Recently, I have brushed up on such a sentence: This is a bastard world, and we are all people who live as bastards.
The world is a bastard, this is a reality that we can't change, why do we live like bastards? It's all related to the word "confused". If people are confused, they will be led astray by the way of the world.
Nowadays, when people talk about the world, they will be cynical, thinking that this place is not good, that there is not worth it, full of greed and hatred, more and more unhappiness, and living the most disgusted self in their hearts.
In fact, why complain? The darker it is, the more we should yearn for the light, instead of being willing to be swallowed up by the darkness before we curse and curse. Everything is not a question of reality, but a question of "heart".
I have always believed that as long as people's hearts are clear and know where their pursuit is, even if they are in a difficult situation, they can still enjoy suffering and live a high-quality life.
In this bastard's world, the smartest way to live is the following 3 words.
1. Slow - The faster the pace of life, the more we have to slow down.
As we all know, this is an era of extreme involution, extreme internal friction, and extremely fast-paced. Everyone is running desperately, for fear that if they slow down, they will be eliminated.
People who are led astray by the fast-paced life are worried all day long, depressed, and don't know where the road is.
Is it not necessary to say that when the pace of life becomes faster, we should also become faster? First of all, the fast pace of life is the fast pace of the elite, and we are not the elite, why should we push ourselves so much?
Secondly, we are just ordinary people, it is good to live a good life in the moment and enjoy every minute and every second, so why let our desires swell and pursue those unrealistic things and make ourselves miserable?
As Professor Tsang said, "Fast and fast will not make people make more money, but will only make people die faster." ”
This sentence, although a bit ugly, is the truth of reality. Seeking too much speed, too much involution, and overdrawing one's body, there is a high probability that people and money will be empty, and life will be short and blessed.
Let life slow down, take a good look at the blue sky, experience the beauty of nature, live with a quiet heart, live a life with an indifferent heart, do not be impatient or impatient, and naturally get good results.
2. Simplicity - eliminate complexity and enjoy minimalism.
The ancients had a saying: the road is simple. This means that the great principles (basic principles, methods, and laws) are extremely simple, so simple that they can be explained in one or two sentences.
Life is also the road to simplicity. It's just eating, drinking, and living in the present life, so why do we have to make it so complicated? Because if the human heart is not satisfied, it will become restless.
There is a person in the circle who is already worth a million, but he is not happy, he is still engaged in all kinds of tosses, all kinds of tosses, all of them have lost money in the past two years, and he is in debt, so he regrets what he did before.
He said something like this: "When you have money, you think very complicatedly. Now there is no money, although it is a little harder, but it is much easier, there is no calculation, there is no complexity, only the simplicity at the beginning. ”
Human desires are endless, yesterday they wanted 10,000, today they want 100,000, and tomorrow they want 1 million. But can ordinary people really make so much money? Without opportunities, they can't make money at all.
In this case, why do we embarrass ourselves and make our lives so bad? Human life is complicated and meaningless, and it is nothing but self-suffering. Only the minimalism of low desire is the truth.
Desire or something, just do it in moderation, and life doesn't need anything weird. As long as you are well fed, warmly dressed, safe and sound, and the family is reunited, isn't it already very happy?
3. Happiness - Timely gratification, not delayed gratification.
In psychology, there is a noun, delayed gratification. Baidu Encyclopedia's explanation is that it is willing to give up the choice orientation of instant gratification for the sake of long-term results.
To put it bluntly, when you are young, you can travel the world, but you don't go, but you think that you are happiest when you retire to travel the world.
But you ignore one point, after retirement, many people are not even good at their legs and feet, and they may still be sick in bed, how can they go around the world? It is a pity not to go when they can.
It's like eating rock sugar gourd, you don't eat it when you're young, and you have to wait until you grow up to eat it. As we grow up, even if we eat rock sugar gourds again, it is not the taste of childhood.
Just like the candles in the cave room, when we are young and strong, we don't go to the cave candles, and when we get older, we will inevitably have a weak heart.
To delay gratification is to pin the hope of the present on the future. The problem is that we don't even have a good time in the present, so we hope for the future, isn't this a proper "looking at the sky"?
People, not living in the past, not living in the future, but living in the present. At the moment, timely satisfaction, timely fun, timely happiness, live up to every minute and every second, and the day when you get old, you will not regret it.
Write to the end
Whether this world is a bastard or not, we don't know. We only know that in our lives, as long as we find the right way to live, we will not become jerks.
The faster the pace of life, the more we have to slow down, the more complicated life is, the simpler we have to live, the more unpredictable life is, the more we must be satisfied in time and have fun in time.
As Mr. Yang Jiang said, it is good to smile and smile in the past, to follow the fate of people in the future, and to do things now.