Examples of other people's successes, how can you just copy and paste them casually!
A lady Wang in my town gave birth to two sons, the eldest son was 10 years old, and the second son divorced her husband for unknown reasons when she was 8 years old.
After the divorce, the family stayed in the town for two years, because the eldest son's academic performance was not satisfactory, and the younger son was naughty, Ms. Wang thought of moving, and wanted to learn from the three moves of Meng's mother in the past.
Xi Meng's mother, choose a neighbor, the son does not learn, and the machine is broken;
During the Warring States Period, Mencius's mother moved three times, all in order to make Mencius have a good learning environment! Once, Mencius was lazy and truant from school, unwilling to study, and after Mencius's mother found him back, she cut the cloth of the loom to educate the children, saying that learning should not be lazy or interrupted, and if it was interrupted, it would not be like this cloth. Mencius was inspired, studied diligently, and later became very successful.
Enlightenment: Mencius was able to become a famous scholar in history because of his mother's strict education. As a child, to understand this requirement is to make yourself a useful person.
Dou Yanshan, who has a righteous side, teaches five sons, and is famous.
In the fifth generation, Dou Yujun, a native of Yanshan, had a very good method of educating his sons, and the five sons he educated all became famous in the imperial examination at the same time!
Implication: It is not enough to educate without good methods. A good approach is strict and reasonable. Dou Yujun was able to make his five sons get along in harmony, they were all filial to their parents, and they were all academically successful, which was inseparable from his parenting methods.
The first time I moved, it didn't work well.
Ms. Wang is a cheerful person, and she will move from the town to the city more than 100 miles away from the town. I bought a school district house in the city and transferred my two children to a prestigious school in the city. She herself is a full-time accompaniment to meet all the requirements of the child's life!
At the end of the first semester, the eldest son in the fourth grade had mediocre grades, which was not much different from the grades in the town, and the younger son in the second grade had dropped a little in his grades, and he also had a frequent fight with a classmate, but Ms. Wang put up with it.
In the second semester, the grades of the two children were worse than the previous semester, and the difficult thing was that the younger son was constantly fighting, and the head teacher often invited her to make an appointment!
Second move, even worse!
After staying for a year, the grades of the two children were not as good as those in the town, and Ms. Wang thought again, Meng's mother moved three times to train Mencius well, and I only moved once, while the children still have a chance.
Speaking of moving and moving, she used the summer vacation time to find a school district house in a second-tier city, and she sent her two children to the city's high-end universities for further study at the beginning of the fall semester, full of hope!
A year later, her eldest son in the fifth grade not only had his grades dropped, but his temper had also become odd, as if he was suffering from depression. The younger son is not much better, his grades have risen slightly, and the phenomenon of fighting is gone.
Ms. Wang was not satisfied with the results, but wanted to stay for another year.
A year passed quickly, the sixth grade was heavier, and I was not used to studying too much, but the depression of the eldest son was getting worse and worse, and the naughtiness of the younger son in the third grade was gone, his eyes were dull, and he was short-sighted, so he had to wear a pair of glasses.
Now Ms. Wang was entangled and didn't know what the problem was. But for the sake of the child, she gritted her teeth and decided to learn from Meng's mother to move once!
The third time she moved, Ms. Wang regretted it!
Ms. Wang thinks that the first two moves may be due to the fact that the school is not high-end enough, but this time it will be done in one step.
She sold a school district house in a second-tier city, took out all her savings, and bought a small school district house in Guangzhou, sending her eldest son to a well-known junior high school, while her younger son was in the fourth grade in a better primary school.
By this time, Ms. Wang's financial constraints had to take a part-time job near the school to make ends meet.
A year later, Ms. Wang regretted it. Neither of the children achieved the expected grades, although they were the same as when they were in the second-tier cities, but compared with the classmates in the class, it was really far behind.
Ms. Wang regretted that it was useless, and her three moves not only failed to achieve the effect of Meng's mother's three moves, but also spent all her savings. As a result, she called Meng's mother three moves unsuitable for modern people to imitate.
Write at the end:
The times are different, although everyone is for the future of the child, but the mother and child are different, the environment is different, and the education method is not right, even if you have the determination of Meng's mother to move three times, but without Dou Yanshan's education method, the result will definitely be a failure.
What do you think about Ms. Wang's three moves, welcome to comment!