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Few people take the initiative to wonder why we read.
If you really pursue it carefully, it can probably only be summed up in one sentence: everything is inferior, only reading is high.
Reading can gain knowledge, reading can get a job, and reading can change your destiny.
However, if we only look at reading from such a utilitarian perspective. Then we must be confined to the small world of successist values.
Successism regards being superior as the only measure of value. As a result, many people simply cannot accept their mediocrity from the conceptual point of view, and even more despise those jobs that require manual labor.
In this atmosphere, "not being able to take off Kong Yiji's long shirt" has become a common social phenomenon.
So, why do people who study hard also become the bottom?
A kaftan that you can't take off
Why are so many people unable to put down their bodies? Perhaps, this is the result of the pathological development of the educational model.
The state disseminates knowledge at the primary and junior high school levels and encourages more people to pursue higher education. However, with the emergence of a large number of newborns, there is a trend of mismatch between jobs and the number of job seekers.
As a result, someone is bound to lose out in the fierce competition. However, most of the students who have been educated for many years have extremely high expectations for their future jobs.
As a result, even if there are no suitable jobs, many people despise farmland and factories and only want to earn a living from the state.
They would rather stay at home and hand in resumes than try manual work.
In the end, he could only find an idle job like "copying books" around his home, like Kong Yiji, to maintain dignity and livelihood.
What will become "Kong Yiji"
So why did college students fall into a situation like Kong Yiji?
At the end of the day, a large part of it is our own cause.
First of all, for those students who do not have a clear plan and squander their time, blindly following the teacher step by step will definitely spend their youth in a mess.
If you just memorize knowledge simply and mechanically, but you can't understand and apply it deeply, the whole learning model will seem extremely ridiculous.
This kind of "dead reading" learning method makes them not know how to be flexible at all, and naturally they can't keep pace with the times.
Secondly, the mind is only focused on the grades, but if there is a major problem in moral cultivation, it will definitely be excluded and neglected.
Some time ago, a student surnamed Xu won the first place in the written examination for the postgraduate entrance examination of Nanjing University.
But the video of him abusing the cat has circulated on the Internet, and people can't help but worry about whether students with this personality are qualified to continue studying on campus.
After careful consideration, Nanjing University finally decided to eliminate him on the grounds that he failed the moral assessment.
Subsequently, the candidate surnamed Xu was transferred to Lanzhou University. He still finished first, but he also failed to pass the re-examination.
After experiencing these two adjustments and the pressure of public opinion, this candidate surnamed Xu is currently facing the dilemma of having no school to accept it.
In a way, he was indeed marginalized from society.
How to avoid becoming a "Kong Yiji"
So how do you avoid becoming a "Kong Yiji"?
Keep in mind that in this world, there are two paths to learning: one is utilitarian reading, and the other is non-utilitarian reading.
If you don't want to wear "Kong Yiji's long shirt", you must put non-utilitarian reading in a more important position. Because it can help us resist successism.
By being exposed to the world extensively, we become more aware of our own insignificance, which leads to the development of humility in character.
Many times, reading has a kind of rebuttal. We crave to read because of ignorance, and we feel ignorant because we read.
There is a saying, "When I was growing up, I ate a lot of meat, vegetables, and rice. Now I have forgotten a large part of them, but these substances do make up my flesh and bones, supporting me forward. ”
Reading is the same, maybe you can't see anything in a day or two, a year or two, but it will definitely transform you into a new self at some point.
Accept your ordinary self
After broadening your horizons, try to accept your ordinary self.
Contemporary education only teaches children how to succeed, but it does not teach children how to face failure.
(People can't accept their ordinary selves)
In the 00s, most of them were only children, and they were the treasure of the family and the only hope of the family.
Parents put all their resources into a child with the aim of enabling the child to climb to the top.
However, there are simply not so many positions at the top, and most children are destined to continue to live ordinary lives in the future.
From a certain point of view, the children who have been raised with a lot of money since childhood, and the parents who want their children to become Jackie Chan are the real sources of pressure in society.
In the eyes of the Chinese, it seems that failure is failure, and not exhaustion is lying flat. But society cannot be merciful enough to give results to every hard worker, the number of successful people will always be so few, and there will always be people and most people's efforts will be in vain.
The Chinese are always too extreme, and everyone is striving for success.
In fact, for us, it is enough for us to maintain our love, go to the mountains and seas, and see the vastness of the world and the world.
To pursue a wider world, we can see what we can do and what we can't do, give up our illusions, be down-to-earth, and find a place that really suits us in society.
This is not lying flat, but accepting the ordinary self calmly after "recognizing the greatness of the universe".
epilogue
Please take off "Kong Yiji's gown" and return to the original purpose of reading.
I thought that reading was to fill in the gaps in my life.
You can use books to get experiences and insights that you have never had before, which will make your life fuller, and compared with the barren soul, it will certainly show a feeling of "having poetry and books in your belly".
Of course, reading isn't the only option. Whether it's yoga, movies, or exercise. Do the things that enrich your life experience, and do the things that will be worth remembering years later.
Resources:
CCTV: Facing the Anxiety Behind "Kong Yiji Literature". Observer.com, 2023, 3, 16
"Getting rid of the anxiety of "cheongsam" is not just a matter for college students. People's Daily Online, 2023, 3, 17