On Weibo, there is such a hot topic:
What is the essence of marriage and love?
One of the answers is impressive:
"The essence of love is not that two people look down on each other, you look at me unpleasantly, I look at you and panic;
It's two people working together to face the world, you pull me, I support you.
Slowly you will understand that when you meet a good partner, life is like winning a battle. ”
As Zhu Deyong said:
"Love is a choice, marriage is a fate. ”
Love, which begins with the mutual attraction of two hearts, is a choice we make in the vast sea of people.
Marriage, on the other hand, is woven together by our countless times of frank communication and countless times of hand in hand, and constructs our destiny.
A wife is a blessing to her husband
One day after work, the road was jammed, and it turned out that two cars were unfortunately rear-ended.
Next to the car, two women are negotiating how to deal with it.
However, at this time, the husband in the rear-ended vehicle suddenly got out of the car, with an angry face, and pointed to the rear-ended woman and said:
"How do you drive? Are the eyes an ornament?"
Hearing this, the husband in the rear-end car also quickly got out of the car and responded violently:
"How do you talk?"
Seeing that the emotions of the two men escalated instantly, they pushed each other, and the war was about to break out.
Seeing this, the two wives immediately turned into "fire fighters" and used all their strength to pull their respective husbands back into the car.
Subsequently, the two wives acted quickly, and after taking photos to record the scene, the two cars quickly evacuated and the road was restored.
Seeing this scene, I can't help but sigh:
"A virtuous helper is really important to a family, otherwise a traffic accident is likely to turn into a public security incident. ”
Educator Cai Yuanpei said:
"A man chooses a woman, and he must choose the one who is graceful and upright. ”
A good wife is undoubtedly the greatest blessing in a man's life.
When the husband loses control of his emotions and falls into a turbulent turmoil, the woman is the gentle harbor, using gentle comfort to bring the husband back to inner peace.
When the husband is discouraged and loses the courage to move forward, the woman is the light, sending encouragement and comfort in time to light the way forward for him.
In a family, a woman is the top feng shui.
She is not only the guardian of family harmony, but also maintains family harmony and happiness with her wisdom and gentleness;
She is also a booster for a man's career success, using her support and encouragement to add motivation and confidence to his partner.
With her company, the man can remain sober and determined, and the family can prosper and prosper as a result.
As the saying goes, there are few wives and husbands, and the family and everything is prosperous.
If a woman is at peace, the family is harmonious, and if a woman is happy, the family is prosperous.
The husband is the wife's back
Playwright Osborne said:
"Wives also have needs.
When her husband brings her security and happiness, she feels safe. ”
For a woman, being able to marry a husband who understands her needs is like having a stable tree, so that her life can take root and no longer be swayed by the wind.
On the contrary, if she meets a non-human, her life will be like a rootless duckweed, with the joys and sorrows of men, full of unpredictable twists and turns.
Saw a video.
A wife who was five months pregnant bought fruit snacks worth 200.
As soon as the husband came home and saw the shopping list, he scolded:
"When you bought two hundred pieces of fruit, did you think about your family?"
In fact, this wife is in a special period and needs not only material nourishment, but also her husband's care and love.
However, instead of giving her due understanding and support, her husband treated her coldly and pushed the difficulties of life onto her.
In such a relationship, the woman has to suffer not only physical discomfort, but also mental stress.
Such a marriage is undoubtedly a sorrow for her.
On the contrary, a good partner will turn love into action and warm the heart of the other half.
The 6.2-magnitude earthquake in Gansu in the early morning touched the hearts of countless people.
Among them, the story of a husband and wife has attracted attention.
At that time, the strong tremor woke her husband, and he quickly wrapped his wife tightly in the quilt and protected him under him, comforting:
"Don't be afraid, I'm here. ”
Immediately afterwards, he put a pillow on his wife's head to protect her.
This flowing action stems from the husband's deep love and responsibility for his wife.
This emotion has long been integrated into his blood and has become his knee-jerk reaction, so there is no hesitation or hesitation.
Netizens were warmly cried by this scene, and they all envied:
"If you can marry such a husband, you will definitely be happy for a lifetime. ”
As the old saying goes:
"There is a good husband in the house, and the wife is not worried. ”
The husband is the wife's backing.
When she meets the right person, even if her life is not easy and her career is not going well, her wife can muster up the courage to move forward fearlessly.
A husband who loves his wife deeply can not only give her warmth and strength, but also create a stable and harmonious atmosphere for the whole family.
Husband and wife are each other's destiny
In the book "Dwelling in Marriage", it is written:
"Once husband and wife are united, it is a community of destiny. ”
The relationship between two people cannot be maintained only by the initial love for a long time, but requires both husband and wife to grow and work together.
No matter how much people love each other, they can't escape the firewood, rice, oil and salt in real life.
No matter how beautiful love is, it also needs to take root.
If you blame each other and don't give in to each other, that pure liking will turn into resentment, leading to a rift in the marriage.
Happiness does not lie in the past vows, but in the bits and pieces of life.
The long-term way of marriage is not to compete with each other, not to stick to one's own opinions, but to learn to empathize and tolerate each other.
A friend shared a vignette he had with his wife.
One day, his wife came home full of anger and told her friends about what her colleagues had done, and she couldn't let go of what she thought was a very unkind behavior.
Because of his profession, my friend listened to his wife's narration and began to analyze it habitually.
He dismantled every detail of the incident, dissected them one by one, and finally came to the conclusion:
The colleague is seven points wrong, and the wife is three points wrong.
The wife quietly listened to the analysis and did not say anything to refute it.
However, in the days that followed, she began to deliberately keep her distance from her friends and had a cold attitude.
After such a scene happened a few times, my friend finally realized:
"A family should convince people with love, not with virtue, and not with logic. ”
The real gap between husband and wife is not the difference in personality, not the difference in experience, but the difference in thinking between men and women.
Men's appeal is often "am I amazing", but women's appeal is "do you love me".
So men are always reasoning and have to fight to win or lose, while women are always talking about their feelings and seeking proof of being loved.
But true wisdom lies in the ability to listen, understand and accept each other across these differences.
Zhang Xiaoxian once wrote:
"Women are better at love than men, so women often suffer. ”
Women, who are undoubtedly artists of love, often suffer because of their affection.
They crave emotional exchange and look forward to the resonance of their hearts.
When faced with problems, they are more willing to confide and share, seeking emotional understanding and comfort rather than cold solutions.
For men, sitting down and listening carefully to women's voices, understanding their emotional desires, and giving resonance and support in a timely manner is the greatest care and help for them.
When a man can gently feel a woman's emotional world, when a woman can respect and appreciate a man's rationality and responsibility.
They can care for each other, support each other to move forward, and walk through the ups and downs of life together.
Write at the end
Wu Mi, a master of Chinese culture, once said:
"The key to marriage is not only in the choice, but in the fact that the husband and wife can accommodate and reconcile with each other. ”
Marriage is not just a simple union of two people, but also a deep integration of two hearts.
This kind of integration, embodied in all aspects of life, requires continuous operation and maintenance by both parties, just like a tree needs sunshine, rain and soil.
The highest state of married life is only four words: symbiosis and co-prosperity.
Husband and wife are a community with a shared future.
A happy marriage requires both parties to be interdependent and advance and retreat together.
In such a realm, husband and wife fight side by side to meet the challenges and opportunities of life together, not afraid of white clouds and dogs, and not afraid of changes in the world.
May we all touch the beauty of married life, deeply understand each other, tacit support, and write a brilliant chapter of life together.
May we be able to win the hearts of one person, the white heads are not separated, accompanied by affection, and firm because of the years.
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