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Live in the judgment and standards of others
We live in this world, and we often have a lot of involuntary bodies. It can be said that everyone is like this from princes and generals to peddlers and pawns.
And among the many involuntary bodies, there is a problem that plagues many, many people, that is, compromising for various reasons and giving up living as they want.
In other words, many people actually live in the evaluation and standards of others, and live a life that is not what they want.
This person may be a parent, a relative, an elder, a teacher, a lover, or it may be the standard of the whole society.
For example, some people like music since they were young and want to take the path of musicians, but their parents think that making music is not a serious thing, and it is not reliable to do it, so it is not as stable as a civil servant.
For example, if you don't get married at the age of 30, you will be regarded as an alternative, like a commodity that is about to expire, and if you don't have a house or a car at the age of 30, you will be regarded as an unsuccessful type of person.
It is undeniable that these standards and voices do influence many people and influence some of the major decisions in their lives.
I've often wondered: do we really need to care about other people's voices?
It's really not necessary.
Parents' ideas and suggestions are naturally to be listened to, but they are also for reference only, and they are listened to rather than followed.
The standards and voices of society naturally have to be cared about, after all, we all live in this society, but it is also for reference only, and we go at our own pace and will, which is the most important thing.
There is no standard answer in life, everyone is the painter of their own life, what to paint, what to leave behind, should follow their own wishes.
02
Dwelling on the past
The beauty of life is twofold:
First, as I just said, there is no standard way of living in life, and if it sounds good, it means swaying and writing to your heart's content, and if you say something that is not good, it is to cross the river by feeling the stones; second, there is no turning back in life, and every day and every second of the past will become a past that cannot be returned.
Because it is the first time to come to this world and the first time to be a human being, it is inevitable that you will make mistakes, and it is impossible for every decision to be right.
We can fall in love with the wrong person, fill in the wrong choice, choose the wrong career, and make all sorts of wrong and stupid choices.
But it is precisely because we can't start over and can't travel back in time and space to go back to the past, so it's completely unnecessary to indulge in the past and get entangled with people and things that have passed.
Whether it is glorious or lonely, the past is gone, so don't overindulge in it anymore. The most important thing in life is to look forward, learn from past mistakes, sum up experience, and then try to live well in the present and focus on the future.
03
Fear of experimentation, refusal to change
Frankly speaking, there is a very important reason why many people's lives are gray and mediocre, that is, they lack the courage to try and change.
It is precisely because the layer remains unchanged all day long, like a pool of stagnant water, that it will finally be covered with dust and no waves.
I often hear people say that the job is too painful for me now, and I curse and curse, but in the end I obediently go to work and continue to struggle and wallow in the quagmire he describes.
Of course, I know that there are many practical reasons why we can't leave in style, and I don't suggest that people who complain about their jobs should leave immediately.
What I really want to say is, if you really don't like your current work and life, then please plan carefully and try to act and change.
Because only by taking action and trying, you may have a chance to break the situation and usher in a turnaround.
In fact, the difficulties are often not as difficult as we think, and not trying and refusing to change is actually the biggest obstacle.
04
I always want to make everyone like it
As we all know, emotional intelligence and connections play a pivotal role in a person's career development.
Whether it's the desire for success or the fear of loneliness, we always want to have good relationships that make everyone like us.
But the reality is that no matter how hard we try to behave, we will still attract a lot of blank eyes and cold reception.
In fact, even the omnipotent God could not satisfy everyone, and when it rained, the people who dried the cloth were unhappy, and when it was sunny, the people who sold umbrellas were not happy.
Therefore, walking in this world, we must be soberly aware of this: no one can make everyone happy and like.
For this reason, we don't have to deliberately please anyone, we don't have to wronged ourselves in order to cater to anyone, there is really no need to do this.
Many times, the less we love ourselves, the less we take ourselves, and the less others tend to take us seriously.
For the rest of your life, please be confident, be self-conscious, have a little temper, and have a bit of edge, and you will find that such a life will be very cool.
05
Shame on money
I found that many young people talk about dreams and feelings when they open their mouths and close their mouths, and feel that talking about money is too cheesy.
Compared to them, I feel quite tacky. Because I like to talk about money, I never hide my love for money, and I am full of copper smell.
In my opinion, talking about money is not a cheesy and humiliating thing, right. On the contrary, this is the state that a steamy person should be.
Because many responsibilities and obligations need to be supported by money, and many dreams and feelings need money to pave the way.
Frankly, in this world, money can really solve most problems.
In fact, what really deserves our vigilance and reflection is our attitude towards money and our ability to control it.
As the saying goes, a gentleman loves money and takes it in the right way.
We must clearly know what money can be earned and what money must not be earned.
Today's article, I hope to bring you some thoughts and changes, and may we all live a different life in our limited lives.