More than twenty years ago, my cousin and I were carefree children. Although we didn't spend much time together, she was always kind and friendly to me. At that time, she was innocent, like a blooming flower.
Today, I am middle-aged and have my own career and family. My wife is gentle and virtuous, and she is the most important pillar of my life. We love each other and live a peaceful and happy life. Until one day, a sudden chance encounter plunged my life into great turmoil.
It was a sunny day, I was shopping at the mall, and suddenly, a familiar figure appeared in front of me. When I looked closer, it was my cousin when I was a child! She also recognized me, walked over quickly, and hugged me affectionately.
"What a coincidence, cousin! I didn't expect to meet you here. My cousin said excitedly, with a look of joy on her face.
I was also pleasantly surprised: "Cousin, it's been a long time! "
My cousin looked me up and down and said with a smile, "You've changed a lot, as if you're a teenager older." "
We met again, as if we had gone back in time to more than twenty years ago.
"Why don't we add WeChat to each other, so that we can keep in touch often. My cousin suggested, pulling out her phone.
I readily agreed, and we quickly added each other's WeChat.
Since then, my cousin has messaged me every day, asking about my life and sharing her latest developments.
"Cousin, how is your job now? It's hard, isn't it?"
"It's okay, it's just a bit overtime. How's it going over there?"
"Well, that's it, life at home is okay. The cousin's tone sounded a little forced.
Gradually, I found that my cousin's news became more and more strange. Sometimes she complains about her marriage, sometimes she complains about financial difficulties, and from time to time she hints that I am sponsoring her.
My wife soon noticed the anomaly, and one day, she asked me, "Honey, why have you been staring at your phone lately? Is there something hiding from me?"
I told her the truth that I had reconnected with my cousin. The wife frowned, and she said, "You had a good relationship when you were young, I can understand that. However, you have to be careful not to be taken advantage of by her. "
I hurriedly explained: "Don't worry, we are just ordinary relatives, nothing else." "
The wife still didn't seem to be at ease, but she didn't say anything more.
Through the message from my cousin, I gradually learned that her living situation is indeed not good.
"Cousin, my husband and I have been arguing a lot lately, he is always drinking and gambling, and he has squandered all the family's savings. Our family of three can only live on my meager salary, and life is too hard. "
Looking at these words from my cousin, my heart was extremely heavy. Although she is a little too dependent on me, after all, she is my relative, and I can only secretly sympathize.
At first, when my cousin and I chatted, the tone was quite polite. But as time went on, her tone began to become a little aggressive.
"Cousin, aren't you quite rich, just lend me a little money to tide over the trouble, and I will definitely pay you back." "
"Why are you so stingy? We are a family, even if you borrow two or three hundred thousand, you are also gentle. "
Looking at these foul words on my phone, I felt very uncomfortable, but in order to maintain family affection, I could only force my composure.
"Cousin, I want to help you too, but my financial resources are limited. However, I can give you some advice on how to live your life......"
"Hmph, you better save it, I don't need your sympathy. My cousin's tone became stiff.
Once, my wife stumbled upon a chat I had with my cousin, and she got angry and asked me, "What is your relationship? Why is she talking like that?"
I hurriedly explained: "She has indeed gone too far recently, but after all, she is my relative, and I can't directly save her face." "
The wife is still angry: "You are pampering her like this, she is simply taking advantage of your relationship! You are being led away by the nose!"
I know my wife has a point, but I still feel that my cousin is my relative after all, and I shouldn't just cut off the relationship completely.
My wife saw my hesitation, and she said solemnly, "Listen, either you block her right away, or our relationship ends here!"
I was shocked, I didn't expect my wife to be so strict. It seems that I really her off. What should I do? Should I keep my kinship with my cousin, or should I choose my wife, my dearest and dearest?
In the face of my wife's, I repeatedly weighed the pros and cons. On the one hand, I don't want to abandon my cousin's kinship just like that; On the other hand, I am even more reluctant to lose my wife as a pillar and support.
After some deliberation, I finally made up my mind. For my cousin, I will block her WeChat account and completely cut off contact; For my wife, I sincerely apologize to her and hope that she will forgive me for my sluggishness and hesitation.
That night, I solemnly apologized to my wife: "I'm sorry I thought too late and made you angry. I've blocked my cousin, and from now on, she won't bother our lives anymore. "
My wife's eyes softened a lot when she looked at me. "I know you're a person who values love and justice, but sometimes, you have to learn to be decisive," she said. That cousin, she has long lost the appearance of her relatives. "
I nodded, and my wife's words gave me a new understanding. It is true that my cousin has completely regarded our kinship as a resource to be exploited, and her actions have completely deviated from the original meaning of family affection.
The wife continued: "However, I also want to thank you for choosing our family in the end. I believe that as long as we trust and understand each other, there is no difficulty that cannot be solved. "
I looked at my wife deeply and only felt that I was the luckiest person in the world. With such a wise and considerate partner, my life is destined to be safe all the way. I stepped forward and hugged my wife and kissed her lightly on the forehead, feeling extremely relieved.
After this episode, I reflected on the true meaning of family affection. Family affection is not only a blood connection, but more importantly, a spiritual fit and comfort.
A person who only knows how to ask for it but does not know how to cherish it does not deserve to be called a "relative" at all. On the contrary, a person who can share weal and woe with you and support each other is your most sincere relative.
I'm glad I chose my wife. She is not only my bosom love, but also the closest person in my life. With her understanding and support, I was able to devote myself to my work and life.
As for cousin, she has already distorted the connotation of the word family affection. She only saw me as an object to be used, with no sense of respect and cherishment at all. Instead of dwelling on it, it is better to cut off contact and live your own life.
This experience made me realize the importance of family to a person. Family is not only the continuation of your life, but also the sustenance of your spirit.
My wife is my most important family. When I was most confused and shaken, she held me by the hand with wisdom and courage and gave me firm strength. Without her understanding and support, I might have made some decisions that I regretted.
In addition to my wife, my parents, siblings and my closest family members are also my closest family. Although they sometimes have some minor problems, their love for me is sincere and selfless. I should learn to care for and cherish them more.
Family members should care for each other and tolerate each other. Only by using the bond of love to bind everyone together can the family be united and share weal and sorrow. The power of this family is unshakeable by any outsider.
Therefore, I will never allow anyone to destroy the harmony of my family. Although my cousin is also my relative, her actions have violated the bottom line. Instead of dwelling on it, it is better to stop it and avoid more harm in the future.