This mother has mixed feelings, she wants her son to have a carefree and playful happy childhood, and she wants him to be an outstanding boy who can win the competition through hard work. She really didn't know how to choose.
In fact, like this mother, many families with boys have such confusion. We all want our children to have a happy life, but we also want them to stand out in the social competition in the future. You must know that the competition in today's society is so fierce, and children must compare themselves with others in order to get into a good school and find a good job when they grow up. If we don't let our children have a sense of competition now, how will they gain a foothold in this competitive society in the future?
In today's society, competition is as ubiquitous as air. Whether we like it or not, whether we like it or not, we have to face all kinds of competition every day. This is the reality, survival of the fittest. Therefore, it is very important for children to learn to compete for their future. It is very difficult for a person who is not competitive to gain a foothold in today's society. Therefore, we parents should teach our children how to compete and how to face competition bravely.
Of course, we also want our children to have a happy childhood. But at the same time, we have to develop their competitiveness so that they can succeed in the future.
I remember a story about a Chinese couple whose son went to school in Spain. The schools there place a strong emphasis on sports, especially football. If a student wants to enter the football team, it is not the teacher who has the final say, nor the coach who picks people, but has to go through a fierce "elimination competition". Those children had to run and scramble desperately in order to get into the football team. Some children were so tired from running that they even fainted. But their children say, "Anyone can win until the last minute." Looking at the lead now, maybe the next second will be behind. ”
This story tells us that competition is not just about winning, but also about exercising children's will and character. Through competition, children can learn to persevere, learn to face failure, and learn to enjoy victory. Therefore, we must cultivate children's sense of competition from an early age, so that they know that competition is a part of life, and only by facing it bravely can we win the future.
My advice for young parents
Method 1: Parents should change their minds and encourage boys to compete
Many parents think that "obedient" and "well-behaved" boys are good boys, but such boys often have no personality and dare not face pressure. In order for them to have a better life in the future, we must cultivate their independent, bold and innovative spirit from an early age. Encourage them to face challenges, setbacks and difficulties bravely, get out of the house, feel the society and life, and experience the competition.
At the same time, parents should also encourage boys to believe in themselves. Let them see the world with their own eyes and express their feelings in their own words. Boys need to learn to judge right and wrong from their own point of view, so that they can decide how they live, how they learn, and how they behave. When they find their direction, they will have the confidence and ability to achieve their goals. Believing in oneself is actually a competitive spirit. A boy who can't even believe himself will have a hard time competing with others.
Method 2: Help the boy develop his personality
Personality and competitiveness go hand in hand. We need to develop the personality of boys according to their interests and needs, so that they can not only acquire knowledge, but also acquire some special talents and skills, so that their personality will be more perfect. Boys with personality tend to be very competitive, able to be self-reliant, autonomous, self-disciplined, and confident, and their competitiveness is often stronger than others.
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