Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Women are like expensive and rare plants, they need a good environment to have a better growth state.
After getting married, a woman's life will change a lot.
Separated from the original family, everything often has to rely on itself.
Women choose different mates and live different lives. Women, marrying into the countryside and the city, will live a very different life.
02. The degree of fatigue is different
A friend, married to the countryside, her in-law's family is quite wealthy in the village, but her life is not easy at all.
The family planted 100 acres of land, raised more than 10 cows, and hundreds of rabbits, and she had no leisure at home.
Livestock are managed every day, and grain is harvested when the farm is busy.
Although many things can be done by machine, it is indispensable to do it yourself.
When friends gathered, she looked older than everyone else, and her hands were rough and unshapely.
Although I can earn some money, I earn all the manual work and hard money, and the quality of life of people in the city is still too bad.
A woman, choosing a husband in the countryside, has to do farm work every day, which is indispensable for wind and sun, and the work will be harder.
In the countryside, if you want to make money, there will be more manual labor, hard work, and all you earn is hard-earned money.
Sitting in an office in the city and selling goods, even if you enter a factory, the work intensity is much less.
If you are from the city and marry in the countryside, it is very likely that you will not be able to adapt to the high-intensity work, and life will be much more difficult than you imagined.
03. The degree of insight is different
The most common thing parents in rural areas say to their children is: study hard, and when you grow up, you must work hard to go out and develop in a bigger city.
A woman, if she has seen the vast world, will live a more wonderful life.
If you marry in the countryside, no matter what the reason, you will be trapped in that small place. After that, life can be seen from the beginning to the end.
The people you see and the things you experience will be much more monotonous.
Although life is simple, there is not much risk, and the pressure of life and work will be much less, but it will wear out the fighting spirit and is destined to do nothing.
Hu Xueyan once said: "There is a county's vision to do a county's business, a province's vision to do a province's business, and a world's vision to do the world's business." ”
Life is indifferent, and returning to the countryside is the yearning of many people.
But when you are young, you still have to have lofty goals, have the positive energy to work hard, and realize the greatest value of life. In this way, after getting old, there will be no regrets.
Women who marry in the city will come into contact with different people and things, and their cognition will continue to improve.
When life insight is high, life will usher in more exciting.
04. The quality of life is different
An Xin and her husband Ouyang Yi in "Parents Love" originally lived a very wealthy life.
Due to the turmoil, the husband was sent to a small fishing village, and the couple lived a poor life.
They lived in an adobe house, with no decent furniture except a table and a bed.
You have to work hard every day, otherwise you won't even have enough to eat.
Exposed to the wind and sun, doing hard work, and taking care of young children, life is quite hard.
An Jie and Jiang Defu have always helped them, sending them money, gifts, and support, so that they are not bullied by others.
But the two of them still have a very difficult life, and this kind of life is decades at a time.
Hans Christian Andersen said, "It's not enough to live, you also need sunshine, freedom, and a little fragrance of flowers." ”
Although money cannot determine true love, women living in relatively backward and barren places will suffer more hardships and suffer greater sins.
People are working hard, and if they want to live a better life, whether it is to develop their careers or manage their feelings, they must go uphill.
Marrying into the countryside or the city, the level of consumption is different.
If you want to buy things in the countryside, you go to the market, and what you can buy are the most basic things related to food, clothing, housing and transportation.
In the city, if you save money through your own efforts, you will have a quality of life and a better experience of the wonders of this world.
05. Summary
Marriage is a woman's second life, and she can choose a man who is not from a very good family background to be her partner, but she must have the heart to work hard and work hard.
If there is an opportunity, a woman should choose a man who is stronger than her overall strength as a partner. He can help you grow and take you to see the bigger world.
Don't give your heart easily, and don't rush into marriage.
Especially a man who is worse than you in all aspects, if he chooses to marry low, he must have enough reasons to convince himself.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.