A person's strength comes from a sense of control over life.
People who can really control their lives will not be confused by the influence of the outside world, and can give birth to a "happy heart" for themselves in any environment.
With joy, everything is at ease. May these 5 sentences inspire your joy and lead you to a sense of power to take control of your life.
01
"In life, as long as you find a small anchor point, you can support a lot of power. ”
There is a very hot topic on Douban, asking: "How to break the stagnation of life?"
Psychological counselor @崔庆龙 gave the answer: "If you want to break the stagnation of life, you need to choose an anchor point first. ”
The anchor point is the point where the ship can stay on the shore stably and not be blown away by the wind and waves.
Sometimes, we feel tired and powerless and can't find our way, and that's because our boat hasn't found its own anchor point.
And this anchor point refers to the things that can stimulate our inner strength or maintain inner stability, which is where our soul is.
Just like Shi Tiesheng, who lost his ability to run and jump, writing was his anchor, and he found the strength to start over in writing;
Like Van Gogh, who was suffering from mental torture, painting was his anchor, and he saw the light in his heart in painting.
If something can take you away from your panic and anxiety, help you find your focus and direction of effort, and make you feel peaceful and satisfied, then this thing is your anchor point.
In life, as long as you find a small anchor point, you can support a lot of power.
02
"When life is chaotic, first grasp the things that you can grasp, and the rest will gradually get better. ”
I like this passage from a netizen very much: "In a state similar to falling out of love, insisting on getting up on time is such a small 'bottom line', which lets me know that I still have requirements for myself and can control myself." ”
In many cases, it is not the big reason that makes us get better, but the small things that we can grasp in our daily life.
Life is really not easy, anxiety, fear, anger always come unexpectedly in our lives, if this negative emotion is not taken care of in time, it will grow like weeds in our hearts.
However, the more anxious you are, the more you have to wake up to yourself and learn to grasp some things that you can grasp first.
Even if you are sad and sad, you insist on eating on time and don't let your stomach be wronged;
Even if you are anxious and flustered, remember to soak your feet at night to relax your body and mind.
Many times, it is not life that makes us tired, but the restless heart.
When there is chaos, do something that you can grasp, and as long as you calm down, the next thing will slowly get better.
03
"As long as you attend, you will defeat 90% of the people! As long as you persevere, you will defeat 99% of the people!"
Do you have this contradiction:
wanted to read, but accidentally watched a short video for two hours;
I want to go for a run, but it's too cold in winter, too hot in summer, and I can't get up in spring and autumn;
I wanted to learn new skills, but I bought the course and the software was released, but I only listened to two classes and never opened it again.
We're always like this, trying to get better, but doing too little.
I've heard such a saying: "It's not life that is difficult, but whether you have the determination to love life." ”
It's never too late to start doing it, and it's the perfect time to do it.
As long as you attend, you will defeat 90% of the people! As long as you persevere, you will defeat 99% of the people!
Some things do not start and persist when they see hope, but they start and persist before they can see hope.
As the Book of Time says, "Young man, your duty is to level the land, not to be anxious about time." You do things in March and April, and you have your own answer in August and September. ”
04
"There's a sense of peace of mind that no matter what tomorrow changes, I know you'll be here waiting for me. ”
Someone on the Internet once asked, is there a moment that makes you feel at ease?
A lot of people participated in the reply:
Some say that it was when I got up in the morning and saw the sun's rays sprinkled on the second pot on the windowsill;
Some people say that they came to the company and heard the doorman uncle and the cleaning aunt chatting about the gossip that could not be finished;
Some people say that on the way to work, the store happened to play my favorite song;
Some people even say that it is the bargaining between stall owners and customers from time to time in the vegetable market.
Yes, when we were young, we were always mavericks and longed for vigor, but as we grew older, we gradually understood that business as usual was the most beautiful time.
There is no need to think about where to go tomorrow, and there are not too many complications in life, this kind of plain and real warm and cold world is the happy moment we yearn for.
There's a sense of peace of mind that no matter what happens tomorrow, I know you'll be here waiting for me.
is like Mao Buyi sang in "Ordinary Day":
I wake up naturally at half past seven in the morning, the wind chimes ring and the clouds are very light for another day, the smell of the dried clothes is very reassuring, and everything is soft and quiet.
05
"Stick to one thing for a long time and develop some constant habits, so that you can have a sense of stability in the face of changing life. ”
Zeng Guofan once said: "If there is a constant, everything can be gradually vibrate, and there is no need to ignore it for the small end." ”
This is to tell us that if we set a goal and make it a habit through long-term perseverance, then we will have a sense of accomplishment, and then we can have confidence in accomplishing other goals.
Netizen @orange一枝 shared his story:
When I was going to graduate school, I would copy a sentence of English every day in my notebook, so that I would have a firm and down-to-earth feeling in my heart, and I would look forward to this moment after persisting for a long time, because this matter gave me a sense of control.
Until after work, she still set aside a fixed time period every day to do a fixed little thing, and this habit makes her feel very down-to-earth.
She said: "From the persistence and anchoring of a small thing, you can get a sense of strength in life. ”
Indeed, sticking to one small thing a day can make one feel in control and determination, which can create a sense of power.
So, go find a little thing you like and develop some constant habits so that you can have a sense of stability in the face of changing life.
06
I like this line in the movie "The Good Wife":
"It doesn't matter how crazy the world is, as long as my own little world is normal. ”
The best state of life is not to amaze the lives of others, but to live comfortably.
Try to focus on what you can grasp and control, plant your own flowers, love your own universe, have a happy heart, and be at ease.