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Parents regard their children as treasures and pour all their love and hope into them, but they are also prone to care and confusion, inadvertently limiting their children's development and possibilities.
In particular, doing the following three things will deplete the blessings of your children and make their lives more and more difficult in adulthood.
01: Suppressed negation since childhood, exhausting the enthusiasm for life
All of them have been suppressed and denied by their parents.
At that time, we didn't know why our parents said that, even though we had done our best, we also had to suffer from the hurt of the people closest to us.
It's not that parents are ruthless, it's the way they motivate their children, we can't agree with.
This kind of suppression will exhaust a person's enthusiasm for life, and they will live in fear and anxiety all the time, with low self-esteem and pain.
Children who have been rejected by their parents for a long time lose their self-confidence first and foremost.
They tried their best, but they couldn't get the affirmation of their parents, and they couldn't meet their parents' expectations, and this frustration has been lingering in their hearts, and over time, they have become walking dead and lose the luster of life.
They live negatively because no matter how much they struggle, it is useless, it is better to leave their parents to it, and there is no need to have any thoughts and expectations.
Every child has a shining point, and the suppression of parents is equivalent to extinguishing that little bit of light with their own hands.
02: Always ignore needs and exhaust the desire to narrate
The busyness of life is never a reason for parents to ignore the needs of their children.
However, many parents ignore their children's needs on the grounds that life is difficult.
In fact, to a certain extent, inner thoughts are taken seriously and valued by parents, which are far more precious and useful than money.
is like the child in "Yangtze River No. 7", life is so difficult, he can still feel his father's strong love, and he has always had kindness and hope for life, and can express his feelings to the people he loves.
On the contrary, the Daoming Temple in "Meteor Garden", even if he is a rich child with a lot of money, his ability to tell the story still makes people scratch their heads, this is because his parents only gave him financial satisfaction when he was a child, not spiritual satisfaction.
Therefore, when children express their emotions to their parents, they must give them a positive response, so that they can maintain the attitude of life that they must strive for when they have needs, so that they can have clear attitudes and ideas in their future interactions with others, and will not exhaust their desire to express their feelings and become people with emotional disorders.
03: Always overprotective, exhausting the ability to be independent
After seeing such a case, the young biologist turned himself in to the police, saying that he had killed his mother.
After a police investigation, the mother was overprotective of her son since he was a child, from the choice of school, to who to make friends with, and even the time to go to the toilet, and the son only needed to do fixed things at a fixed time.
Under his mother's care, the son lived up to his expectations and became an excellent biologist.
Everything was still under control, but because the biologist was ridiculed by his group for not being able to tie his shoes, he didn't know how to solve the dispute with others, so he called his mother for help, and eventually, his mother made a big mess in the laboratory, and the biologist became a loner.
Because of the big trouble of this incident, the girl who was originally close to him stayed away from him, and he was very disappointed, and turned his head to confide in his mother, hoping that she could help recover the girl.
Unexpectedly, as soon as they met, the mother spoke ill of the girl, and the girl was angry for a while, and quarreled with her, and the mother injured the girl and almost died.
However, at this time, the mother still did not repent, and told her son that it was the girl who did not know what to do, so that she could get her own retribution, and the biologist was angry and killed the mother.
From this, we can see how much of a negative impact parents have on their children's growth and independence.
If you don't want your children to lose their ability to survive independently, you can't keep them in a greenhouse and can't adapt to any changes in the outside world.
The greatest stupidity of parents is vividly manifested in the above three aspects, they control, or ignore, or beat their children in the name of love, so that they cannot enjoy the rights and freedoms that a person should have.
If you don't want your children to become invalids, don't do it, give them wealth and give them time, give them respect while teaching them, and give them freedom when they are loved, such parents are wise and really know how to love their children.
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