An important criterion for judging the purity of the relationship between men and women is the boundaries and proportions when dealing with each other.
Although these boundaries are invisible and tangible, adults usually understand them tacitly, even if they don't know what to say. For example, certain things cannot be shared, even with close people, we should not have physical contact, let alone stay overnight, and even if we trust each other, we should not be completely free of secrets and should not intervene in other people's private affairs. The existence of all these regulations can make us respect each other more and maintain a certain degree of independence and freedom. This is necessary for mature and healthy relationships.
The most important factor in a long-lasting relationship is to maintain the right distance, proportion, and boundaries from each other. This sense of distance allows us to have enough personal space while also being able to deepen our relationship. In any relationship, we need to learn how to get along and maintain respect and trust in order for our relationship to last.
Only when all the requirements are met will a relationship be truly pure. Otherwise, friendship turns into love, becoming ambiguous and unhealthy. Even if there is no clear romantic relationship, it can be hurtful because of the ambiguity. We should be clear about our feelings and boundaries to avoid hurting people and hurting people.
To confirm the purity of the relationship between a man and a woman, simply pay attention to whether the following three items are shared. This is the most basic boundary of interpersonal communication and must be properly followed.
Even if two people share the same experience, it shows that their relationship is no longer innocent.
One: Share utensils
Even if you have a good relationship with a friend of the opposite sex, you should not share a cutlery or drink the same cup of milk tea, which may indicate that your relationship has gone beyond ordinary friendship and even becomes extremely close. When interacting with friends of the opposite sex, we should maintain a certain amount of proportion and boundaries.
Qin Junjie, who was Yang Zi's ex-boyfriend, is a typical example.
During the filming of the TV series "Bubble Summer", Qin Junjie and actor Zhang Xueying were photographed enjoying Hu spicy soup together, and the two had a deep friendship and intimate manners. This scene makes people feel warm and comfortable, and brings more joy and empathy to the audience.
According to reports, a reporter pointed out that the two were in love, but in fact, Yang Zi and Qin Junjie had not broken up at that time.
When Yang Zi and Qin Junjie announced their breakup, Zhang Xueying became a third party in everyone's mouth, and many people blamed her intervention for causing the lovers to break up.
As the rumors continued to spread, Yang Zi issued a statement under Zhang Xueying's social media in order to clarify the facts, saying that his decision to break up with Qin Junjie was made based on personal reasons and had nothing to do with Zhang Xueying. This move successfully dispelled suspicion and accusations against Zhang Xueying.
Because of the "Hu Spicy Soup Incident", Zhang Xueying's image has been seriously hit, which has seriously affected her career development.
It can be seen that even if men and women do not have bad thoughts about each other, the act of sharing utensils is almost equivalent to indirect kissing, which is too intimate.
When two people get along with the opposite sex, if they don't care about sharing utensils, then their relationship must be more intimate. This shows that they have enough trust and respect for each other without having to worry about infections or other health issues. This comfortable and intimate atmosphere will promote deeper communication and a longer lasting friendship or love relationship. Letting go of these little problems, we should pay more attention to each other's emotions and communication.
Two: Share clothes
On the one hand, the clothes will be stained with the owner's breath. When you put on someone else's clothes, you will feel surrounded by a sense of protection and at the same time a sense of freshness. This feeling is difficult to fully express in words.
If you are not very close to the other person, wearing his clothes may make you feel uncomfortable and even a little disgusted. It's a natural thing to do.
Breath is such a thing, which is originally changed through the addition of psychological feelings. The same men's coat, on the woman who has a crush on her, she will feel that it is masculine and fascinating. Wearing a coat on a woman who has no affection for him, that is, a cloak that blocks the wind, may even dislike the smell of sweat.
Clothing is visible to all and therefore plays an important role in shaping one's image and appearance.
When a woman appears in public dressed in masculine clothing, it seems to declare the special status and importance of men to her. This behavior is not only a manifestation of male sovereignty, but also a unique expression of women's feelings towards men.
If clothes can be shared between people of the opposite sex without care, this indicates that both parties have psychologically exclusive ideas, wishing to show an unusual relationship between them. This behavior suggests a level of trust and intimacy with each other, showing a special emotional bond between them.
Three: Sharing personal belongings
In addition to sharing utensils and clothes with each other, sharing personal items is also an important sign of a loss of purity in a relationship.
For example, extremely personal items such as towels, toothbrushes, toothpaste, nail clippers, etc., are impossible to share unless they are very close.
Imagine that when you go to someone's house, you will greet them politely as the first time, instead of using someone else's towel to wipe your face. This is obviously due to your high quality, but also means that you are sensible and understand that such behavior is neither polite nor appropriate.
Personal items are personal items that cannot be shared or shared with others.
When two people share an item, it already means that they have a very close relationship. For example, couples or couples sometimes share a cup of water, use the same box of toothpaste, and so on. This phenomenon is very common and does not deserve much attention. Because it means that they have started to live together and have come to see each other as family.
It is impossible for an ordinary friend of the opposite sex to have such an intimate relationship. If there is, it can only mean that the relationship is not innocent enough.
Whether it is a friend or a lover, the life that can be met is a kind of fate. If we don't know how to cherish it, then we may end up with the regret of losing. We must work harder to grasp the fate that truly belongs to us, manage them with heart and cherish them.
If you truly value someone, don't let them lose their purity, or it's already too late to redeem them.