The other day I met a boxer in the square who we hadn't seen for a long time, and we walked along the square for a long time.
My boxer, who was a few years older than me, complained to me about the conflict between himself and his retired wife.
She said that a few days ago, she quarreled with her wife over whether to put green onions in the leek filling.
My fellow fighters asked me what I would do if something like this happened.
I think back to the past, if I encountered something that my wife didn't agree with, I would directly use violence to solve it arbitrarily.
Not only did he not let himself be emotionally stable, but he became the voice of his wife in the future.
After retirement, through reading and writing, and often reflecting and reviewing, I discovered a little secret:
If a woman wants to live a happy life, she needs an ability, that is, "learn to turn the page".
Thinking that things have passed, turning over old accounts from time to time is something that many women like to do.
When I disagreed with my wife, I no longer used the old method, but learned to turn the page.
No longer dwelling on the past, internal friction, regret, blaming yourself, or crusading against your wife, but quickly turn the page.
In fact, in the adult world, everyone has emotions, their own joys, sorrows, and sorrows.
The key is that we have the ability not to let bad emotions control us, and we must have the ability to quickly turn the page when we encounter problems.
In this way, we can be a happy retired woman.
First, when encountering people and things that consume you, you must learn to stay away and turn the page.
Someone once said: Anyone who consumes himself is his own fault if he takes a closer look.
So, when you meet those who consume us, learn to stay away, try not to interact, and just nod your head to each other.
When you encounter something that consumes yourself, learn to turn the page, don't let such things stay in your heart, and your heart will be free from obstacles.
There is a saying in psychology: "The more internal friction you have, the more likely you are to be in a bad mood, the lower your emotional capacity, and finally make bad decisions." ”
There is an old grandmother who gave herself a divorce certificate for her 70th birthday.
Initially opposed by her family, she later spoke her mind.
Although the children still think that the grandmother is a blind toss, the grandmother insists on her own ideas.
After the divorce, the grandmother said that she lived a very contented and happy life, and finally left the people and things that consumed her.
The old grandmother's story tells us: if you live a day wronged, you will wronged yourself to live a life, and you would rather be lonely than live freely.
After retirement, it is not only an ability to learn to turn the page when you encounter people and things that consume you, but also a wise move.
Second, don't get entangled in the things of the past, consume yourself internally, and consume others.
In the dead of night, tossing and turning, the little things in life will run out of the dusty memory.
Everyone has bad things in life, but some people will turn the page and filter it out directly;
Some people are often worried about it, and from time to time they take it out to repeat the pain they once had.
Since the past has become smoke, there is no need to hang it in your heart, and mentioning it often will only increase your sadness.
In life, there are too many things that you can't see through and can't figure out.
If we don't know how to dismantle ourselves, we can only let ourselves get caught up in rotten people and bad things, and lower our energy and level.
As the saying goes, "the sky won't fall", no matter how big the difficulty is, you have to get through.
Painful things will eventually settle over the years, and there is no need to dwell on pain.
Accepting yourself in the moment, enjoying the present day, and learning to turn the page is the right choice.
Loving ourselves is a compulsory lesson in our life, let go of the past, and let go of ourselves, in order to move forward happily.
Third, accept the present life and accept the imperfect self.
A friend told me that if she could go back in time, she wouldn't choose her current life.
In fact, each of us has a peach blossom source in our hearts, and everyone has had a beautiful dream.
However, after years and decades, the past still becomes a memory, and the present is real life.
"The mountains and rivers are full of empty thoughts, and the falling flowers and wind and rain hurt the spring even more, so it is better to pity the people in front of you."
After more than three years of retirement, as I grew older and understood the truth of life, I gradually accepted my imperfect self.
In life, everyone has made mistakes, but it is also a good thing to learn something from mistakes and make yourself grow.
No longer fantasize about the beautiful distance, the days in front of you are the water and clouds in your heart.
When I no longer set limits on myself, no longer dislike myself, and judge others, I found that my heart was slowly calm, and my life had the temperature I wanted.
It's not terrible to make mistakes, it's scary to think that we're right, as long as we face it squarely and transcend it, we can see a different ending.
When I accept the current life, I no longer sink into self-judgment, and I have a different taste when I come out of the world.
Mo Yan once said: The world is like a book, page by page is turned over. People should look forward and avoid turning over old accounts of history.
Whether it is success or decline, it is already in the past tense. What the future life story will be depends on what is done now.
After retirement, learning to turn the page, allowing others to be others, and being yourself, is the best love for yourself.
May we all have the superpower of turning the page, meet a better self, and live a beautiful retirement life in our hearts.
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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