Author: Xu Zhen
What's the scariest news you've ever seen?
Seven or eight-year-old children, happily returned home.
Dad brought a dish of colorful and fragrant dishes and greeted, "I made a big dish today." ”
The child looked at it, where was this dish, it was his friend who was fried and dismantled!
The child suddenly wailed hoarsely, and the adult casually tore off a piece of minced meat, fed it to the child's mouth, and asked with a grin:
"If you don't eat it, I will eat it. ”
"What does it smell like, brother?"
While crying, the child said that it was "the smell of incense".
Look, look how he's crying and laughing! Look, he's laughing and crying!
Hearing this answer, the adults laughed louder, and took a video of such an incident and posted it on the Internet, making it rush to the hot search.
The child's friend, is two crabs.
Knowing that adults just ate two crabs, many readers must say that we are exaggerating, after all, it is just two crabs, I don't know, I thought I ate two people, as for such a platform?
As for!
A casual search on the Internet can find a lot of similar news, all of which are parents who have sold, killed, and eaten children's pets......
If the child sprains his foot, the father will slaughter the duck raised by the child to supplement the child's nutrition.
The child looked at the duck that had returned to heaven, and instantly collapsed, and sat down with tears in his eyes and shouted, "I fed the duck!"
The rabbit sent by my grandmother was slaughtered.
A 7-year-old boy was carrying a rabbit that had been skinned, and he was helpless in the middle of the road, crying loudly.
As soon as the little girl came home, she found that her beloved little white rabbit had been killed.
The "two ears pricked up" sung in the nursery rhyme is no longer seen.
She hugged the rabbit and rolled on the ground, crying so much that she couldn't even say a complete sentence.
"Bury it, in the next life, reincarnate as a human being......"
Watching the children break down and cry, do parents find it interesting?
Yes, they really thought it was interesting, otherwise they wouldn't have made videos and shared them on social platforms.
They will feel:
"What's the hypocrisy?"
"It's delicious to buy a few more to raise. ”
"Of course it's funny, if you can't even stand this blow, forget it."
Don't they know that this is a blow to the child?
They know that they just don't care and don't care.
Isn't it just killing a pet? What's the big deal?
For adults, it's the pet, it's it.
And for a child, it's not it, it's him or her.
Every child regards pets as their good friends, children may share their favorite snacks with pets, will tell their pets about their happy and sad things, will take pets, look at the stars and the moon, and talk about life philosophy from poetry and songs.
In the process of getting along with pets, children slowly learn how to love a life and how to be responsible for a life......
It is the butcher's knife of parents that has hit these love, sense of responsibility, and imagination hard.
Therefore, when the news of parents eating their children's pets rushes to the hot search again and again, there are always bad comments in the comment area.
Below the comment section of this kind of news, I can always see sadness and anger.
Someone asked, "Do parents know how to educate life?"
Someone empathizes, "I killed my childhood"
Someone sarcastically said, "I love you and can give you stars and moons, but I'm going to skin your rabbits"
It's not funny, it's not funny at all!
I believe that very few parents will deliberately kill their children's "pets", they will only feel that they are killing "food".
They love children from the perspective of adults, they just want children to eat something good and supplement nutrition.
They use the banner of love, but they never really respect the feelings and thoughts of their children.
Parents keep saying that they love their children, but many times, their love is almost cold.
Love without respect can even become a "curse".
It is not only reflected in the attitude of parents towards their children's pets, but also in all aspects of life.
My clothes have been arranged by my mother since I was a child.
She would always take me to the mall, let me pick out the new clothes myself, and then start picking:
"This one is so boyish. ”
"This lifeless, where is it suitable for girls?"
In the end, she chose a denim vest dress with lace for me. I can't say that the dress was not good-looking, but when I was a child, I had dark skin, I was very fat, like a ball, and I was a funny pig with such a delicate dress with lace.
She ordered me to wear a new dress for school activities.
Then, my classmates pointed at me and giggled loudly.
When I got home, I pressed my skirt hard under the closet and never wore it again.
This kind of thing is not an isolated case.
Go to Zhihu and take a look, "What is the one thing that your parents hurt you the most", and you will gain countless resonances.
Netizen @何捂糖 said this:
When he was a child, his mother would ask him if he was going to the zoo to see monkeys or tigers.
He chose a monkey, and his mother said, "Let's go see the tiger first, turn left in the tiger park, the monkey mountain is too far"
During the meal, his mother asked him if he drank orange juice or apple juice.
He chose orange juice, and his mother said, "Orange juice is sour, shall we drink apple juice?"
Something like this happened again and again.
So much so that he had given up making his own decisions, and his mother disliked him for not being assertive and forced him to make decisions.
But as many times before, his mother still did not respect his decision.
Later, his girlfriend broke up with him because he was too unassertive.
Later, he grew into an emotionless, obedient adult.
Is he really not assertive?
It was the parents' disrespect again and again that stifled his assertiveness.
Educator Sun Yunxiao once said: "The premise of educating children is to understand children, and the premise of understanding children is to respect children." ”
If parents do not respect their children's love,
Then don't blame your child for ignoring life when he grows up;
If parents do not respect their child's choice,
Don't complain that your child grows up to be submissive and unassertive.
Thailand once had a short film "Bean Sprouts".
The poor little girl showed great interest in planting sprouts and wanted her mother to plant sprouts with her.
Many parents may say:
"Don't make a fuss, my family doesn't have money to grow bean sprouts. ”
"What kind of bean sprouts to plant, let's sell vegetables honestly!"
But the parents in the PSA hesitated for a moment and decided to respect their daughter's idea, saying, "Let's try." ”
Due to her lack of experience, the little girl's sprouts withered in batches. But she still wanted to grow sprouts, and she improved the method of growing sprouts again and again.
Despite the shyness in her pockets, her mother gently but firmly respected the little girl's ideas every time, encouraging her: "Let's try again." ”
The little girl in the public service announcement has a prototype. This character archetype, who has now grown into a scientist, conducts her research in Sweden.
It is the mother with respectful love that allows the child to explore more possibilities in life.
In the adult world, hairy crabs and rabbits are all reserves for a good meal.
But in the eyes of a child, they can be carriers of love and hope.
The child's heart has not yet been dusted by life. Children see the world differently than adults.
Adults think that what they killed was only a hairy crab and a rabbit, but for children, it was to leave a hole in his heart and a shadow on his childhood.
This may be a hole that cannot be filled in a lifetime, or a shadow that cannot be erased in a lifetime......
I think every child wants to grow up surrounded by love and respect.
In a parent-child relationship, respect and love are equally important.
With respectful love, it will become a pair of wings for children, so that children can fly higher and higher.