The other day, we posted an article about misogynistic demon style.
I didn't expect it to resonate with many girls, with more than 200 comments.
Indeed, as parents, we have been "child-weary" for a long time.
When I read each of the comments, I couldn't help but think about the question: what is the root cause of misogyny?
Obviously, every year on Children's Day, adults all over the country say that they are still children.
So why is it that after Children's Day, everyone is on the opposite side of children again?
Today, I want to talk about it again through everyone's mouth: is it just children who are disgusted with children?
Misogyny has developed into "misogyny", which is not a good sign
The word "misogyny" is really harsh, a symptom word, which reduces such a misogynistic feeling about an individual to a group disease.
The simple three words show that "misogyny" is not your problem, it is a disease, and many people have it.
Although it is true that there are studies that confirm that fear in children is a disease.
It influences our attitudes towards children and our choices about procreation.
But this psychological illness is not suitable for most people.
The current misogyny that is prevalent in society has evolved more into a popular atmosphere of conformity.
So why "blaming children" has become popular, summing up everyone's messages, the main reasons are nothing more than the following three points:
First, parental inaction is the biggest trigger
In the face of children's endless noise, many people are not impatient.
As long as parents show their attitude, even if the child can't stop crying, many people can understand.
After all, even if you have never been a parent, you must have been a child.
However, some parents ignore their children and even encourage their children's loud behavior.
When someone really can't bear it and asks parents to discipline them, the classic line appears: He is still a child, what does he know?
Originally, there was tolerance for children, but the parents' inaction became the fuse of the conflict.
No wonder netizens bluntly said: It's not the bear children who hate it, but the bear parents.
Second, the child is a forgotten citizen, and there is no cost to accuse the child
When public authority, rules, is directed at children who have no right to speak, more and more misogyny comes out.
Take daily travel as an example, what are the bad things encountered by "bear children"?
Adults who have voices on the high-speed train, adults who have taken off their shoes, adults who call loudly regardless of the occasion, adults who cut in line, etc.
Why doesn't anyone blame them? Why isn't there a "misanthropy" to blame them?
At the end of the day, just because children don't have the ability to refute, they are "forgotten citizens."
As an adult, there is no psychological pressure to blame a child, and no one has the confidence to blame an adult!
Third, the spread of misogyny, the promotion of marketing accounts has helped a lot.
In this day and age, "traffic is king".
As long as a topic is hot, it can cause discussion among netizens, and many media and platforms blindly follow the trend for the sake of clicks.
Especially for topics like bear children that can resonate with the majority of netizens, casually standing on the commanding heights of morality to hype up the topic, you can harvest a large wave of traffic.
Ultimately, the result is that the child is evicted from the public space, and the child does not have the right to be in the public space.
Children who enter public spaces must abide by the rules of adults, otherwise they will be labeled as "bear children".
As more and more media inculcate this invisible "rule", misogyny will naturally intensify.
Here, I sincerely hope that both media people and big Vs with the right to speak will take responsibility, shoulder morality with iron shoulders, and leave conscience to children.
Thinking from another perspective, maybe I am not so strict
The word "misogyny" is actually very vicious, and he simply sees all children as troublemakers.
It seems that being a child is their original sin, but who did not come from a child? Who can guarantee that they did not cry when they were young?
Now people are harsh on children, just like the child must restrain himself when he comes out of his mother's womb, so that he does not cry or make trouble, and does not be surprised.
Sitting on the high-speed rail plane must be behaved, adults can shout and gossip, and children will be criticized as long as they speak out.
If you want me to say: there are not many bear children, but many bear giant babies who look at children according to adult standards.
There is a famous saying in pedagogy: children need love more when they are less lovable.
When we accuse bear children of being ignorant, we might as well understand these children first.
Many years ago, it was proposed to try to see the world from the perspective of "1 meter height".
Think about ourselves when we were young, did we yell when we were happy, and if we wanted toys from our parents not to buy them, would we cry and make a fuss?
We are not born sensible, so why be so harsh on children.
Lower your perspective a little bit, look at the world of the children, and look at who you used to be.
Are we misogynistic, or are we used to saying that we are misogynistic?
We always point the finger at children in public.
As soon as there is a child here, the child radar on the head moves.
You will keep an eye on the child all the time, and as soon as he makes a little noise, you start to get sick of children.
The existence of children has become the original sin.
But the reason why a public place is called a public place is because it is for the public, and children are also part of the public, and they certainly have the same power as you.
Ignorant children may have made noise to us, but we have also been warmed by "angelic" smiles.
On the bus and on the subway, when the child who is being held by his mother looks at you with wide eyes fluttering, can you resist not making a grimace to tease him?
The child in the front row of the high-speed train greets you, can you resist ignoring her?
With Mengbao taking the initiative to "feed" you, will you let his parents take care of her?
Nowadays, people who have a cat know that they will be stressed when they suddenly go to an unfamiliar environment, but they can't understand the children who suddenly go to an unfamiliar environment.
So is everything the child's fault?
It's not, it's just that our minds are misled by bad practices and subconsciously put ourselves in the shoes of victims.
Too many voices that teach us to be a refined egoist. But refined egoists will eventually make this society full of anger.
So, please accept that your child is part of this society, whether you like it or not.
Bao Ma broke his thoughts
When anger pervades the whole society, people no longer seem to be able to empathize with the "weak".
This is actually very dangerous, and at a small age, it is not good for the healthy growth of children.
To put it mildly, if there is no sympathy for the weak and deprivation of the living space of the weak, then this sincerity is in danger of survival.
Today is tired of children, tomorrow is tired of old age, when the strong young adults will always have the majority of the right to speak, the living space of others will inevitably be infinitely reduced and conceded.
Maybe today you are free, but what about tomorrow?
Today has 0 tolerance for others, and maybe one day it will be like a boomerang, right in the center of one's eyebrows.
No one wants to live in an indifferent society, please be more tolerant and less blaming.
Giving children more tolerance is not only a kind and generous, but also a responsible attitude towards social development - giving more families and children more healthy and tolerant space to grow up is beneficial to everyone.
——Guangming Daily
Finally, I would like to remind you once again that no matter what doctrine or proposition, we will always attack organizations, institutions, and collectives, and protect "everyone" and every "vulnerable" individual.