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I often sit alone in front of the window, gazing at the bright moon outside the window, and endless thoughts welling up in my heart. Marriage, for a woman, is an important stage of life, the destination of the soul, and the harbor of emotions.
However, I had deep doubts about marriage. If compromise and forbearance are really the only way to get married, then I would rather choose to be single and enjoy the freedom and tranquility of being alone.
I'm not an argumentative person, but I'm more reluctant to lose myself in order to cater to others.
In my concept, marriage should be two independent and equal individuals, respecting and supporting each other, and going through the ups and downs of life together. However, the reality is often the opposite of the ideal.
Because "compromise" is a problem we often have to face in marriage. For the sake of family harmony, wives may need to give up their career dreams and devote more time and energy to the family. In the face of some bad habits of her husband, the wife must also choose to tolerate it, so as not to cause greater family conflicts.
However, can such compromise and forbearance really be exchanged for long-term happiness in marriage?
In my opinion, excessive compromise and forbearance will only make the marriage fragile. When wives give up on their dreams and pursuits, they gradually lose themselves and become dependent and anxious. And after receiving his wife's unconditional forbearance, the husband may become more unscrupulous and no longer cherish his wife's contributions.
Such a marriage is like a building without a foundation, which can collapse at any time.
02
In life, I would prefer to see two independent and mature individuals, supporting each other and growing together in marriage.
We can have different interests and hobbies with each other, we can have our own circle of friends, and we can have our own career pursuits. We don't need to change ourselves in order to cater to each other, and we don't need to compromise in order to maintain the stability of our marriage.
Of course, I also understand that there will inevitably be friction and conflict in marriage. However, I believe that these contradictions should be resolved through communication and understanding, not covered up through compromise and forbearance.
When encountering conflicts, we can express our thoughts and feelings honestly, listen to each other's opinions and suggestions, and find solutions to problems together. Such a marriage is equality and respect in the true sense.
However, the reality made me very disappointed in my marriage. I have seen too many women lose themselves in marriage and become anxious and helpless, and I have seen too many men become selfish and aloof in marriage and no longer value their wives' contributions.
This kind of marriage makes me feel scared and uneasy.
So, I began to wonder if marriage was really right for me. If compromise and forbearance are the only way to get married, then I'd rather be single. I'd rather face life's challenges and difficulties alone than lose myself in order to cater to others.
I believe that being single does not mean loneliness and loneliness, but can make me more focused on my own growth and development.
03
Being single gives me the freedom to pursue my dreams and career, I can make like-minded friends, and I can enjoy life to the fullest.
I can live my life on my own terms and don't need to change myself to meet the expectations of others. Such a life, although sometimes lonely, is more real and free.
Of course, I also understand that life as a single person is not all smooth sailing. It also needs to face various challenges and difficulties, and it needs to withstand the pressures and prejudices of society. But I believe that these challenges and difficulties are opportunities for growth, and for exercising one's will and ability.
I believe that as long as I remain independent and confident, and bravely face the challenges of life, I will be able to live my life to the fullest.
I don't need to rely on anyone to prove my worth, and I don't need to change myself to meet the expectations of others. I am who I am, the unique me.
So, if compromise and forbearance are really the only way to get married, then I'd rather be single. I'd rather face the ups and downs of life alone than lose myself in my marriage.
In the days to come, I will continue to work hard to pursue my dreams and career, and I will feel the beauty and warmth of life with my heart. I believe that no matter whether I choose to be married or single, as long as I maintain my independence and self-confidence, I will be able to live my life to the fullest.
04
Message from the setting moon:
We often say that taking a step back opens the sky, but in fact, sometimes taking a step back can be an abyss. You want to make compromises, but sometimes you can't get things done, and it will make things worse.
Therefore, women must know how to love themselves, have dignity, have a bottom line, pay more attention to their inner needs on weekdays, and improve their ability to meet their own needs, so as to get the respect and love of others.
Finally, I hope that all women can not blindly compromise and retreat in marriage, do not make endless compromises, but gently and firmly keep the bottom line, express their own demands, manage their marriage well, and manage their own happiness well.