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This is the 3,735th real story we have told
I'm Tingting, a post-85 generation from Xi'an.
When I was in high school, the demeanor of a flight attendant planted the seed of flying in my heart. After four years of perseverance and hard work, I finally realized my blue sky dream.
After 12 years of flying, Luo Xiang's law class ignited my dream of becoming a lawyer. I resolutely decided to change careers, and despite the challenges of pregnancy and the uncertainty of my career, I continued to study and finally passed the law exam.
The path to changing careers was difficult, and I sent in about 20 resumes but didn't hear back. I didn't give up. After half a year of hard work, I finally joined the firm and started a new chapter in my career as a lawyer.
Every challenge is an opportunity to grow, and I believe that as long as you persevere, your dreams will blossom. This is my story, and it is also a portrayal of countless dreamers.
(Photo of my flight attendant)
I am Tingting, born in 85, in Xi'an, Shaanxi Province, which has a long history. Both parents are hard-working and simple corporate employees, and they weave a loving family harbor with their hands.
In terms of the way I was raised, my parents adopted a strict and relaxed attitude, which not only ensured that I could grow up healthy, but also gave me enough freedom to explore and experiment.
I spent my busy days at my grandmother's house, where I learned a lot of life skills, from cooking to housework.
When she was nine years old, her mother gave birth to her younger sister. At that time, I was in the fourth grade of elementary school. My parents are busy with work, so I am taking on the responsibility of taking care of my younger sister.
Even though I was still a small man myself, I was able to skillfully carry my one-year-old sister and walk a kilometer or two to pick up my dad from work.
I learned a lot from taking care of my sister. At the age of 10, I was already proficient in bathing, cooking, washing clothes, and taking her out to play.
(Me in college)
In life, I help with housework and take good care of my sister. In terms of academics, I am not inferior to my peers, and my grades are at the top of my grade.
Therefore, my parents were very reassuring to me, and I was left with my own ideas about many things. Over time, I have developed an independent and assertive personality.
In my formative years, there is one image that still shines brightly in my heart today. It was a high school afternoon, and I saw the flight attendants for the first time on screen: they were beautiful, elegant, with their hair neatly tucked back, dressed in uniform and elaborate overalls, and they were traveling around the world with suitcases in towels, exploring exotic customs.
Their figures, like a beautiful landscape, deeply attracted me. The dream of a flight attendant has taken root in my heart ever since.
In 2007, I was admitted to university and stayed in Xi'an. At that time, my mother suggested that I choose to major in accounting, because she thought that girls studying accounting could have a stable employment in the office, avoid being exposed to wind and rain, and could engage in a stable career until retirement.
(My University)
Although I followed my mother's advice and enrolled in accounting, my dream of being a flight attendant grew stronger as time went on.
It is said that college is the best time in life. Watching the classmates around me take the accountant certificate one by one and find an internship in an accounting firm, I was drowning in the preparation for the flight attendant interview.
Since I have chosen to fly in the blue sky, I have no hesitation.
At that time, resources were relatively scarce compared to the current society with an information explosion. Websites were far less diverse in job postings than they are now, and smartphones were not yet widely available. I spent my weekends home logging into the website on my home computer to look up job postings, learn interview skills, learn about outfits, memorize English essays and introduce myself. I even bought an interview instruction book and did a detailed guide at home, reading the whole book back and forth three times.
The flight attendant interview process is complex and strict, starting from online registration, to the initial examination, re-examination, final examination, physical examination and training, every step is a necessary checkpoint to the dream, and the slightest carelessness may face elimination.
(Plane photo)
I've been involved in this grinding process over and over again for four whole years.
In 2008, as a sophomore, I took my first step to participate in the flight attendant interview with a year of preparation and full of anticipation. Although I have countless memories of mock interviews in my heart, when I actually stand in front of the examiner, the immaturity and nervousness are still uninvited. There is no doubt that I failed the first time, but I was not discouraged and accepted it calmly.
I told myself that with this experience and lessons, I will definitely be better next year and closer to the blue sky dream in my heart.
In 2009, I embarked on the journey of interviewing flight attendants again, and this time I was full of ambition. However, fate seemed to like to play a joke on me, and in the final link I passed by the dream.
That day, I sat alone in the empty playground stands, watching the planes streak across the sky, my heart full of loss and confusion. I reached out and tried to touch the tracks left by those planes, as if looking for clues to connect to dreams.
(Photos taken in Lijiang when I first arrived in Yunnan)
My classmates were silently preparing for the Accounting Qualification Exam, and when they saw my dedication to my dream of being a flight attendant, they also persuaded me to take the Accounting Qualification Exam out of concern and leave an alternative back path for myself.
I thought about it again and again, and finally declined their offer. It's no more than three. I've failed twice, and I'm sure I'll succeed the third time!
In 2010, I stood for the third time at the flight attendant interview, and I was still nervous. The desire to succeed turned into a heavy pressure, and that pressure didn't translate into the results I was expecting. Unfortunately, I failed again.
After that failure, I felt as if I had lost my soul and staggered back home, locking myself in my room, tears blurring my vision, and my heart full of pain and confusion.
My mother gently comforted me: "It's okay, there is not only one path in life, you can also try other jobs." ”
Mom's words sent me deep in thought. It's true that many of my classmates have already found jobs, and I'm still chasing that childhood dream.
(Fly to Singapore and take a photo over there)
I have also wavered many times and thought about giving up, but the persistence and unyielding spirit in my heart have always made it difficult for me to give up.
After all, it was my dream, the fire that burned in my heart all the time. I don't want to give up so easily, and I don't want to leave my future with regrets. I know that as long as I have a breath left, I will continue to pursue my dreams.
In 2011, I once again plucked up the courage to take on my fourth flight attendant interview. This time, I succeeded, and when I received the news of the passage, the joy and excitement at that moment were indescribable.
I couldn't wait to call my mom's number. On the other end of the phone, my mother's voice was full of excitement and pride, and her cheers and tears were even warmer than mine.
Years of perseverance finally came true. In July 2011, I moved to Kunming to start my career as a flight attendant. That's 12 years.
(Photo of my flight attendant)
In the first two years of flying, there was one mission that made a big impression on me.
It was a flight to Beijing with a little girl on board who needed to travel to Beijing for an important operation, and whose family was not wealthy. Upon learning of the situation, the crew took the initiative to raise funds for the girl, and the passengers in the cabin also extended a helping hand.
The little girl's father was deeply touched by everyone's kindness, and he shed tears of gratitude and expressed his gratitude to us. At that moment, I deeply felt a sense of accomplishment and honor as a flight attendant. We are not only flying missions, but also spreading love and care to those in need.
(Photo of my flight attendant)
There was also a small episode in the flight that made me feel the warmth and joy of work.
It was a father on a plane, and when the meal was distributed, he didn't open his snack box, but carefully stored it. He told me that it was his daughter's birthday and that he had not been able to prepare the right gift due to time constraints. He hopes to take home the snacks from these planes as a special gift for his daughter, who has never flown before.
I was deeply touched to hear this father's wish. I decided to go a little extra mile for him. I went to the service cabin to get the Rubik's Cube from the plane, and prepared other snacks and gave them to him, hoping that these would be a special birthday gift for his daughter.
When he received the carefully prepared gift, he thanked me repeatedly, his face filled with indescribable excitement and gratitude.
(My flight attendant photo)
In 2014, the third year of my flight, I had another important turning point in my life: getting married. Since then, I have gone from flying alone to flying with my family's expectations.
As a flight attendant, you don't have to decide your own work arrangements and may be assigned to a flight mission at any time. In my 12 years as a flight attendant, I have never had the opportunity to spend the New Year with my parents. Due to work requirements, it is often impossible to return home and the time to be with family is extremely limited.
I remember one year, it was my mother's birthday, I couldn't go home for a reunion due to work, and my flight was canceled unexpectedly, so I didn't hesitate to buy a ticket home.
On her mother's birthday, he suddenly appeared in front of her and surprised her. This reunion not only made my mother feel happy, but also made me cherish the time with my family even more.
As a flight attendant, I shuttle from plane cabin to plane day in and day out, witnessing the rise and fall of planes and the comings and goings of passengers. I seem to have flown over countless skies, but my world is confined to a limited cabin.
(My professional photo)
As my footsteps gradually spread all over the world, I feel more and more the breadth and wonder of this world. I began to think that my life should not be confined to this small space of flying, it was time to get out of the cabin and explore the wider world.
During the pandemic, the reduction in flights gave me more personal time. I came across Mr. Luo Xiang's lecture by chance. From that moment on, I was attracted to the law, which sparked a strong interest in the legal field and a dream of becoming a lawyer.
Once the spark of dreams was ignited, an unquenchable flame ignited in my heart. After much deliberation, I made an important decision – to take the Legal Professional Qualification Examination (LLCA). This step marked the beginning of my journey to pursue a career in law.
When I was preparing for the first exam, I didn't know how to prepare due to my lack of experience, and I only passed by a few points. These regrets also brought me great courage and motivation.
(My professional photo)
Success doesn't happen overnight, it requires continuous effort and learning. I was secretly determined to work harder and be more focused in the next exam preparation. I summarized the shortcomings of the last time, looked for more effective study methods, and made a more rigorous study plan.
In order to gain more study time, during the epidemic, I took the initiative to apply to fly international flights, and the 14-day quarantine time after the flight was very valuable to me. During this time, I locked myself in my dorm room, woke up with an alarm clock every day, and studied attentively and efficiently. Against all odds, I successfully completed two courses.
After I became pregnant, I had a particularly severe pregnancy reaction and kept vomiting every day. But as soon as there was a little relief, I immediately threw myself into learning. After the pregnancy symptoms subsided, I studied for at least six hours a day, and the prolonged sitting position caused the pubic separation, which was so severe that I had to rely on a wheelchair to go out. Even so, I continued to learn.
That year's exams were postponed for a few months due to the pandemic, which gave me extra time to prepare.
(My professional photo)
If I don't study for a day, my heart will not be steady. After the birth of my child, I continued to study in bed during confinement. Even on Chinese New Year's Eve, when my family sat around watching the Spring Festival Gala set off firecrackers, I was still brushing up on the questions.
During that time, I barely socialized and didn't watch TV shows or variety shows. Every day when my children fall asleep, I immediately start studying, from 12 to 2 o'clock, and then again at 7 o'clock in the morning.
Seeing me sacrifice so much for entertainment and leisure time, my family felt very sorry for me. They advised me to relax moderately, pay attention to my physical health, after all, the children are still young and the family needs my care, and comforted me that I can continue to take exams next year.
I was touched by my family's intentions, but I knew very well the truth of "one drum, then decline, and three exhaustions", once I chose, I had to maintain this momentum, and not let my fighting spirit fade because of slackness.
In the dead of night, looking at my sleeping lover and child, I gritted my teeth and said to myself, "Hold on a little longer, the dawn of victory is ahead." ”
(My Workbench)
During the preparation for the exam, I studied for more than 1,400 hours, did 16,000 questions, and typed more than 200,000 words on subjective questions. How many times did I cry and want to give up, and finally wiped away my tears and continued to persevere.
I will never forget this day, On April 24, 2023, the results of the law exam came out. I was undergoing retraining at the company, and when I learned the results, tears of excitement welled up in my eyes, and all the hard work and hard work paid off in this moment.
At that moment, I felt a sense of joy and accomplishment that I had never felt before, and all the sacrifice and perseverance became worth it in this moment.
After much deliberation, I made an important decision – quit my job as a flight attendant and start looking for a job at a law firm. This decision was made on the basis of considering that my children are still young and need more family care, as well as my own love and yearning for the legal profession.
I was looking forward to finding a job at a law firm with the hope of making a smooth career transition.
The ideal is very plump, and the reality is very skinny. A 30+ woman like me, with family responsibilities and no legal background and practical work experience, it was really difficult to find a job in a law firm.
(My Daily)
After applying to about 20 law firms, I received few responses, which made me fall into deep internal friction, and I began to wonder if I was too impulsive to quit my job and change careers, and worried that I would never find a suitable job.
However, there is no regret medicine in the world, and I have no way back but to go all out and move forward bravely. Doesn't this just mean that I am still far from being qualified for a job in a law firm?
Dare to face up to your own problems is the beginning of progress. So I studied harder, used my free time to study case studies, carefully recorded useful content, diligently searched for the corresponding regulations, and worked tirelessly to study them.
Hard work pays off. About half a year later, on September 28, 2023, I successfully applied for the law firm where I am currently employed. This is a law firm that is just a stone's throw away from home and has a particularly good atmosphere.
Successfully stepping into the door of a law firm is only the first step in a new journey for me. Before the joy had fully settled, I encountered the first challenge of my career.
(My Daily)
The teacher asked me to write a complaint, and I spent a morning meditating on the computer without writing a word, which made me feel very frustrated.
Luckily, the teacher didn't blame me and patiently instructed me on how to get started. Under the careful guidance of my teachers, I was gradually able to stand on my own.
Last month, I went to a divorce trial. The parties had a fierce dispute over the custody of the child, and they were very emotional, and there were even signs of action at one point, but fortunately the bailiff stopped it in time.
I appeared in court on behalf of the plaintiff, and the defendant's family came forward and scolded me. The first time I encountered this kind of thing, I was still very nervous.
Another time, I went to the detention center to meet a suspect who was suspected of the crime of transporting Du goods. It was only after he was arrested by the police that he realized that he was being used.
During the meeting, he was filled with remorse and burst into tears. With two children, elderly parents and an unemployed wife, he is the sole breadwinner.
This experience made me deeply feel that there are certain things that cannot be touched, otherwise there will be no turning back in life, and that inside and outside prison are two completely different life paths.
(My trial photo)
Comparing the two professions of flight attendant and lawyer, it can be said that the work of a lawyer requires more professionalism and care, and there is no room for deviation.
Lawyers often say that you are not handling a single case, but a matter of the client's life. This requires me to treat my work with 120 points of seriousness and hard work.
Now I will not give up even if I encounter setbacks and challenges. In the process of more than a year of law exams, I have learned to persevere, self-discipline, work hard, and never give up, and I need to work harder to realize my dreams and help more people in the future.
From flight attendants to lawyers, I have interpreted the infinite possibilities of life with my own efforts.
An inner voice told me that there was a bigger world to conquer. As long as you have a dream and work hard for it, you will definitely be able to reap your own wonderful life.
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[Dictation: Tingting]
[Editor: Ping Ping]
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