It is said that where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and if the rivers and lakes are in one day, the disputes between the rivers and lakes will also exist for one day and will never dissipate.
The dinner is a miniature version of the rivers and lakes, everyone plays their role here, and the old rivers and lakes have been traveling south and north for many years, and they can naturally see the ups and downs of the dinner at a glance.
1. Dinner seats and mentality
The purpose of setting up a dinner party also determines what kind of role will sit in the main seat and what kind of role will sit in the guest seat.
There are even some dinners, which don't care about the host and guest of honor at all, as long as the people present can eat happily.
For example, if it is a family dinner, it is not important who sits in the main seat at all.
If there are elders in the people attending the dinner, it is natural that the elders sit in the main seat, if they are all equals, everyone gets together to be happy, and who cares who sits in the main seat.
Someone is about to say, in the past, the person who sat in the main seat was the last person to pay the bill.
Now it's not necessarily, a large family of relatives sits together, in order to contact feelings, if you stare at it, who sits in the main seat, who has a higher status, who pays in the end, how can the family get along.
When a family gets along, they have to be so careful, so how to get along, there is only calculation left between relatives, and how can they talk about home as their own haven.
Or a dinner between friends, of course, this is talking about true friends, if it is a dinner between true friends, the host and guest of honor are not important.
There is a good saying, rely on your parents at home, and rely on friends when you go out.
This sentence naturally shows that family and friends are very important in life.
Nowadays, there is a lot of competition in society, who is not tired of busy with their work every day, and after they are busy with work, they also have their own families to take care of.
On weekdays, everyone is busy with their own affairs, and it is difficult for a group of close friends to take time to get together and have a good chat.
Whenever anyone has time, they want to invite someone out to get together, call over, or send a message to the group, and get the news, either this is busy, or there is something to do.
Finally, if it is really a gathering, either no one will be able to go this time, or no one will be able to go next time.
So, for a dinner between true friends, the host and guest of honor are not a thing.
When you arrive at the dinner scene, where you sit is not sitting, where you sit will you eat less, drink less wine, or sit where it is harmful to people's physical and mental health.
It's hard to get together, so it's important to sit down, order good food, and let the restaurant serve the food quickly, so that a group of sincere friends can have a good chat at the dinner table.
So, when you enter the society, you will find that there are so many old rivers and lakes around them, how they know everything, and how they know what they are thinking and worrying about at a glance.
In the eyes of those old rivers and lakes, this kind of social cabbage is simply nowhere to hide, and the ugly thing is that if the other party sells himself, maybe he will happily help the other party count the money.
In this way, there is a kind of dinner that has to be said, that is, the company's internal dinner.
As long as it is a dinner party between peers, it must be the AA system, even if it is cross-departmental, in fact, they are colleagues who usually cross their work.
Eating with such a group of people, everyone is from the same company, and they are both workers, so the dinner scene is lively and lively, and there will be no cold time.
When a group of people appear in the same place, it is inevitable that several people with a good relationship will get together.
It's normal and harmless to have such a situation, and everyone won't say it, and you can have a lively meal together while sitting together.
But after the meal, when everyone goes back to their own homes and looks for their mothers, they always have their own thoughts in their hearts.
Everyone can see everyone's performance at the dinner, let alone what state they are in after drinking, everyone can see it at a glance.
Who is extroverted, talkative, loves to cheer, and sits in the center, and who is introverted, less talkative, cold, and sits on the edge.
Everyone can see it, see it, and have their own judgment, and in the process of getting along in the future, they will naturally come up with a different state.
In fact, if the colleagues at the same level have a dinner, if the leader will appear at the dinner site, then everyone has a scale in their hearts, and everyone has their own little ninety-nine in their hearts.
In the workplace, there has always been such a saying, looking up is all buttocks, left and right are ears and eyes, and looking down are all smiling faces.
It gives people the feeling that if you don't have a 120-point spirit in the workplace, if you offend the leader one day, you won't know it, and you won't know if you commit some taboos.
When the time comes, but you don't know it, it doesn't mean that others don't know, if someone has the intention to sue and put small shoes on people, you will feel that it is really boring to stay in this workplace.
said that there would be a dinner party where the leader was there, and in the position, the leader must be the main position, and when ordering, it must be the leader who orders first.
At the dinner table, the center is the leader, with the leader as the center, some people hope to be as close to the leader as possible, and some people feel that they just sit on the side.
Not to mention the work ability of the leader, just by virtue of the leader's ability to sit in the management position, you can prove that you have its own advantages, and you are also the winner of the fight from the workplace.
In this way, the leader has never seen anything, who wants to hold him around him, hoping to get some benefits, and who is not fighting or grabbing, only cares about his own affairs, and the leader has a clear heart.
So, when you have a different mindset when you go to a dinner, your choice will naturally be different when choosing a seat.
Second, see the truth after drinking
To say that in addition to eating, the meal is to drink, and even sometimes, drinking alcohol is more important than eating.
Take a look at what brand of wine is on the table, plus the people who attended the dinner, and you can know how important the dinner is to the organizers.
However, after a few glasses of wine, some people don't know who their names are.
As soon as I drank the wine, my brain was like I had stopped working, and when I saw that everyone was my brother, I opened my mouth that everyone was a brother, come and come, and have a drink together.
The other party showed the intention of refusing, and immediately said, "Do you look down on me, why do you drink when others invite you to drink, and you don't drink when I invite you to drink?"
Whether you want to drink or not, whether you want to drink or not is everyone's freedom, who has the right to decide whether to drink the glass of wine in front of them.
Of course, someone has something to say, some wine is not what you really want to drink, how can you push away every glass of wine.
But let's talk about the toast of those who have drunk and drunk.
It's not so much that these people are toasting, but that they are urging them to drink.
Ignoring your current situation, ignoring your wishes, and even more ignoring your attitude, he just wants you to drink what he wants you to drink.
Fulfilled his wish, really drank it, maybe the next thing he will face is to kick his nose in the face, he will keep letting you drink, as if you can't drink it.
Speaking of which, I was willing to drink just now, why don't you want to drink now, what do you mean, what attitude.
If they don't drink from the beginning, maybe they will start drinking and going crazy, and at the dinner, you can hear them making a lot of noise and yelling.
Alcohol is on the head, so that they don't care about the feelings of the other people present, they just feel that the other person doesn't care about their own feelings now.
is full of thoughts and thoughts that others have lost their own face and look down on themselves, so they want the other party to drink every glass of wine they pour and toast every glass of wine.
At a dinner, there are more or fewer people present, and everyone can see his performance after drinking.
Seeing that person playing drunk after drinking, who wouldn't draw a stroke in their hearts.
I'm afraid that the dinner hasn't ended yet, and everyone has already given him a small label in their hearts, a drunken maniac.
In the future, if you get involved with wine again, I am afraid that it will not be simple, and if you have something to do with yourself because of this, it will not be good.
After all, on the street, when you see someone playing drunk, who doesn't hide far away, what happened, he said that he was drunk and didn't know anything, but he was unlucky.
In order to calm yourself down, the easiest way is to stay away from that kind of person.
This is what people often say, wine sees character, and your character determines my attitude towards you.
Alcohol enters the stomach, not the brain, but many people let alcohol control their brains after drinking.
At the same time, I know best what kind of state I am in when I drink.
At dinner, he will not restrain himself, but will "release" his own nature at will, which is to put it bluntly, disrespecting others.
It should be clear that no one will tolerate one person unconditionally, and everyone will tolerate the other person to a certain extent.
Jumping on the baseline that others dislike again and again will be completely disappointed.
Besides, you can't even restrain yourself in a small matter like drinking, so let alone do other big things.
Seeing the big from the small is exactly that.
When it comes to doing things, who doesn't want their team to be all good people, and who likes pig teammates?
People who like pig teammates, do they decide that their current life is too easy, and they want to make some trouble for themselves.
I'm afraid that when working as a team, everyone secretly prays in their hearts that it is the norm that they will not run into pig teammates.
After all, everyone knows that with a good teammate, you have to do things with half the effort, and life is too tiring, so don't make trouble for yourself.
Third, the wind in the rivers and lakes has not stopped
It is said that there is no wind and no waves, but there is no impermeable wall in the world, and there can be monstrous waves without wind.
Everything that happens in the world is interlinked, and every word you say and do today is heard and seen.
You don't know how many people will know what is happening at this moment through these people who hear and see.
Knowing that there will be measurements, and it will have an impact when making a judgment about something that concerns you in the future.
People, eating every day, eating, eating, nothing more than a bunch of people getting together to eat.
There can be many reasons to get together for dinner, or you haven't seen each other for a long time, everyone gets together for a get-together, or someone asks someone to do something, so you can simply organize a dinner.
However, when people receive an invitation to a dinner, they have already begun to weigh whether they want to go to this dinner, and if something happens at this dinner, what are the standards for dealing with it.
When it comes to the dinner, from the seat, to the food, to the eating appearance, and even the overall attitude at the dinner, it will be observed by those who are interested.
You can hide yourself for a while, can you hide yourself for the rest of your life?
In the eyes of the bigwigs who have experienced storms, your fancy intestines, your empty shelves, and your pretense are jokes in their eyes.
You think it's good to cover up, but in their eyes, you've long been naked.
Again, there is no impermeable wall in the world, and the thoughts in everyone's heart will always be discovered and known by others.
What kind of person you are in nature, over time, everyone will know.
That is to say, the elders in the family often teach the younger generations a sentence, which will be popular for a long time.
It's just that at the dinner, every habit and performance of you is accelerating others' understanding of you, infinitely shortening the time to see people's hearts for a long time.