eat a fast food, don't go to the big hotel to eat, I don't think I dare, I don't deserve it, I bought her a beautiful brand dress, that is, a few hundred yuan, she told me: Cousin doesn't need it, I don't deserve a few hundred yuan of clothes, just wear a few dozen yuan from the stall.
When children are young, they have no pocket money, and their parents may tell their children that our family is poor and cannot be compared with others, which can easily make children feel unworthy. When his classmates were eating snacks together, he walked away silently because he didn't have pocket money to buy snacks and he felt unworthy.
The third ending: Growing up, stealing things
The daughter said that there was a classmate in their class who said that everyone didn't like him, because this classmate didn't have pocket money and liked to eat snacks, and usually the classmates bought snacks, and the girl would run over and ask others for them, and the poor one said: Can you give me a little? But she has never bought snacks for others to eat.
Later, when she went to the snack shop with her classmate, the classmate bought what she wanted, but when he saw a snack he liked very much but had no money to buy it, she secretly took a snack and put it in her mouth while the boss was paying, but she didn't expect the boss to see it and get caught.
Although the boss was very talkative, he just asked her to bring the money on the second day, and on the second day she gave the money to the boss, and he secretly told my daughter that I secretly stole the money from my grandmother, and my grandmother's money was always put under the pillow because my parents didn't give me pocket money......
The fourth ending: It is easy to be lost by small favors
A netizen said that he and his ex-boyfriend have been separated and combined for more than three years, and every time her ex-boyfriend hurts her, as long as she transfers 52 yuan to her, she will forgive him, because she has never had pocket money since she was a child, and she feels that she can give money to herself, no matter how big a mistake she makes, she feels that as long as she can give money, she loves herself......
Dear parents, do you feel sad after seeing the end of your child's lack of pocket money since childhood?
If your family conditions are average, then you can give your child 10 yuan or 20 yuan of pocket money every week, and the red envelope for the New Year can help the child build an account to save.
If the child has reasonable needs, he can discuss with his parents and take out the red envelopes for the New Year, so that the child can have a desire to control money, so that he can have more control over his life. #头条创作挑战赛#
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