Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Life is like a misty forest, and people can't help but be attracted and gradually lose their way.
There are many women who will use marriage as a springboard for their lives. thinks that as long as you marry the right man, you can get a perfect life.
Even if you don't have a good time, you will blame all the blame on being unladylike and marrying the wrong person, and never realize your own problems.
A woman's biggest failure is not marrying the wrong man, but still doing the following.
02. Dependent on men and out of touch with society
Classmate Yang Qi was proposed to by her boyfriend on the day she graduated from college.
With roses and balloons, everything looks so romantic and intoxicating.
She walked into marriage with a vision of a happy life, gave up her profession, washed her hands and made soup, and became a housewife.
Yang Qi's mind is all at home, and he doesn't pay attention to how much the outside world has changed.
She gradually began to have no common topics with her husband, and she was also estranged from her friends and girlfriends.
When she encountered something outside, she couldn't handle it, so she could only call her husband for help, and regarded him as her only protective umbrella.
The way her husband looked at her, he gradually became unconcerned from the beginning of his deep love. Until now, her eyes are full of disgust and impatience, and sometimes she doesn't want to answer her phone at all.
A woman's over-reliance on men, taking men as her all, and even being out of touch with society and trapping herself in between inches is the root cause of her failure.
She does not have a unique and distinctive self, and she does not have enough financial resources to use as her confidence.
can only humbly follow the figure of men, trying to grasp the only hope in life.
A woman's biggest failure is not to marry the wrong man, but to pin her future entirely on the man.
Disconnected from society, hiding in the comfort zone of self-righteousness, consuming time, and in the end, life will definitely teach women a cruel lesson.
03. I don't know how to improve myself, and I am used to denying myself
A woman who does not want to make progress will always be in the same place, and she is powerless to change the status quo of her life.
She doesn't know how to improve herself, she doesn't have the pursuit of life, and she doesn't have enough sense of crisis.
Therefore, as long as she encounters a little difficulty, it will be a disaster like Mount Tai for her, and she is powerless to deal with it.
In addition to lamenting the unfairness of fate and feeling sorry for herself, she didn't know what else she could do.
Every time she wants to change herself, she will have deep self-doubt in her heart, constantly denying herself, and creating countless invisible obstacles.
I always feel that I have no talent, no matter how hard I try, I can't catch up with others, so it is better to maintain the current state of life.
Occasionally, when I am ambitious, I will feel that I am whimsical and self-conscious. and then died down and returned to the state of chaos.
A woman's biggest failure is that she still doesn't know how to improve herself, and she is still used to denying herself.
Putting heavy shackles on his body makes it difficult for him to move forward, and he can only be trapped at the lowest point of life all the time.
04. Get by, and don't want to live for yourself once
Xi Murong said: "I always feel that life itself should have a meaning, and we are by no means here for nothing." ”
In life, those women who live a radiant life will never be satisfied with themselves, and will spread their ideal wings and fly to a wider sky.
In the same way, there will be some failed women who treat their lives with a perfunctory attitude and are unwilling to live for themselves once.
She was afraid of hardship and did not dare to face possible failures.
Therefore, I am willing to get by and live in a life that I am not satisfied with.
Occasionally, in the dead of night, she will regret it, will be unwilling, and will envy those who can work hard to be herself.
But she can't use the motivation to support her dreams, and she is unwilling to exchange sweat and hard work for a better tomorrow.
A woman's biggest failure is to waste her time without knowing what she wants. Always live in the expectations of others, and can't find yourself.
She obviously has many opportunities to become a better version of herself and pursue the life she wants, but she does not have the courage and confidence to step out of her comfort zone.
05. Summary
Zhang Ailing said: "All women always have a place to live, not others, only themselves." ”
Women, no one, will be your real reliance for a lifetime, and no one can protect you for a lifetime.
If you want to be happy, you must learn to manage your life by working your own.
Don't rely on, don't slack off, don't give up, grasp the time, and strive to make yourself shine to light up the beauty in life.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.