Recently, Wang Xiaofei revealed in her personal live broadcast that since she could not see her daughter, her daughter's teacher would hand over her daughter's birthday gift on her behalf. This seems to indicate that Wang Xiaofei is ready to let go of the mustard between her ex-wife Da S and cool down the relationship between the two parties and their children.
The divorce turmoil between Big S and Wang Xiaofei is like an "infinite generation war", from the "residential incident" last winter to Wang Xiaofei's "marriage proposal to Ma Xiaomei" a few days ago, every step has caused an uproar on the Internet, and even spread to the fan groups of the two.
The parties at the center of the whirlpool are also being involved more and more deeply in this "storm of public opinion".
In fact, the breakdown of every couple's relationship will be more or less accompanied by pain and mustard. But when this negative emotion is amplified, it will not only make it more difficult for the person concerned to get out of the shadow of loss, but also affect the innocent children.
Therefore, even if it is difficult to let go of the heart, the person concerned should try to restrain his negative emotions, at least in front of the child to put on a "reconciled" attitude.
Wang Xiaofei took the initiative to give in this time, gave up forcibly asking to see her daughter, and only handed over gifts through the teacher, which can be seen as a kind of self-correction of this "negative spiral".
This shows that he is beginning to realize that the long-term "you come and go" attack with his ex-wife will not only not solve any problems, but also hurt innocent children. Only by letting go of the mustard can the relationship between the two parties and their children be put on a rational and warm track.
In fact, to resolve this "emotional war", both sides must take a step back and broaden the sky. As an adult and a mother, Big S should also put himself in the shoes of children.
She should not exclude Wang Xiaofei from her children's lives, but should allow Wang Xiaofei to have some communication with her children at the appropriate time. After all, in the hearts of children, the figures of both mother and father are very important.
Some netizens commented that "what children need is not every birthday gift, but the harmonious feeling of their parents when they get along." Regardless of whether the relationship can be reconciled in the end, husband and wife should reach a certain degree of consensus on parenthood to give their children a warm and harmonious family atmosphere.
In fact, the root cause of the breakdown of many couples' relationships is often poor communication and lack of mutual understanding. In marriage, both parties should put themselves in each other's shoes and understand each other's thoughts and demands from each other's perspective.
The true meaning of marriage lies in "cooperation and symbiosis", not a zero-sum game of life and death.
When there is a rift in the relationship, the guidance of a marriage professional doctor is also important. A professional marriage and family counselor can help the client to resolve negative emotions, rebuild rational communication, and find the common root cause of the problem, so as to treat the marital relationship.
Seeking professional help in a timely manner may be able to avoid a lot of unnecessary suffering and restore harmonious family relationships.
Regardless of whether the marriage can be salvaged or not, as a life partner, you should give each other basic understanding and respect in your life. It's not just for themselves, it's for those innocent children.
I hope that Wang Xiaofei and Da S can ignore their past suspicions, at least reach a consensus on the issue of children, and give them a complete and harmonious growth environment.
There is still a long road in life, and what awaits every family is reconciliation as before. I believe that time will eventually heal all wounds and misunderstandings. Rebuilding trust requires a process that requires both parties to face it wholeheartedly and with a rational, tolerant and wise mindset.
Family is the first harbor in our lives, and it is also the place to which we will eventually return. Looking back on the past, reminiscing about hometown; Looking forward to the future, dreams are eternal.
The years that have passed together will eventually turn into memories for a lifetime. I hope that everyone can experience the feeling of home in their lifetime.