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Chat is the most important way of communication in interpersonal communication.
However, not all topics are suitable for talking about with others, even if they are momentarily proud or angry, otherwise they will cause trouble.
Especially the following 4 points, don't talk to anyone as a topic, otherwise, others will laugh at you and you will be guilty, which is stupid.
01: Don't talk about family matters, don't complain
Family affairs are personal privacy, and when you tell outsiders, others can't do anything about it, and when you tell your family, your family can't understand it.
After all, everyone has their own position and perspective, and when we complain about family affairs, it will make our relatives hurt and our enemies happy.
What's more, it will blindly ask us to be patient, so that instead of relieving our emotions, we will fall into a more negative state.
Smart people have always understood that they should remain silent with anyone about family matters, and even if someone asks about them, they should avoid talking about them.
If outsiders know about it, it will only make people laugh and gloat, and if it is known by relatives, they will only persuade us to make big things small and talk bitterly.
In any case, we will not be able to get the kind of relaxation we want, and it will only increase our psychological burden.
Therefore, even if it is not a family ugly, don't publicize it, and show others our positive state, which will also allow us to gain more respect and less ridicule.
02: Don't talk about the past, don't talk about regret
Don't talk about it, it's about not taking the irreparable past to heart and torturing yourself all the time.
The things of the past, for better or for worse, have become our history.
Dwelling on memories and talking about those mistakes and regrets over and over again will only waste more time in lamenting the ruthlessness of time.
Excessive dwelling on the past is tantamount to losing the motivation to move forward, and let us gradually lose the courage to resist the twists and turns.
And declaring this helplessness in our mouths further confirms the fact that we are not strong enough and not bold enough.
No matter how many ups and downs there are in life, as long as we are willing to let go, we will remove the dark clouds of the past and let the sun shine in and shine on our hearts.
At this time, we will see that a bright future lies ahead.
Therefore, not talking about the past, not talking about regret, that is, not bringing up the past again, so that we can forget faster, adjust our state faster, and move towards the ideal of the future.
03: Don't talk about ideals, don't talk about ambitions
Ideals and ambitions are the yearning that a person hides in the depths of his heart.
When we talk about these things with people we know well, we will be more or less judged by others, which will involuntarily think of us when we encounter obstacles in the future, and we will become hesitant and cowardly.
If some people with ulterior motives know about us, they will think that we are hypocritical and empty people, and they will spread it wantonly and cause us more trouble.
Of course, all ideals and aspirations can only be realized when they are put into practice, and cannot be just words.
Instead of boasting, smart people will choose to be down-to-earth, step by step, and realize their dreams step by step, so as to amaze others.
All empty talk is just talk on paper and will not give us any benefit.
Therefore, not to be a giant of thought and a dwarf of action is the state and choice that a mature person should have.
04: Don't talk about the future, don't talk about planning
Telling others about your plans is tantamount to giving the other person the opportunity to cause trouble.
Especially in the workplace, you can't talk about your own plans, and many things that fail happen at the juncture when people have insight into the direction of development.
Even if no one knows, countless possibilities and variables lurk in it, not to mention the addition of "artificial" variation.
Therefore, if you don't want to make the future development more difficult to predict and control, you can only work silently and secretly, and must not fall into the control of others.
There is also a group of people, who may be very close to us, but who can also thwart us because of our seemingly unattainable dreams, who think that we are not capable of getting what we want, which can make us very discouraged, feel that we are alone, and gradually lose the determination to fight.
Therefore, if you don't want to be disturbed, don't talk to anyone about these ideals and ambitions, and work hard silently to achieve yourself, which is the most important thing for us.
Chatting, if it doesn't make it easy for us, don't start.
Therefore, not talking about these topics with others is to maintain order in our inner world, so that others will not easily trample on them, let alone let others wantonly disturb them.
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