There are things I want to do, but I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to get started. I checked a lot of information, but I still didn't have a clue, and when I calmed down and thought about it, there was still no result. Relaxed, but afraid of a thousand miles, not relaxed, and feel a lot of pressure.
Instead of struggling, it's better to let go, think and do things according to your state of mind, and learn to decompress yourself.
Don't take other people's comments too seriously. When I was in one place for a while, I wondered if it would be strange for others to see me motionless. Actually, I'm not worried about what he thinks, but because some big mouths always spread some things very outrageously.
Originally, it was a happy thing to stay for a while to allow yourself to think and feel better. But because I was afraid of other people's opinions and evaluations, I created a lot of troubles for myself for no reason.
In fact, happiness is to live your own life and do things according to your heart. It is the most foolish thing to base one's happiness on the opinions and evaluations of others.
If someone likes to make irresponsible remarks about you and make up stories, there are just a few reasons. One is pink eye, the level you reach that he doesn't reach, such as your salary is higher than his. He thinks you're on the same level as him, but you're getting more in return than he does, and it's better value for money. In this way, a sour feeling lingered in his heart. In order to relieve the unhappiness in his heart, he can only slander you again and again.
The second is that you have something that he doesn't have. For example, if you have a better working environment, it is not much better, that is, the office is bigger than his. He thinks yours is better than his, but he can't change the facts, and he can't forcibly take possession. Under the influence of vanity, he can only keep causing trouble for you and making you unhappy.
The third is that you want to live your life mode but can't control it. For example, if you keep exercising every day and maintain a good diet, he also wants this kind of life. But he couldn't pull his face down to run and exercise, and he couldn't control the temptation of delicious food when he saw delicious food. Over time, he thinks that you are pretentious, very pretentious, and no matter how you look at you, he feels uncomfortable, because he can't do it.
A relationship between any person is essentially an exchange relationship. The construction of interpersonal relationships is not at all about how good your character is and how obedient you are to the eyes of others, but whether you have exchange value or form an overwhelming deterrent to the other party. If you have exchange value, he will naturally not embarrass you, and if you have enough strength, the other party will not dare to embarrass you.
Learn to decompress yourself and not be distracted by other people's comments. Life is your own, and you have more contact with the kind of people you want to become. A person's aura, cognition, and habits are all contagious. The so-called red and black are close to Zhu, when you are with positive and optimistic people, what you see is positive.
Learn to decompress yourself, do more things when you are sober, and read more when you are confused. When you are busy, you have no time to worry, no time to get angry, and no time to get sick.
In the time you are alone, you should precipitate yourself, read more, write, and play the piano. When one day you can't see the fight in your eyes, you can't hear right and wrong in your ears, and you don't say hurtful words in your mouth, you are living in happiness.
